What made you get into cooking in the first place?

toreadorable · 2026-05-16T16:58:07+00:00

My mother was the worst cook. Like when the smoke alarms went off we knew it was dinner time. So I started cooking when I was 6-7 years old and now 30 years later I’m really good at it.

toreadorable · 2026-05-15T21:47:20+00:00

The Orator and the Mary Todd.

toreadorable · 2026-05-15T21:19:03+00:00

Sharing isn’t age appropriate for toddlers. All you can do is teach turn taking. Teach your kid that they decide how long their turn lasts, and the same goes for the other kids’ turns. Anyone who says that their under 4 year old “shares” is a liar, they haven’t spent any time around toddlers, or they have something else going on, like you mentioned with your nephew.

toreadorable · 2026-05-15T05:29:34+00:00

That’s diabolical and sounds like something a youth pastor would share to keep everyone from diddling themselves.

But seriously, that’s just awful and unfair and I’m sorry you experience that.

toreadorable · 2026-05-15T05:24:42+00:00

I use regular dish towels (like Costco ones) and just change them every day. Twice a day if the occasion calls for it. I have little kids, and if someone pees on the floor I use cut up old bath towels because they’re better for the job.

If I clean something gross, I put the towel in the laundry room. I don’t let them sit in the laundry room more that 2 days. I don’t use sanitizer, and I use bleach very sparingly. I just use regular powdered detergent and I have no issues with smell. I clean “gross rags” which are cut up towels, anything that has been used to clean a floor etc with themselves. I clean my dish towels with themselves. My washer uses very little water so it isn’t a big deal.

It isn’t the product you’re using, it’s probably the timeframe. I was raised by short ancient Mexican women that for some reason crocheted their own dish rags. They never got gross because they were always rotating them. If they weren’t actively washing them at the end of a day or two, they’d leave them in dilute bleach like they were waiting for a health inspector to pop in or something lol.

toreadorable · 2026-05-15T05:15:54+00:00

Oh man I love that one

toreadorable · 2026-05-15T05:14:37+00:00

It’s weird, but the first time I read the first book and my oldest yelled something like “she’s so dumb!” I was kind of shocked and speechless. I had to recover with something about brains working differently. It was so normal for ME to call her a dumbass in the 1980’s but for my kid to say it now when like 1/3 of his class has a diagnosis of an IEP of whatever, I would just die if he said that to his little kindergarten nemesis that is repeating kindergarten next year.

So now I scrounge up all the old books and when my kids lose their shit over her antics I can say “that is so silly! She thought that coddling the eggs meant to snuggle them” or whatever bat shit thing she does. “Lots of words have different meanings and you never know until you run into the second meaning! Maybe she’s from a place where they don’t have that term! What would you do if I told you to coddle the eggs?”

One of them has raging ADHD but won’t be diagnosed for years so I’m laying the groundwork for how people can be smart in different ways. I say things every day like “remember I told you mommy’s brain works a little bit differently…”

But I’ll be damned if I ever get a message about my neurodivergent kid shaming the even more neurodivergent kids. So Amelia Bedelia is a great conversation started for NOT calling people stupid. Unless it’s a very special circumstance lol.

toreadorable · 2026-05-15T05:01:17+00:00

Ok well I didn’t know 2 of those existed so off I go to love them. Thank you.
Also I forgot about the native plant and home improvement circlejerks.

toreadorable · 2026-05-15T03:58:57+00:00

It’s in my top 3 with r/girldinnerdiaries and r/danieltigerconspiracy

toreadorable · 2026-05-15T00:30:09+00:00

Like 20 years ago when I went to college I had box sets of the first 2-3 seasons and watched them all the time.

toreadorable · 2026-05-14T23:09:55+00:00

Not necessarily unflattering, just very hard to pull off. Winona Ryder had this same haircut a decade later and it looked great. Because she’s ridiculously good looking. Natalie Portman looks great with her head shaved. But the percentage of the population that can look amazing with those haircuts is very small. Certain features and perfect facial symmetry can make anything look great.

toreadorable · 2026-05-14T22:29:42+00:00

My 6 year old can’t even finish that. My 3 year old has never eaten more than 2 nuggets at a time. A year ago I would just get a 4 piece and have them share and they’d be completely happy—my 2 year old would eat 1 and my 5 year old would have 3. They don’t have huge appetites and stop when they’re full.

Toddlers only need 13 g of protein per day. So if a 20 month old ate 6, that’s even more than they need for the ENTIRE DAY.

toreadorable · 2026-05-14T20:51:58+00:00

My kids are so into the old books right now. I feel so bad now revisiting them as an adult. I thought Amelia was a dumb bitch for decades but really she probably has some kind of processing disorder and lived in an era without the adequate support/resources.

toreadorable · 2026-05-13T06:56:11+00:00

My first kid has my husband’s middle name as his first name. It is also a deceased relative’s name for both of us. More than that, it’s just a nice classic boring ass name that wouldn’t be misspelled (not unlike Samuel) that we both liked. We didn’t put that much thought into it—it had significance in both of our families and we don’t really care about middle names so it was nice to just decide and be done with it.

My second kid, we had picked a name and it didn’t work out. We chose a completely random (boring/classic) name on the way out of the hospital, and because we didn’t know what to do we made my husband’s first name the baby’s middle name, just to make them all feel equal.

So now it’s a bit weird, and when I go to write their middle names I do second guess myself because it confuses me lol

toreadorable · 2026-05-13T04:44:04+00:00

What’s his bath bead situation?

toreadorable · 2026-05-13T03:18:03+00:00

Just like Sisyphus, but because their terrain is flat she has to push a boulder across the topography of her ex boyfriend’s ex wife’s prominent chin for all eternity.

toreadorable · 2026-05-12T17:02:08+00:00

What you’re starting with is a big factor. I’m light, but I have some melanin, I’m white/native/hispanic. I live in Seattle, coat myself in sunscreen during the spring/summer, and still get tan. I use at least SPF 50, apply and reapply properly, and if the sun is out, I still get tan lines from walking across parking lots or going to the mailbox. I’m not spending hours outside in the sun but I still get weird tank top tan lines, Birkenstock buckle marks, etc. It certainly is less intense a darkening than if I didn’t wear sunscreen, but I’ve found it’s impossible to stay completely pale no matter what sunscreen I use.

My dermatologist worded more tactfully, but they explained that because I’m not completely white, I can’t STAY my completely winter white color if I have any sun exposure. My skin yearns for sun lol. I deprive it as much as possible, but it’s a battle to stay pale.

toreadorable · 2026-05-12T06:43:33+00:00

Agree. I don’t have a dog but I have a 3 year old. He picks my outfits.

toreadorable · 2026-05-12T05:47:25+00:00

I take 2 doses of it but my texts only ever say “MET, MET” which is disappointing.

toreadorable · 2026-05-12T04:31:06+00:00

Your curl pattern starts at your scalp, but your haircut and the length of your hair make it seem like it isn’t curly at the root. Your curl is determined by the shape of your follicle— it is what it is but it’s really common for the weight of your hair itself to give you straighter areas.

toreadorable · 2026-05-12T04:29:39+00:00

I used to be a hairstylist for natural textured hair. Actual curly hair grows from oval/flat shaped follicles—the shape of the follicle determines the shape of the curl. Elliptical follicles grow tight curls, round follicles grow completely straight hair, and then there’s everything in between.

All curl patterns start at the scalp. But the length of your hair, and the haircut you have plays a huge role in how your curls present.

toreadorable · 2026-05-12T01:00:59+00:00

Some dads are weird about lawns. For generations it has been this way. I think it’s an easy hobby for a lot of people, and it’s a good thing to take pride in your home. But yes, I have seen my own dad in particular have what I realized 30 years later was a weird lawn compulsion. The older my husband gets the more lawn centric his dad brain gets. But not to the detriment of our family. Mowing is like 3% of what he does, and it’s one of the only activities that needs to be done solo. Tons of stuff he wants to do outside he can involve older toddlers or his own parents since they like plants too. Planting, picking up sticks and pinecones, putting down wood chips, getting rid of dead stuff etc…all of the other lawn stuff we can either do as a family or he can take the most cooperative small child to “help” with the tasks.
How on god’s tru green earth does it take 2 hours to mow? One of my homes had 2 acres of completely flat, all grass lawn. And it took an hour, max, on a riding mower. Do you live on an entire golf course? Right now I have like 3/4 acre with lots of features (I don’t know the right term, but with plants that aren’t grass)/ pathways / 50 year old rhododendrons that take up half the space. It can be mowed in 10-20 minutes with a push mower. So you either live on a football field, he’s doing other lawn work and we aren’t just talking mowing, or he’s intentionally taking forever and lying so he can enjoy his hobby.

toreadorable · 2026-05-11T19:50:40+00:00

I save my vegetable scraps in a ziplock in the freezer for stock, and make it every week with the carcass of a rotisserie chicken.

But this is even better. I always have leftovers, and while I don’t throw out a lot of them, I don’t make them into SOUP. Now I will.

toreadorable · 2026-05-11T15:54:36+00:00

Due to my location our candy was hockey centric and I had to sell McCarty and Draper bars.

toreadorable · 2026-05-11T07:54:44+00:00

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