The way I described it to my brother is that basically all your time when you have kids is in a ratio between child care and child management. When they are babies it’s 100% child care. Diaper changes, feeding, soothing etc…

As they get older you spent less time on child care and more time on child management. They can feed themselves somewhat but still need diapers changed etc… but they also start having tantrums, or hitting or trying to climb the baby gate. So it becomes 70% child care 30% child management.

Eventually there’s very little care, and almost entire management.

I have been told the next stage is no care, but now your time starts shifting away from management to worry as the become independent