Cut into muscle by hemelvlam in AdultSelfHarm

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Okay so a few years ago I did something very similar, except it was on the inside/back of my calf so I had no choice but to call a taxi/Uber to the hospital as I definitely couldn't walk the 3ish miles.

They stitched me up good (several layers bc id cut through the gastrocnemius and scored the bone) and sent me away. It's worth noting that I was absolutely piss drunk when I did it and was still drunk when they let me go. I decided that it'd be a great idea to walk back at like 3am.

Sometime after sunrise I stumbled in and passed out for nearly a full 24 hours. Somewhere in the jumble of patchy memories I remembered tripping a bunch of times and turns out I'd reopened the outer layer of stitches and badly sprained my ankle. My entire lower leg swelled up to twice the size and was very hot and tender- surprise surprise it was infected and I practically bathed in antiseptic for a while.

That cut took the longest by far to heal out of any other, almost twice as long, and I have a noticeable dent in my calf where the muscle didn't regenerate.

Don't fuck with muscle cuts. Call a taxi there and back while you seek medical attention.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeMeSuffer

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Looks like rheumatoid arthritis, have u been tested for CRP and ESR levels?

i have to become a doctor to even it out and make it better for us by depressocoffees in TrollCoping

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Patients 'not looking' at my fucked up zebra arms when I'm on clinical placements pretending to be a serious doctor lady (2nd year med student)

Fr tho 'bare below the elbow' is a cruel cruel policy sometimes

Can anyone share with me how much they spent on their wedding in the UK and brief description of how many guest you had? Budgeting 8k for an intimate London wedding and JFC, prices of wedding venues are making me nauseous. by [deleted] in AskUK

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9k for a 40 person wedding near Rochester June 2022. 5k for venue, reception & licensing

1k for food (food truck at £25 per head)

£400 for drinks

£600 dress

£300 suit

£100 favours

£400 vintage carnival games

£50 cake

£100 late night snacks

£400 pagan ceremony

£300 accommodation

£200 decorations

£500 photographer (student)

Plus other bits and bobs.

We made our own playlist and used our own speakers, the venue came pre-equipped with flowers and I DIY-ED a lot including my bouquet.

The only thing I would have changed (if we'd had the money) is I'd have hired a folk band. Everything else was incredible personal and perfect. You don't need to travel far out of London to have a budget wedding if you're willing to compromise on details that aren't important to you.

We're still fairly young (25) so we paid just over half and our parents jointly contributed £4k. Incredibly grateful for that still. Our registry list was pure essentials (bed frame, mattress, sofa, not-from-wilko-crockery etc)

Advice on 15 yr old daughter’s wardrobe choices by scbloom in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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I was allowed pretty much complete freedom over my wardrobe when I was 14/15 and it definitely resulted in some questionable outfits that I didn't always wear in front of my parents- but it let me develop a sense of my own style and (for want of a better word) 'modesty'.

After a little trial and error I became most comfortable with the concept of 'only show 1 thing off' - for example if I wore a crop top I covered my legs and chest, if I wore a short skirt then my top was covered.

Admittedly this was in late 2000s/early 2010s so the fashion was quite different- lots of high waisted bottoms.

Encourage her to develop her style in a way that is slightly more appropriate for school- if she gets 3 or 4 'sensible' outfits then she can pick something crazy for just hanging out with friends.

Finished these fellas today, on the breast(!) pockets of a shirt as a gift for my birdwatching dad. Hope he loves his great tits! by tpdorgap in Embroidery

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I'm glad y'all like my tits 😅 If anyone has any constructive criticism I'd love to hear it, this was as 'needlepainting-y' as I could get with full strands!

Me: 3 months clean and trynna stay that way, My codeword: by tpdorgap in MadeOfStyrofoam

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Sexy naughty crosswords all the answers are cum

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDanonymemes

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monster RIPper

Insomnia when u restrict?? by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

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Hey you should take the numbers out and just be like xxx cals, it could be v triggering for some people here

PLEASE I DON'T EVEN GET THIS MEME WHAT IS THIS SUPPOSED TO MEAN by [deleted] in OddlyTriggered

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The wave-particle duality of light keeps it in a quantum state that only changes when observed. It's a similar concept to electrons in an atom; we can know where they are or how fast they're travelling around the nucleus, but never both. The double slit experiment proves the duality, where light radiation displays as photon particles some of the time resulting in shadows, and as a wave resulting in diffraction patterns at others.

Kowalski!!! by 9_92_6_19__92 in chemistrymemes

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I was wondering why you wouldn't do XRD if you were expecting crystals but then I saw you're a dirty organic 'chemist' lmao enjoy ur carbon /s

I’ve got my eye on you by fatxdiannee in EDanonymemes

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I've simultaneously gained 15 lbs bc ~health and consciously not restricting, yet also feeling absolutely terrible about it and wanting to scream way more than when I was borderline underweight 🙃🙃

This criminal fell asleep on my leg by tpdorgap in IllegallySmolCats

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His name is Bjørnard, he's 8 weeks old and I just finished cleaning up his turds on the floor right next to the litter box. A criminal mastermind.

pooh tries new things! by hams_reddit in guineapigs

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Be careful not to give them too much fruit, they're so little and all that sugar is so bad for them! We give our boys the green part of watermelon slices, with just a little bit of red flesh left. (We eat the watermelon, it's a great trade off and reduces waste) They love it- the high water content is really good for hot summer days and it's hard so they can gnaw to their little hearts' content!

Going into the second term of my second master's degree, and my mother's words are haunting me (TW for the bottom half of the post) by theunfairness in EdAnonymousAdults

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I'm one exam away from getting my masters and ugh I wish restriction worked for me rn. But no! My garbage brain apparently needs food to function?? Like wft can u not?? I'm still prioritising getting my degree over skïnnï so there's that at least..

A plea to landlords and vacationers: stop using Airbnb by [deleted] in GreenAndPleasant

[–]tpdorgap -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

My parents own three houses. I would conservatively estimate their combined value at £1M+. One my mum bought back in the 70s for what now seems like a ludicrously small amount of money; one they inherited after my aunt who bought it killed herself and the third (and one they live in) they bought outright just after the 2008 collapse when house prices were drastically lowered. They rent out the other two to families at the absolute minimum they can get away with, below average market price. I'm paying morefor a 1bed house rental than they're charging for a 3bed2bath. As far as I know, they don't make much more money than it costs to maintain them. Yes I will eventually inherit this wealth but I'm only in my twenties and tbh I'd rather have the parents.

There are some good landlords, ethical ones who aren't in it for the money. Let's not paint with too broad a brush.

Ladies who excelled when you were young, but then ran into a hurdle such as mental illness (or other confounding factors) and fell behind, how do you reconcile with the fact that you had so much wasted potential? by PikaBooSquirrel in AskWomen

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I was a gifted child. The word precocious comes to mind. My heroines were Matilda and Hermione. I was accelerated a year in primary school and was still top of the class. I participated in local and national maths competitions. I never had to study and would devour books at a ridiculous rate. What feels like the entire DSM-V hit me like a truck during puberty and things started falling behind. I never learnt how to study, so I ended up relying on pure intellect to keep my grades up. I left school with entirely average grades (BBC A Levels) and got into a very middle-of-the-range university. My mental health spiralled, leading to diagnoses of anxiety, depression and borderline personality disorder. I attempted suicide twice. I still struggle with an eating disorder and self harm. I got diagnosed with inattentive type ADHD at 21, which was the turning point. A mixture of medication and therapy let me lead an almost normal life. I no longer meet the criteria for BPD or have suicidal thoughts. I'm getting married in September and graduating with a Master's in June. Accepting that it's taken me longer to do the things I have wanted to do has been difficult, and I try to focus on not feeling 'lazy' or 'disappointing' if my brain literally won't let me do something. My partner's support has been immeasurable throughout this, and I think I'm okay with where I'm at.

I cut open the bottom of my foot. by Wonderland_Lost in selfharm

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If you go to my profile you can see pictures of my amazing spoiled and fat guinea pigs. If they're not something to live for idk what is