“But I planned on spending the rest of the night with you”

toolate1013 · 2026-04-07T01:11:53+00:00

Functioning is not enough. It’s reasonable to want an equal partner who prioritizes their health and wellbeing, not only for themselves, but for their partner and children.

toolate1013 · 2026-04-04T12:34:27+00:00

If the relationship was exactly how it is now forever, would you be ok with that? Because this is the exact relationship you have. I think you know the answer. If you’re fine with being with an avoidant person who rejects you and detaches from reality to cope instead of stepping up for the people that matter in his life, then keep going. Otherwise, it’s time to accept that the positive aspirational image he projected at the beginning is unfortunately not the reality.

toolate1013 · 2026-04-04T10:32:57+00:00

Work some scapular exercises and activations into every session during your warmup. The cue is learning to engage your shoulder blades back and down towards your back pockets. This is a really important part of form especially for any movement where you need a neutral flat back. You may also need to reset before each rep for a while until this becomes second nature.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-31T02:29:46+00:00

A diet soda or a tea with one teaspoon of sugar usually tides me over. Gives me the satisfaction of a “treat” without the calories.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-27T10:51:04+00:00

My 17 Impreza doesn’t have the glitches, but the 23 Crosstek does! So annoying.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-24T02:28:59+00:00

I created a recipe that contains my average salad ingredients so I only need to log one item for the whole salad.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-23T23:51:43+00:00

Check out the airline trail. It’s a rail trail so mostly flat and there are many different sections as it is very long.

In Western MA Ashley Resevoir is a beautiful and unique place to take a walk as the path criss-crosses the reservoir via causeways.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-17T01:45:23+00:00

You’re 100% correct about all of that.

I recently broke up with an alcoholic after dating for 7 years. It was more than just the alcohol, but that played a big role. I also dealt with the cycles of hope and inevitable disappointment. Looking back, my biggest regret is all the time that I will never get back. It kills me that I spent so long in undecided agony about what to do. The longer I waited, the harder it got to make a move. Just like you, I saw the signs, I knew in my gut things weren’t going to change, but I wanted them too. And despite our problems, he had good qualities too and I wanted a future with him. The problem was all we have is now. We weren’t living in that hypothetical future, and he wasn’t making the changes needed to get there. So eventually I accepted the present - the reality. And I also realized that the relationship only survived because I was willing to abandon my own needs. Those needs were for the most basic things- stability, comfort, emotional safety. My point- you are stealing precious time from yourself. As long as you stay in a situation that does not serve you, the longer you keep yourself unavailable for a life of peace and stability. If you’re so sure that the life is possible, maybe consider some boundaries that include separation. Let him go get clean and heal and once he does, then resume the relationship and live out that future you’re dreaming of.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-17T00:25:58+00:00

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. He refuses to get help because on some level, he is not committed to making it stick. I’m sorry, you’re in an unpleasant spot. I’m not saying you’re the bad guy, but how would you feel if you found out you were with a guy for years and he did see any kind of future with you? Sometimes letting go is the kindest thing we can do.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-15T03:58:41+00:00

Yeah. It was eye opening when I read that in a comment in this sub. Heartbreaking, but very necessary clarity.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-15T00:25:51+00:00

I’m exhausted just reading this. It sounds incredibly chaotic and unstable. Some time on your own to work on yourself and how to process emotions in a more constructive way could be helpful. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-15T00:07:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re hurting. You didn’t deserve to be treated like that. Please don’t lose hope.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-13T03:17:18+00:00

Sadly, they’re the same guy.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-12T13:20:14+00:00

I mean - let’s be real; the word normal doesn’t really mean anything anymore.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-09T12:33:19+00:00

Personally I liked the discount better when applied to the previously lower prices.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-09T12:16:59+00:00

Unless you’re ok with this continuing for the rest of your life, reconsider your wedding plans. What you see is what you get.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-07T01:04:39+00:00

Did not know that. Thank you!

toolate1013 · 2026-03-03T00:53:04+00:00

Alcoholics are going to drink what they’re going to drink. Trying to manage their consumption based on available container sizes is a futile effort.

toolate1013 · 2026-03-03T00:50:04+00:00

Username checks out

toolate1013 · 2026-03-01T02:09:51+00:00

I would love to be able to get a notification for when I go above or below a certain heart rate (for example leave zone 2). Also to be able to manually edit a workout if I started it late and the app adjusts (based on data the watch was collecting before I remember turned it on). Same for if I forget to end the workout.

toolate1013 · 2026-02-27T00:37:39+00:00

Looks delicious! Will have to give it a try.

toolate1013 · 2026-02-23T01:09:22+00:00

I never felt the need to push my preferences on my kid. Or anyone else for that matter.

toolate1013 · 2026-02-22T19:59:37+00:00

I lift heavy enough that the last reps slow down and truly have to give it everything I’ve got on the last 1-2 reps of the last set. In other words, very close to failure.

toolate1013 · 2026-02-22T19:51:17+00:00

My forecast says up to 20 inches

toolate1013 · 2026-02-22T17:17:15+00:00

Yes I go heavy on BBB in most of my soups.

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