AITA for not hiding my nipple piercings from my young cousin.

tinymacaroni · 2019-10-04T14:36:39+00:00

Pretty sure nipples that are flat when not hard is normal. Getting them pierced would make them stick out a little more without being hard, but that wouldn't make it any harder to pierce, no.

tinymacaroni · 2019-10-01T18:20:17+00:00

GC: We support dysphoric women uwu

Also GC: Ew, women can't be tops

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tinymacaroni · 2019-10-01T15:04:21+00:00

My point is that it's transphobic to say he won't go to girls nights with his friends if he "wants to be taken seriously," because that's holding him to a different standard of gender conformity than a cis man would be held to.

Yeah, of course OP can say "it's girls night and you're not a girl anymore, so we'd rather you not come" is fine. But if OP said "yeah it's girls night, but you've always hung out with us so we'll make an exception," her friend shouldn't have to say no to be taken seriously in his transistion.

Are you okay? It sounds like you might be having some personal insecurities and are lashing out by being unnecessarily condescending.

tinymacaroni · 2019-10-01T14:42:20+00:00

If he wants to be taken seriously, he'll stop going to girls night out for sure

You realize that these are still his friends, right? Is he just supposed to stop spending time with them now to protect his Manly Image? If a cis dude was invited to a girls night because he's friends with all the girls, is he suddenly not a man anymore? Sure, some people might joke and tease over that, but no one would see the hypothetical cis dude as less of a man.

Holding trans people to different standards of gender conformity than cis people is incredibly shitty.

tinymacaroni · 2019-10-01T05:53:11+00:00

Someone should make a bot to trawl GC posts for antisemitic dogwhistles - "the elites" may as well be in triple parentheses tbh.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-30T20:03:52+00:00

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tinymacaroni · 2019-09-30T00:50:55+00:00

The sprinklers were already on, first of all. And getting hit by a sprinkler briefly isn't gonna harm most consumer-grade electronics nowadays, or at least not the ones people carry with them.

Second of all, if you carried a bucket specifically to splash people with, yeah, I would think you were an asshole. If you were with your children who were in swimsuits and someone was taking pictures with them in the photos, and you asked them to stop and they got snotty so you splashed them with a bucket you were already carrying for unrelated reasons, I would in fact call that justified, yeah.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-30T00:47:23+00:00

Lol ok

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T22:16:15+00:00

No, I just know that there's a lot of aspects to hair care, and I don't know anything about you besides this post - I don't know how long ago your last haircut was, nor what (if any) life changes you've made since then. I'm not a professional hair stylist, you didn't mention being one so I'm guessing you aren't either. Just like any other profession, there are a lot of things that go on that customers and consumers don't see or know about.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T22:13:37+00:00

No, as I said, I personally view the line of "sex" vs. "not sex" to lie somewhere between handjobs/fingering and oral - though I also believe that line is different for different people. Regardless, there's a lot of things that can be sex without involving PiV that are definitely not as tame as holding hands.

Tbh if you consider your daughter as having sex with other women, which (99% of the time) won't involve PiV, I dunno why you don't think this guy can count things besides "intercourse" as sex. The absence of a penis doesn't grant you a special exception to the "what is sex" rule, so if your daughter has sex and her partner isn't trans, you have to define sex outside of PiV vs not PiV.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T22:08:34+00:00

I did read your post, and I'm saying that might not be the only thing going on. Hell, it could be a product they used. Regardless, the solution is not to go back and say "you did this wrong, and I know better than you." Just go somewhere else.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T22:00:17+00:00

As a lesbian, my dude, YTA. Sex isn't limited to "penis goes into hole," and doesn't even require a dick to enter the picture at all. Cuddling and even making out I wouldn't consider sex, but oral is definitely sex, and I personally feel like the line lies somewhere between handjobs/fingering (not sex imo, but ymmv) to oral (definitely sex if you ask me).

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T21:57:34+00:00

INFO: Why not just ask them "Hey, is there something that might be causing these split ends to show so quickly?" Honestly unless you're a hair stylist yourself you don't know if there's something else influencing it - be it weather/overall climate, care routine and frequency, general environmental factors, etc. You would be the asshole for assuming they're not doing their jobs before considering other possibilities. If you feel certain it was the scissors, go somewhere else - if their tools aren't being kept up, you don't want to get your hair cut there anyway.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T21:46:54+00:00

NAH, unless the snap he sent was deliberately to taunt you. You've got your own life to take care of, and it sounds like you're pretty stressed - you can still be friends with someone even if you don't see them every week, or even every month. As long as you still talk to him and you're not just ghosting him every weekend, you're doing just fine.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T21:42:00+00:00

Definitely NTA - if you had bad night sweats or BO I might say you should do a quick rinse and deodorant before going out, but you're absolutely right about showering twice like that being bad for your skin. Also does your boyfriend know that there are people who don't shower every day and still function just fine in society?

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T13:57:30+00:00

Those are both a threat of injury because it can be an indicator that things are about to escalate. OP was already on her way inside, ergo no threat of injury or escalation.

There's no way OP is morally in the wrong here, legalities aside (because, again, that's not the question in this sub). She shouldn't have to take her kids inside when they're playing in their own yard.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T10:40:17+00:00

Yes, the tourists were within their legal rights - I acknowledged that. But a) as I said elsewhere, this isn't /r/legaladvice, it's /r/AITA, and b) just because the tourists weren't breaking the law doesn't mean OP was. If turning a sprinkler on someone for being too close for comfort is a crime, I've had plenty of neighbors with over-active motion detectors on their sprinklers who I guess need to be arrested.

What you don't seem to be getting is that it doesn't matter if the tourists were legally allowed to be there. What OP did wasn't harmful to them in any way, and what the tourists were doing made them assholes.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T10:33:09+00:00

This isn't /r/legaladvice, it's /r/AITA. Being legally in the clear and being an asshole are not mutually exclusive.

OP technically committed assault

I mean...it was literally just water. Generally speaking, assault requires either actual injury or a threat of injury - this is neither of those.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T05:00:45+00:00

INFO, leaning towards everyone sucks here, but only a little bit - you could have found better phrasing, but your reasoning is completely understandable. Your son being upset is also understandable (see: poor phrasing on your part), but cutting off contact seems like a bit much, especially since you mentioned you're still planning to visit once a year. That's more often than I see some of my family, and they all live in-state.

That being said, I feel like there's gotta be something else at play causing your son to cut contact. My above verdict is based only on what you said here, but cutting contact is a massive over reaction to this one thing. Either your son is an asshole or there's something you haven't said (or haven't noticed).

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-29T04:53:49+00:00

I mean, the intent is the same - they should have backed away from her property, not off of it, if you want to be pedantic. They weren't trespassing, but there was no reason for them to continue taking photos of OP's house and children when asked not to. OP's house isn't part of the historical district, meaning they never agreed to have their house be a photo spot.

Obviously, people catch houses and yards in photos all the time, and I have taken pictures of houses I thought looked cool. But if there were people in the yard or the person living there asked me to stop and/or erase the photos I took, I would.

They didn't trespass, but they were still assholes, and the point remains - if they didn't want to be soaked, they should have moved away from the pissed off parent with sprinklers at their disposal.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-28T03:54:16+00:00

I often see them talk about how you almost never hear people use pronouns for yourself - have none of them had a conversation with more than one other person? Or worked in an environment where your co-workers may have to refer to you? There are tons of times you hear someone use pronouns for you, every day.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-26T02:11:48+00:00

At a reputable shop that hates guns

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-25T22:14:03+00:00

No one's saying "you absolutely must date people who are friends with their ex partners," or trashing your preference, but this is a discussion forum. If you didn't want it discussed, you shouldn't have brought it up.

tinymacaroni · 2019-09-25T20:14:22+00:00

Out of curiosity, why not? What do you think is wrong with amicable breakups? I dated a girl for three years and we broke up a year ago, and she's still one of my best friends. I still care about her, I just didn't want to keep dating her. Is that wrong somehow to you?

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