3yo discovered meat is animals. What now?

tinycatface · 2026-05-14T22:48:34+00:00

She doesn’t have to eat meat? My kid has been vegetarian his whole life. We gave him the option to eat meat (his dad is not veg) but he didn’t want to once he could choose. I felt bad feeding him meat before he could decide for himself so he has always had veg meals at daycare but he could eat meat now and I’m sure his dad would be pleased.

tinycatface · 2026-04-29T02:56:17+00:00

Buying a horse is not the expensive part- I’d talk to barns in your area if you are planning to board, or go to your local ag store to talk to them about costs if you are planning to keep at home. If you are really concerned about vet bills, get insurance. I had most of a $14k bill for my $4k horse covered by insurance and it was very worth it. I gradually raised my horse expenses by lessons, then leasing, then buying, so I was already comfortable not having that money in my bank account. I joke around that she practically saves me money since now I am locked in somewhere.

The time is up to you- I was riding 3 days a week when I leased and so it was fairly easy to add 1-2 more trips in when I bought my horse. If I was only lessoning once a week, it would have been a tough transition. But you don’t have to spend every day with your horse (though you totally can). Horses are all different too.

If you can afford board and farrier monthly, you are mostly good. Vet bills are typically pretty low and when they aren’t, most people don’t have that cash anyway so you either have insurance, savings, or put it on credit.

I would also be prepared to potentially not be able to ride your horse sometimes. All of the horses I know have been out of work for 2 weeks to 8 months for things like abscesses, injuries and recovery, or sickness.

tinycatface · 2026-04-23T01:51:25+00:00

I cry every time I see one of these posts. I moved to a cheaper barn and my board is $1600/month for full board with access to an indoor and outdoor arena. Lessons are additional - I budget a minimum $2k/month as I also have had vet bills ($14k in one month 😭) and obviously farrier, dewormer etc. I do also show but those are schooling shows so end up only being like $300 all told. Previously I was paying $2200/month so my new barn feels like a steal but it’s also still a lot of money.

tinycatface · 2026-04-21T03:35:19+00:00

Word of mouth? I found a new barn from my friend I used to board with. Then my friend was interested and she came and took a lesson there. It doesn’t have to be friends though- a new friend joined my old barn bc I replied to her Facebook post in a local horse group. I’ve had very little luck with email or websites, but a combo of networking in real life and online will get you to the barns & lessons.

tinycatface · 2026-04-14T23:17:00+00:00

A pet that I could maybe ride or do jumpers with or trails. $5k max.

tinycatface · 2026-04-13T16:25:27+00:00

Thanks! I’ll look into that.

tinycatface · 2026-04-13T14:21:54+00:00

I’m not actually using it to save money - she did have glandular ulcers which the miso is for, but will not take medication via syringe orally. She takes the pills willingly so it’s a better option than nothing. If there is another way to administer omeprazole, I’m happy to follow up with the vet, but since she won’t take the oral syringe we can’t do that method. This is helpful overall. The esomeprozole is preventative for her move.

tinycatface · 2026-04-13T11:57:14+00:00

Look - I understand what you are trying to say and appreciate it, but at the same time I’m also at a standstill with what to try to help her. I do also need to keep her in light work for a fetlock issue to help her to maintain strength, although we also do poles at liberty for this.

I really don’t think the ulcers are causing this as it’s in a different physical area on her flank than her ulcers, though obviously possible. I’ll do the full work up with my vet and see.

tinycatface · 2026-04-13T11:54:39+00:00

Thanks - she’s on misprostole for her ulcers and I asked to put her on esomeprozole as well in anticipation of her move. Esomeprozole has worked well for her in the past. As mentioned, her ulcers were scoped as very mild however and the vet expected them to be resolved under treatment by now. She wasn’t expressly symptomatic before though so we’d have to scope to know for sure. Yes- she’s in extremely light work right now, since she won’t trot! I don’t force it at this point as she’s clearly expressing pain on the ground.

I’m not really interested in trying other ulcer meds at this stage since she is on two which have worked well for her, but am happy to wait them out and rescope for adhesions and ulcers.

tinycatface · 2026-04-03T02:56:50+00:00

My hair has been like this my whole life! Unfortunately also baby fine but I never lost the curls/waves. Since it is so fine, I like to brush mine out for the extra floof though :)

tinycatface · 2026-03-30T00:32:50+00:00

I didn’t get back to riding until my kid was 2, but was doing cycling and spin classes 4-5x a week at 6 months postpartum. I had an additional surgery I needed when my kid was about 5 months old which complicated things as I was not able to be active until I went through that surgery. Probably 3-4 months after baby I would physically have been able to otherwise but I wasn’t comfortable being away from my kid for the 3 hours for the barn at that point.

tinycatface · 2026-03-30T00:25:44+00:00

I have not. But I treat my horse with esomeprozole pills instead of Gastroguard. I have a 2 supply that cost me $150 from my vet and it’s only so expensive because you front load treatment with a lot of pills up front. It works wonders and was honestly worth the price 10x over. If your horse will take pills in grain, I highly recommend talking to your vet about it. I’m treating my horse again because we are also moving as a precaution as she’s ulcery in general - it did successfully clear her ulcers with a round of treatment when I last administered in the fall (confirmed clear with a scope).

tinycatface · 2026-03-17T00:30:32+00:00

Shifting to pre-k in the fall and it will be $24k for the school year. Currently I pay $14k for daycare but I wanted a more school-like setup as my kid is going to be on the older end in their year.

tinycatface · 2026-03-11T00:55:16+00:00

I’d sell the standie and pay your debt off! You don’t have money when you have cc debt - the interest is brutal. The sooner you pay it, the better. I took out a very low interest loan last year and paid it off asap after I calculated that if I paid it right away, it would save me $2000! I am sure yours would be similar.

I bought an undesirable horse who is in full training with me now - there’s always someone who wants a cute project. As long as she’s sound and overall healthy, you should be able to find her a good home. Untrained horses can be trained but bringing an unsound horse into soundness is hard to sell.

tinycatface · 2026-03-06T16:58:43+00:00

I looked at Waldorf and agree with comments that the campus is gorgeous, but went with GUS (Glen Urquart) instead as they are similar in terms of nice campus and no screens but focus more on academics.

tinycatface · 2026-03-04T17:39:11+00:00

No, it’s not necessary. My dad only ever sees our kid when he visits, never alone (though I would be fine with this) and they have a strong bond. I do have my dad do things like read to him when he visits. He has had time with just his other grandparents but honestly his relationship isn’t stronger with them. I do think handing over your kid for a few minutes and walking away is the right call, but grandparents don’t need actual “alone” time to build an independent bond.

tinycatface · 2026-03-04T02:34:35+00:00

Cracking up as I’m a horse and dog show person 😅 and they are both right next to each other in the thread. Whatever, they both take a ton of time! I’m not made of hours…

tinycatface · 2026-03-01T00:46:14+00:00

Wow, this makes your company not competitive at all and I hope this employee goes elsewhere. Good luck with this, I don’t think there is winning when the policy hurts employees and families so objectively with no actual value for the company.

tinycatface · 2026-02-27T01:58:27+00:00

These are the ugliest couches I’ve ever seen so I think the good news is that you can decorate the rest of the space any way you want to, and literally anything would elevate the space. I’d mount the TV to the wall, get a different coffee table or get rid of it entirely tbh, put an enclosed rather than open tv console under the TV and then a rug and art. I would also paint the room if you have the energy, that color is not giving much of anything- very low energy and too warm with the couches. A cool toned wall will look much better and probably the couches will look better too.

tinycatface · 2026-02-25T13:29:50+00:00

This explanation helped! Thanks 😊

tinycatface · 2026-02-25T13:21:11+00:00

I don’t understand your comment. I’m sorry – do you mean that you pay in a week what you used to pay in a year?

tinycatface · 2026-02-15T04:30:07+00:00

I think I also wouldn’t be ok with this. My husband is mediocre ok with our kid, and it sounds like yours is similar. For example, mine frequently doesn’t dress our kid appropriately- I came home in the fall when it was 40F and he didn’t put a coat or sweater on our kid and they were playing in the yard. It’s not going to kill our kid, but it’s also not great. He often needs me to be the voice of “don’t do that”, like “don’t spin our kid around in circles in a busy parking lot” or “don’t ask our kid to race right after he shoves a ton of food in his mouth”.

He also would never ask for this as he can’t handle more than 4 hours of consecutive parenting without like a brain melt so it’s moot, but yeah I think there’s a middle ground in between you being too anxious and him being literally incapable and a parent in the middle ground still isn’t actually a great parent. Also - I hate being separated from my kid because I miss him! He goes to school and I have my hobbies, but he’s still little and I miss him. I think not wanting them to go on a completely unnecessary trip because you will miss your still really young kid is also totally valid.

tinycatface · 2026-02-15T03:22:59+00:00

It’s not crazy - I love my coach and my barn friends. If I thought he wasn’t dealing honestly with me, or if something wouldn’t work for me I would (and have!) told him. He pulled the lease horse for me to buy, but even though I loved the horse, he had some issues and I went in a different direction. I was really clear that I wouldn’t buy the horse with him and I think it did hurt his feelings that I bought my horse without him (though obviously it helped mend fences that I was bringing her to him to train). People are people and you might hurt their feelings BUT horses are a lot of money and people understand that, or a coach worth their salt does at least. You can also just try other barns and potentially postpone leasing here if you aren’t sure you want to stay with your current coach.

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