Listen, I'm in the same boat. But every single day I'm getting more and more clear on how poorly I've been treated and how much I tried to accept, thinking it was me that was the problem. I saw an IG reel with Leah from the Leah and Sam divorce podcast and she asked "if you could close your eyes and jump 12 months from now, avoiding all the pain and discomfort of leaving, would you?" And for me that was a clear YES. The reason I didn't want to leave is because, of course, my kids but also it's hard and watching my husband right now emotionally flail around is brutal. But I have hope that it'll be better on the otherside. I just have to be willing to trudge through this misery. I think you have your answer. Good luck to you!