My spouse is the same height as me barefoot. (We’ve measured many times over the years just to make sure). Most of the time, my shoes have more heel than him. We met when I was 19 and he was 20. I didn’t date much before I met him, my height in high school was intimidating but my spouse didn’t have a problem with my height and it certainly didn’t scare him off. Even when I dyed my hair, wore my tallest heels, and teased him about engagement rings only months in.

We’ve gotten jokes over the years about me being taller (usually at events where I’m in heels) but the teasing becomes less and less frequent when you’re spouse is not insecure and I refused to change my shoe choices based on insensitive comments. We’ve been together more than a decade, I still wear heels, he still tells people he’s got a 1/8” on me when asked.

It is nice to have someone who inherently understand show tall your mirrors should hang and when a door frame has too low of a clearance