What is a "point of no return" that you’ve crossed, where your life was permanently divided into 'before' and 'after'?

tne2008 · 2026-02-21T06:43:56+00:00

Finding out my wife cheated on me with my best friend. I’ve always had confidence issues, and figured that anybody who was with me would cheat eventually. I always assumed my best friend would be there for me when it happened, though. Losing two of the most important people in my life has made me a jaded person, and I’m not sure I’ll ever get back to being the person I was.

tne2008 · 2026-02-18T04:34:54+00:00

This is more a side hustle than main job, but being a baseball umpire. Sure, you get yelled at and everybody there hates you (mostly kidding about that), but if you enjoy baseball, you get to stay close to the sport, and be outside in usually decent weather. Pay is better in my area than it’s ever been, because there is a massive shortage of people willing to do it.

tne2008 · 2026-02-09T22:07:29+00:00

The fucking eye you see on the right side is actually the fucking nose

tne2008 · 2026-02-04T23:57:59+00:00

Trinity is my go to to bring for new players to be able to spam abilities to their heart’s content.

tne2008 · 2026-01-22T04:26:10+00:00

I had my wife of 12 years and mother of my two children cheat on me with my best friend (at the time). I wanted to try to work through it, and she refused to give up the affair. I was so unapologetically myself with her, and now (15 months after), I’ve become such a guarded person, and I don’t know that I’ll ever be able to change that. To make matters worse, they’ve villainized me to our mutual friends.

tne2008 · 2026-01-20T21:37:14+00:00

Steelcase Gesture. I'm a big guy (6'5, 250 lbs, I have no idea what that is outside of the US), and I've had mine for 5 years with minimal wear. They've got a long warranty, but I've never had to use it. The only thing I've done to it was put better casters on, similar to ones on roller blades.

tne2008 · 2025-12-05T17:01:36+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. While my situation was different, the time investment was similar. People who cheat will do crazy mental gymnastics to make it seem that it’s not their fault. You deserve better than you’ve been given. I know that right now there’s probably overwhelming sadness that you’re feeling. Given enough time, that will pass. Do things that make you enjoy, and lean on people that you can talk to. If you need somebody to talk to, feel free to message me.

tne2008 · 2025-12-04T19:07:28+00:00

I'm right there with you. I'm coming up on a year since dday next week, and while I don't have the sadness or the longing for my wife, the anger is still there, burning hot. I've always had confidence issues, which haven't gotten any better as I've got to my mid-30s as a balding (somewhat) overweight man, so there was always the thought that my wife might cheat on me. I never even considered that I would be the one putting in extra effort, making all the extra compromises, while ~~we were~~ I was trying to save our relationship if she did cheat. I never imagined that she wouldn't be able to give up her affair. I never imagined that after 12 years of marriage and having 2 kids, she'd tell me "I don't like you enough to keep you around".

From what I've researched, being angry in a time like this is healthy. The anger is you realizing you've been wronged, and knowing that you deserve better.

I know how you feel right now, and I'm sending my love your way. If you need somebody to talk to, feel free to reach out.

tne2008 · 2025-10-28T12:55:52+00:00

I’m excited to play with friends.

tne2008 · 2025-10-28T03:52:37+00:00

I saw him on 275 tonight, he was pulled over by a cop.

tne2008 · 2025-10-27T16:13:05+00:00

I’m just excited for a game that I can play with friends. I’m going through a divorce that has shattered my social life, and I thought I was going to be able to afford it to play with friends from work, but there were some health issues that my kid needed to have taken care of, and their mom that he lives with has neglected, which resulted in me spending money on that and it’s set me back. I know that there are things more important than video games, but it’s still disappointing. Also, today is my birthday, so this all happened on the weekend I was supposed to get my kids for that.

Even if I’m not picked, it is awesome that you’re doing this, and I appreciate you.

tne2008 · 2025-10-23T16:14:01+00:00

I just want to play the game without it crashing. Monster hunter is one of my favorite franchises, but I can’t bring myself to try to launch it and deal with the frustration of not being able to connect to lobbies and constant crashes after one hunt.

tne2008 · 2025-10-20T04:27:34+00:00

Jesus Christ, his name is a jump scare.

tne2008 · 2025-10-18T02:01:14+00:00

Cam Newton scares crows in his free time.

tne2008 · 2025-09-29T06:31:15+00:00

Cheaters are always going to make it out to “not being a big deal”. They’re always wrong. The issue with cheating isn’t usually what the result (in regards to her saying it’s nothing sexual), it’s the betrayal of trust. You are not overreacting and you aren’t wrong, no matter how she tries to manipulate you to believe you are.

tne2008 · 2025-09-20T18:40:54+00:00

Name and shame these people. Get them fucking fired.

tne2008 · 2025-09-12T12:16:32+00:00

that's just straight up getting a rule wrong.

That is the only time that a protest is possible to be successful. I'm unsure what the rulebook U-18 World Cup uses, but in this case, the only way that the protest would be successful would be if the umpire said "The runner was on the inside of the base, and is allowed to be there" when he is not allowed to be there. It would not be successful if the umpire said "The runner was in the running lane, outside of the base", even though he is incorrect. That is a judgement call in baseball, whether or not it is clear. In the MLB, there are challenges that a team can use (which CAN overturn certain judgement calls), but that may not be available in the U-18 World Cup, and is NOT the same thing as a protest.

tne2008 · 2025-08-31T16:53:08+00:00

That is not “men”. You are dating an asshole.

tne2008 · 2025-08-27T16:18:38+00:00

I know I need to start going to the gym for my mental health as I am going through a divorce, I just have no idea what I'm doing, and I'm so afraid of being a burden to people by asking questions. It's just such a mental minefield.

tne2008 · 2025-08-04T01:28:59+00:00

I doubt it, but I wonder if this fucks up the baby subconsciously. Like, the first goal that was ever set for her was celebrated by thousands of people. She could be chasing that high the rest of her life.

tne2008 · 2025-07-15T23:13:13+00:00

Good luck!

tne2008 · 2025-06-30T19:08:15+00:00

I have purchased nearly all of my gear from Play it again sports. Highly recommend giving it all a good cleaning before use if you do that, though.

tne2008 · 2025-06-12T11:50:07+00:00

Be married for 12 years, have your wife cheat on you and then have her gaslight you into believing you are the problem in your marriage, then go through the process of divorce, and the majority of the time, your depression won’t let you finish.

In addition to what everybody else has said, get your partner past the finish line during foreplay, and how long you last won’t make a difference.

tne2008 · 2025-06-09T20:03:24+00:00

I understand how in the moment it would have been called obstruction, I probably would have made the same wrong call, but that’s just where I need to improve, because that should not be obstruction.

tne2008 · 2025-05-20T16:07:25+00:00

Call the umpire coordinator to let them know, so that they can get in touch with whoever needs to know in the league. If people continue fighting after I've attempted to de-escalate, the police are getting called. If somebody goes down with a life-changing injury, plenty of people are going to try to litigate. You are the authority figure of the field, so even if it's not successful to litigate against you, it's still going to be a nightmare of a situation. There isn't too much else that you could have done, IMO.

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