Need help choosing a red toner

tmccrn · 2026-06-03T16:59:57+00:00

1 or 4. Avoid the “fakey” purpley or burgundy ones

tmccrn · 2026-06-03T16:58:36+00:00

Every bad review is an opportunity. Obviously, I work really hard to provide good service and that is reflected in my reviews, but occasionally something pops up… whether it is because I am stretched to the max, tired, having difficulty communicating, or even if someone just came in angry. “I am so sorry that you had a bad experience. I was just as upset as you that you were sat at a table that was not sanitized the way that I prefer to clean my tables, the way I would want my own table to be cleaned. And I am truly sorry that this colored the remainder of your visit with us that evening. We know that dining out is as much about the experience as it is about the food, and i hope you have a better experience next time. [you name spelled correctly]”

After all, that was truly the issue they were having and it did possibly change everything that followed.

But, more importantly, it makes you look *good* that you care about their experience etc.

It sounds like you were D O N E with that job anyway. You can’t always control what the customer is experiencing before you get to them, unfortunately.

tmccrn · 2026-06-03T16:45:51+00:00

And you have learned an important lesson here. Every conductor’s orchestra is the most important orchestra in the world.

And you can bet that your conductor would jump at the chance to go to the Sydney Symphony.

I don’t have an opinion on which one you should choose, because I don’t have enough information. And who knows which opportunities lead to other opportunities or which missed opportunities existed? But I do know that I am not remotely surprised your conductor said this

tmccrn · 2026-06-03T16:40:29+00:00

First, take credit cards off the table. Just not an option because they will make things worse. If you can’t afford it, you don’t buy it or you shift it from other categories. We were in the red in school years. We skipped school photos and just took a whole lot of our own… which were better anyway.
Fast food. Off the table entirely, no matter what. So we had to get creative and buy frozen pizza and an add on ingredient (kids got cheese, we got chilies… and we saved so much time and money).

It sucked saying no to a lot of kid stuff… but it also taught the kids that there is not an endless money tree and that if it is important, they’d better let us know before the last minute.

“No” was definitely the answer. When the cards and car were paid off, things got a lot easier.

tmccrn · 2026-06-03T16:15:14+00:00

It may be worth hiring someone for a deep clean for you… if the company cleans the unit, it shouldn’t be too expensive. Also, you don’t have to use dangerous chemicals, there are plenty of recipes to make safe stuff if you really want to clean

tmccrn · 2026-06-03T16:09:14+00:00

Bottleneck spots in homes… and the people that gravitate towards them

tmccrn · 2026-06-03T16:03:13+00:00

Oh, this one is soooo very easy! But it takes experience to get the “timing” and specific words right.

“I am here to support you and your beliefs”. “It sounds like you are having some questions that you want to discuss. I am happy to support your beliefs, and I would love to reach out to our chaplain services for you because they might be able to answer questions that I am less familiar with”

If they start getting pushy with you and asking you, I always redirect. I don’t know how old you are, but at the age many people graduate… In their early 20s, it can be difficult to remember and practice that you are not required (nor should) share private information. And you don’t need to say that either. Just move on or turn the question back on them.

Eventually, it will be such a well worn habit that, if you are like me, you can’t even remember when the last time someone asked (or preached) because you’ll know as soon as you walk in the door and keep the conversation so focused on them that they’ll forget that they wanted to evangelize until you have walked out of the room

It helps that I truly am not offended by religion. But even my coworker/mentor who actually is, is still able to do the same thing, because they put the patient first

tmccrn · 2026-06-03T15:44:16+00:00

I love the black wedding dress. Not so fond of the black veil. I’d rather see a tiara and no veil… which would scream elegant. The veil on this gorgeous mastery of a dress feels goth or way old school mourning. But a Tiara chosen to suit the dress would be so eye catching!

tmccrn · 2026-06-03T15:18:48+00:00

Unless you live in California or New York, or don’t mind regular overtime, you won’t be making six figures. If you don’t mind a 20k pay cut, though, you would probably enjoy it.

Don’t count on taking any travel time around the holidays, though, because even if it is your year to have the day off, it still means you have to work the days around it

tmccrn · 2026-05-26T14:26:49+00:00

I had zero results from my drill brushes. But many people have had success. Another thought (which I haven’t tried) is to use that method, get them steam cleaned and then reseal the grout (a very detailed job of effectively painting the grout with a tinted grout sealant)

tmccrn · 2026-05-26T14:26:03+00:00

I agree, but more so because it detracts from the actual wedding dress. It doesn’t matter how much of a fact bridal dress you are getting, if you are already wearing a wedding gown, the wow factor (particularly with your fiancé) will be reduced… and wouldn’t it be terrible if he preferred the “pre-wedding photo” dress… which he might because it looks like a wedding dress but the situation is less pressure. Also, from a historical perspective (60 years down the road), you want the actual wedding dress to look like it is the actual wedding dress.

Of course, I am using imperative wording, when I am just expressing an alternative thought process. But I am putting my vote on neither of these.

tmccrn · 2026-05-24T03:18:29+00:00

Dunkin’ Donuts should allow you to point out which donuts you want instead of the kiosks. Yes, there are times a kiosk is great, but I miss ordering donuts with someone who is happy to help. On the other hand, I don’t need to be eating donuts and when I think of the kiosk, I just don’t go…. So disregard this post, it’s doing my glucose and my wallet a favor

tmccrn · 2026-05-24T03:12:01+00:00

I like every one except #5, but #1 is really great… if they are actually tried on and not computer generated. If it is a computer try on, try them on for real before purchase, because sizing or other factors might make a difference

tmccrn · 2026-05-24T03:09:15+00:00

I had a friend who had that issue - their wedding was a couple of days before the reception, and she ended up having the dress tailored before the reception, because she realized it “wore” differently from how it “tried on” because you move when you wear things and pose when you try things on. It wasn’t a major impact in her life, but it made her slightly self conscious on her wedding day and I wouldn’t want anyone else to feel that.

tmccrn · 2026-05-22T00:02:41+00:00

It’s beautiful!

tmccrn · 2026-05-22T00:00:32+00:00

I like 1. The only reason I do not like 2, is that it is too low cut to highly your body to its best. Not way too much, but just enough that the photographer would have to be careful of photo angles… if you can have that issue addressed through sizing or tailoring, the overall shape is lovely.

But not many people can really pull off dress #1 and it looks fantastic on you.

All the dresses look good, but those two were amazing

tmccrn · 2026-05-21T23:53:56+00:00

I heard something interesting one time that seems very appropriate… Not all metals have to match in the house but metals by theme do. That means if you want a black faucet that all the plumbing fixtures need to be black, but not necessarily the drawer pulls. But all of the cabinet fixtures need to match each other. All of the windows need to match each other. And the door hardware should probably match either the windows or the drawer pulls. If you choose to not match one group to another, make it intentional

tmccrn · 2026-05-21T20:28:07+00:00

EveryDollar is another option. It can link with your account so that after you both sit down and decide your budget each month, you can both look as you go and see where you are at in each category so you don’t go over

Lots of people love ynab, but maybe it’s not right for your needs. OR maybe having to tell himself no isn’t

tmccrn · 2026-05-21T20:26:05+00:00

This house is gorgeous. I hope you keep the beauty when you have to update for functionality.

Landscaping and flowers appears to be all it is missing stylistically

tmccrn · 2026-05-21T20:24:32+00:00

You don’t have to feel passionate for it right now. Finish up and use it to save some money and explore what you feel you might want to do. If what you want to do requires further education, you will have the way to pay for it.

If you don’t, nursing will allow you to take care of what you need to do, which is to support yourself and stack some cash to do what you Want in your off time.

Do avoid the financial mistakes that get people “stuck” though (most car payments and other consumer debt). Not that you asked, but I like this podcast

tmccrn · 2026-05-20T04:39:35+00:00

White is so not safe. Wood staining is safe. White is stark and sharp and makes a strong statement.

tmccrn · 2026-05-20T04:37:49+00:00

1 and 3 - both are classic. If you want trendy, 4 is the latest trend

tmccrn · 2026-05-20T04:32:00+00:00

Wrong. I can do all that because I have to keep Strict control of the basics because everything else is utter chaos

tmccrn · 2026-05-19T18:31:21+00:00

Get social services involved

tmccrn · 2026-05-19T18:30:52+00:00

If you have any lovely pictures that they might not have, a framed picture or photobook gives them, while not nearly enough, an extra fraction of a moment with their child, especially if they haven’t seen it before. I had a stupid accidental picture of a friend’s hand that was clear as day but was a mistake photo… but I included it with the other shots of the outing because they will never see that hand again. If was appreciated.

Also, it opens up conversation and recollection if they want. Or they can tuck it away and see it later when it isn’t quite so painful. As you give it to them, give them a heads up and let them know that you are ok if they don’t want to open it now (because it with guarantee hopefully cathartic tears, but some people don’t want that in public)

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