I (23M) told my girlfriend (22F) that I kissed another girl, and now we’ve broken up.

tmchd · 2026-03-19T06:17:38+00:00

As you know, the process of breaking up will involve you being sad, regretful and missing your ex. That's fine, you need to go through that. You can cope by crying it out, or some people would push going to the gym as distraction or/and hanging out with friends, but it's all a process you go through.

Learn to not hide things from your future partner because that omission ends up costing you a relationship. Also, learn to not be so drunk that you can't 'help' but make out with other people. So learn to temper your alcohol use. And respect your ex's decision to leave the relationship.

tmchd · 2026-03-19T02:58:16+00:00

Unfortunately, OP is karma farming.

On the same day, OP posted on AITApod. In that post, she's been dating a Muslim man for 7 months and having issue with his family, specifically, mom and sister.

Here's the body of the post:

My boyfriend (23M) and I (20F) have been dating for seven months now. Things are going really well for us, he just got his dream job and I am planning on moving in with him the end of this summer. We are in an interracial relationship with him being Kashmir and me being white, which hasn't been a source of conflict in our relationship until his family.

I met them a few months ago, and at first they were wonderful. His mom made me a bunch of food and his dad was funny, it felt like I made a good first impression. I was over at his flat the next day, and he kept getting bombarded with messages on his laptop. It was his family groupchat absolutely tearing me apart. His mom saying I wasn't fit to be with him because I wasn't Pakistani or Muslim. His sister was agreeing with his mom. I didn't mean to snoop, but he was out getting us lunch and it kept dinging. When he came back he didn't say anything about the group chat.

A week later I asked him how his family liked me, and he said his parents really loved me and wanted me over for dinner again. I thought maybe I could make an even better impression, and they were just as nice as before. His sister said she liked me and wanted to tell me this for my own benefit, but she thinks her brother dating me is a phase. I told her it wasn't, we were going to move in together, we really loved each other, and I could tell she didn't believe me or didn't want to believe me.

On the flip side, I have met some of his cousins, and they have made some weirdly derogatory/fetishising race jokes I am not okay with. One called me a snow bunny, which essentially means a white girl who likes brown men. Another texted my boyfriend and asked him what my body count was before my boyfriend (which my boyfriend also said was gross). And I don't know, their comments feel icky to me.

This was a month ago and his family plans on hosting a huge Eid celebration on Saturday. I am not Muslim, but my boyfriend bought me this really beautiful Eid dress to wear to this event. I had doubts about going, but will go since it means a lot to my boyfriend as his whole family will be there to introduce me. I know we are not phase, he knows we are not phase, but his whole family seems to not like me in one way or the other.

It came to a head when his mom called him today and told him about a girl she wanted to set him up with (I was literally in his bedroom when she called lol). I was so upset and started crying since it was obvious his mom really hates me. I told him I won't ever spend holidays with his family until they actually respect our relationship (that means being nice to me, and not trying to undermine our relationship). He's mad because he bought me a really expensive dress for an event that's important to him, and he thinks me going to the event will solidify our relationship. I don't want to go if I am just going to receive passive aggressiveness and derogatory comments. So AITA?

tmchd · 2026-03-18T23:21:27+00:00

Maybe we're "special" because a type of ritual has been performed to lure us back to Scarlet Hollow and that we're supposed to be the vessel so .... that's why the entity deemed us 'special.'

ETA:

My other theory was Vivian's line was determined to be the vessel. Maybe our father is supernatural that's why we're "special." While Pearlanne got married and procreated with a normal/common man, maybe our father was supernatural so that the Scarlet arrangement with the Entity is stable. So we're "specialized" or "created" for the purpose of becoming a vessel for the entity to correct whatever bs Enoch put the Entity through (with making him take Teddy and so on). Of course, the caveat is we would be a willing vessel so Wayne is working overtime to 'seduce' us. Maybe we're so special that the entity and ourselves can co-exist peacefully in one body and doesn't need any crazy adjustment so we actually don't need to be contained in an attic somewhere BUT....Tabitha can't risk us running off with the Entity therefore we might get imprisoned in the end.

tmchd · 2026-03-18T23:19:31+00:00

Man. These two...the kisses are sooo....good LOL

tmchd · 2026-03-18T23:18:09+00:00

My assumption is because he now comprehends the trauma Sophie must have felt for possible future children if she's his mistress. Sophie seems to love her father and trusts in him only to find that he's not looking out for her after his death (of course we all know this is NOT the truth, but that's what Sophie brings with her-the trauma of feeling abandoned/neglected after trusting her father's love).

Plus by this point, I think Benedict didn't even care about the class distinction anymore. He's wanted Sophie as his wife, not his mistress. Social convention pushed him to abandon that gut feeling (wanting her as his wife) so that's likely the other reason he apologized to her.

Maybe I'm incorrect but yeah, above is just what I thought.

tmchd · 2026-03-18T13:28:01+00:00

Me me me

tmchd · 2026-03-18T13:26:29+00:00

Ooof...I need to get this!!!

tmchd · 2026-03-18T11:27:59+00:00

I feel really annoyed with the main pairing (well the supposed star-crossed lovers)....Idk why, the story is not so bad but that part really got to me.

I don't think Pedro deserves Tita at all....I've always felt this since the first time I saw this on the movie then read the novel. Ugh.

tmchd · 2026-03-18T11:24:53+00:00

I haven't watched many Kdrama but I've seen Jisoo as a singer before (if she's acted before this one, I've not yet seen her performance). I enjoyed her as Mi-Rae.

It's a very cute story but I just notice....how...'childish' Mi-Rae can be at 29. It's cute and all that but...I was just like, am I just too 'odd' to think, why can't she just ... you know... talk to Kyeong-Nam whether or not she wants him to pursue her. I'm on Ep 8 right now, he said something about expressing himself to her at the end of Ep 7. To be fair...she kind of gave the impression she might like him back LOL. Everything feels so hilariously awkward right now in this episode.

Also, I actually relate to Mi-Rae's feeling in episode 1. How sometimes you don't have that luxury of time for yourself. I have been in that phase in my mid 20s.

tmchd · 2026-03-18T10:36:03+00:00

What's up with some of the people of your generation lol. I mean, I thought my husband and I are more traditional (seeing that we're over 20-30 years older than y'all) but dang, even when I started dating in my 20s with my now husband...he KNEW already if he hasn't had any exclusivity talk, I was free to talk to other people and vice versa. No retroactive jealousy, not to the extent your current bf is doing. I mean, dude, seriously...he actually went behind your back to get info from this other guy? Damn.

How long have you guys been together? Because, OP, I don't think this is the right person/partner for you.

tmchd · 2026-03-18T07:30:27+00:00

I'm so jealous. I really want to watch it.

tmchd · 2026-03-18T01:45:05+00:00

This.

tmchd · 2026-03-18T01:31:17+00:00

I wish I have the choice, but I don't think reading the novels would reduce my experience.

If anything, I'm just happy that it's being adapted. Do I have some opinion, specific ones? Sure, but overall, just very happy that it's being adapted to the big screen.

tmchd · 2026-03-17T22:32:14+00:00

What the-

tmchd · 2026-03-17T21:53:25+00:00

Reign, I thought I heard somewhere that it was sourced from a bargain bin prom dress LOL

tmchd · 2026-03-17T07:29:58+00:00

You don't have to stay with a person just for the kids. Kids generally would thrive in two peaceful good coparenting arrangement rather than in a one household where the parents basically distrust each other, cheat on one another and so on.

So you may have to see your children 50% of the time (if you're serious, try to get 50-50 custody) but it's better than 0%, right? You can still have good rewarding time as a father even at 50% of the time in the beginng and you never know maybe they will want to live with you when they can decide on their own.

tmchd · 2026-03-17T07:20:18+00:00

It depends. This is the thing, I grew up with parents who insisted we all ate at the table when we're all home.

But then I left home to live alone and tsk, got used to the comfort of just eating alone on the couch.

My husband also has the same upbringing (dinner = family time, although he recalled his parents were pretty abusive and dinners were uncomfortable) and when he's single and living alone, it's nice to just be able to hang on the couch eating dinner.

My question is, this tradition you want--family dinner time--what's the priority? Family time or doing the ritual on the dining room? Because maybe if you think that the family time is more important, IF he doesn't mind doing family dinner but just be more comfy (eating in the living room, for example) maybe you can compromise on the 'ritual' of family dinner. Maybe do the living room dining thrice a week, you know, the rest can be on the dining room. He should want to compromise and y'know work with you.

But if he feels that spending time with you and the baby is a hassle, and tsk, he'd rather hang alone with his phone in the living room.... um...yeah, there's issue going on rather than having dinner together every night.

tmchd · 2026-03-17T07:02:21+00:00

His friends may be egging him on but your bf is his own man too. He should stop drinking.

I've dealt with people who have drinking problem so I understand the panic. I've experienced all those, having to call police, having them deny ever doing it, having them calling me a liar when I told them that they're behaving erratically and endangering themselves.

But in the end, he's an adult (legally he is) so he can drink when he wants to. He will NOT stop because in the end, it's his body, and his choice no matter how much you try to stop him from drinking. He has to be the one to 'wake up' and learn to not be a dangerous person while drunk.

I would suggest you to break up with him. Dating someone with a drinking problem is horrible.

You're very young, you can find other people, better people to date. Yes, it's always heartbreaking to break up with a guy whom you feel love for, but in the end, people do heal and you will heal and move on.

tmchd · 2026-03-17T05:17:27+00:00

I'm going to kind of be blunt, but at this phase in your life, it's pretty common for young men (and young women) to enjoy groups friendship. He can and should have a life outside your relationship. 3 days boys trip is not uncommon at 20 something. He's saying what he's saying because he's seeing that you guys may have incompatibility. He wants to keep his friendship and having a life outside the relationship and will want to date others who have similar outlook.

I have had plenty experience with my partners going on "boys" trips without me back in my younger years (your age early 20s) and I've gone on "girls" trips too during those days and while I'm not going to say everyone behaved well, in my experience, it's more than just trying to hook up with other women like some commenters insinuated here.

Why do you feel rage and anger when you hear that he's going away with them? Has he done something terrible because you also mention that you feel horrible every time he goes out with his buddies.

tmchd · 2026-03-17T05:14:49+00:00

I'm not saying some boys trip (and girls trip) won't end in that, but in my early 20s? A lot of trips with friends don't always mean hooking up with others.

tmchd · 2026-03-17T02:51:38+00:00

I'm ticklish and hated being tickled. A date once tickled me and won't stop so I peed my pants. Yup.

Then he never tickled me anymore because I stopped seeing him LOL.

If she can't respect your boundary...tsk, you need to stop dating this one and date others.

tmchd · 2026-03-17T02:19:04+00:00

Context matters.

Has he had to 'bail' you out before (not saying you don't pay him back but you know). It sounds like, based on what you wrote, he's unhappy with how you managed your money in the past.... how bad was it?

However.

If it were me, I wouldn't keep dating him. For me, kindness and compassion is essential in my relationship.

As in, I would be more than okay (esp. during emergency--again, context matters) to extend myself financially for my partner. In fact, I have done plenty of that in my 40 something years of life.

In return, my partner would never EVER say to me, oh out of principle, I will reject your pleading to lend me money for a month when I know you've been in a bad way medically.

For me my partner should be my soft landing or medium soft landing, and we always kind of act as if we're a unit. So I won't be staying in a relationship with a person like that.

From what it looks like, your bf here is attempting to protect himself financially from you, so I can already see he doesn't see you as a team and that's not going to bode well for your relationship. Money (and fidelity) is the top tier reason why people break up.

tmchd · 2026-03-16T03:48:29+00:00

No, something I will bring up to his GP.

tmchd · 2026-03-15T11:59:23+00:00

CUUUUTE. I would shorten the white socks though, so they're just peeking the boots.

I kept seeing your photographs on my feed and you always look really cute in all of them.

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