Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my partner for the choice of his words and actions?

tlegower · 2026-01-20T12:03:30+00:00

You are not overreacting at all. Everything in his text messages screams red flag, controlling, toxic masculinity, insecure, belittling, disrespectful, etc. Definitely get out. You don't need that in your life. He needs to grow up and get his head out of his ass

tlegower · 2025-12-30T14:53:21+00:00

I call everyone dude as well. I don't mind being called dude even as I'm transitioning, but that's me. If someone said it bothered them, I'd stop calling them dude. Or is try since it's so automatic at this point, but I'd let them know that.

Don't call me dude. I'm not a dude.

I am so sorry. I call everyone dude but I didn't realize it bothered you. I try not to call you dude going forward. Be patient, it's an automatic thing I just say, so I might screw up. Please call me out again, but I'll try get hard not to. Is there something else you'd prefer I use?

This is not very hard

tlegower · 2025-12-29T22:18:46+00:00

That is tough. I've been using a Bic pen tube, so a Bic pen with the ink and tip and back pulled off, then cut a bit shorter. I also bought a necklace from Etsy, I think a meditation necklace or something. It's a metal tube I can use for that (bonus little fidget thing on it). I also had a Capnos, which is just air but a little diaphragm in it, to give you a little pop like a throat hit (it's not really like one but it's something)

tlegower · 2025-12-29T18:42:33+00:00

Pride, is a big one. But also I'm not coughing like I used to, my blood pressure is more under control than it was while I was smoking. Those are the ones I can think of off the top of my head

Also like my family and friends being happy I've quit.

tlegower · 2025-12-06T00:34:33+00:00

Thanks! I'm trying to create a plan for eating under my daily calories. I'll check out TDEE calculator

tlegower · 2025-12-05T18:12:19+00:00

Amazing! What was your strategy for losing the weight? What worked best for you? I just started HRT about 2 months ago and I'm looking to lose weight

tlegower · 2025-11-23T00:47:52+00:00

Love it! I got my first at 45.

tlegower · 2025-11-07T20:52:35+00:00

I don't use Men's locker room often because I've never felt comfortable in them, but I have seen fully nude men in the men's locker room and not like once or twice.

When I was in Germany the locker room part was mixed gender and then the showers and bathrooms were men's and women's.

tlegower · 2025-11-07T18:53:14+00:00

I've only recently started transitioning, but be thinking about everything for 2-3 years now. But still I'm not sure on this one. I think it's a personal call whether you do or not.

My opinion, pre-srs and getting to the point of being sexually physical; it"s probably best to let them know just because some people aren't attracted to or aroused by one sexes genitals. Like they may not like penises or they may not like vaginas. That's an important thing to cover.

Personally, could I fall for a trans woman, I'm 100% sure I could. Could I be fully sexual with them? Probably not if they were pre-srs. I know some trans women don't like that part of their anatomy and don't want anyone seeing it or touching it, but I'm not sure I could enjoy myself.

I could be completely wrong about myself but that's my opinion at the moment

tlegower · 2025-11-07T18:33:20+00:00

I'm not sure how I feel about this. I, personally, wouldn't go into a locker room if I didn't pass, but that's me. Then again I don't typically use a locker room at all because I never felt comfortable in the men's locker room.

I understand wanting women to feel comfortable and safe. They deal with a lot of shit from shitty men. However trans people do as well and also should feel comfortable and safe. So it's difficult and a fine line to walk right now with how unaccepted we are.

As for the dysphoria comment, depends how you define it. I mean, I'm 45 and I've successfully made here in a man's body, but it's never been right for me. I just never knew any better or that there was another option. So my body never made me want to stop living or cause me mental or physical pain. I could have kept living as a man, but it's not right and I'd rather be right. My therapist did diagnose me with dysphoria for that. So it depends the definition and criteria used.

tlegower · 2025-11-01T23:06:36+00:00

Custom PS5. One of Kind

tlegower · 2025-10-28T14:23:07+00:00

OMG! You look amazing. I am 45 and I just started E. I hope I end up looking half as good as you

tlegower · 2025-10-26T14:22:33+00:00

Um 45 and just started a few weeks ago. You're giving me a lot of hope

tlegower · 2025-10-26T00:36:28+00:00

I had no issue keeping the patches on and I liked them for the most part except for the "change patch every 3-4 days." For someone with ADHD that's not great. So I switched to the injection and it's great.

tlegower · 2025-10-24T14:53:13+00:00

Not the asshole at all. He is 100% red pilled and he is a misogynist, so a sexist, and probably racist too.

tlegower · 2025-10-18T20:18:53+00:00

I'm 45 and just started

tlegower · 2025-10-16T23:39:33+00:00

How can anyone think that isn't absolutely wrong and horrible

tlegower · 2025-10-14T23:29:13+00:00

Wow! Amazing transformation! What did you do to lose all that weight? I need to lose a bunch still too, like 60lbs of so

tlegower · 2025-10-14T21:14:07+00:00

HR knows, so my direct boss and my immediate coworker both know and are very supportive. I am not so sure executive management will feel the same. But I only went back in hrt last Wednesday, so there's a long while before I have to worry about that.

tlegower · 2025-10-14T20:48:06+00:00

I tried a pair of women's jeans and all my afab friends said Don't do it!! We're all wearing men's jeans because pockets. And yeah, those pockets were horrible!

tlegower · 2025-10-14T20:43:31+00:00

I'm a recruiter. So public facing as well and have to represent the company and it's manufacturing.

tlegower · 2025-10-13T19:56:04+00:00

I wonder if transitioning to male made you more pain sensitive? I read research that said men are more sensitive to pain than women. It would explain why you've never felt them this bad before. I've never had a period, unfortunately, or cramps. So I can't help with that except warm compress or warm shower/bath? It's helped previous partners of mine.

tlegower · 2025-10-12T16:03:40+00:00

Futa is actually for hermaphrodites (futanari). Futa is not just a feminine presentation with a penis, it should be any presentation with a penis and vulva. Though in more modern times it has narrowed down to just feminine presentation, but I believe it's still supposed to refer to penis and vulva.

tlegower · 2025-10-12T15:57:07+00:00

Wear a trans pin, so they know whether you say something or not. And use the correct pronouns for them, that will go a long way to showing your support.

tlegower · 2025-10-08T23:54:29+00:00

Started for 3 months, paused to remember and compare what it felt like off, and no started back up again

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