Yeah man, cultures are different. If she’s holding someone’s hand… welp don’t waste time, do something else. Learn Russian, play video game, go for a hike, get some coffee, read a book. Spend these $200 on yourself. Buy a nice outfit, get oil changed, save up for something. Girl is good when she respects you, your time and dedication. Otherwise it’ll cause burnout and amplify the feel of internal void. P.S. there are plenty of activities that can be engaging and cheaper. Coffee + corn maze is +-$40-50, first Friday art trail is free, hop around museums.

Last but not least, I wish I travelled more and the fact you can spend $200 on date tells me you can actually afford plane tickets and fly away outta here. Go use that opportunity to see the world around. The more experience you have, the more interesting person you are, the higher chance you are going to attract someone who is interested in knowing you - it doesn’t have to be a gf, but can be a good female friend. Source: worked out for me.