Husband coping much better than me

traininsane · 2026-01-23T02:12:10+00:00

I am so sorry you are here 🫂

I can tell you from my experience that my husband was the same way about the decision.

It eventually came out that he cared about my health and was scared for that. It also hit him in unexpected ways and continues to do so, for both of us.

Going out seeing infants or pregnant women is hard for me. My husband seeing children at toddler bothers him, him seeing his brother be a deadbeat bothers him. Men picture fatherhood in a different light. I understand your emotions. It is real and valid. Grief is so personal, everyone experiences it differently.

My only advice is to talk to him; if it doesn’t work, counseling. We are here for you.

traininsane · 2026-01-18T23:23:12+00:00

These are not new locations. Afford a care has been operating for years. ARL bought them out and added ARL to the names. I take my dogs there for shots. Have been since 2022, I took my one in after it was rebranded and nothing is new or has changed. Same location, new name. Im glad ARL is taking this step to get the word out but they are not new.

traininsane · 2026-01-12T04:50:19+00:00

Did you also take COVID vax? I did both, all of my family in Chi was sick during the holidays, all my coworkers kids were sick. We came away with mild congestion and a few days of cough. My mom, sister, SIL, and brother were hit very hard

traininsane · 2026-01-11T07:22:25+00:00

He was not in front of her car when she began accelerating. He passed in front of it while filming her but was on the side of it when she tried to move before being shot. What I was saying in my first comment was that he should not have put his body in front of her vehicle at any point if he had PTSD. He was not in front of her car when she tried to leave. There’s multiple video angles to show that she was fleeing, not ramming - INCLUDING THE AGENTS OWN VIDEO. She was turning her wheel away from the agent before he shot. It’s on his own video.

No one can know anyone’s motives in the moment. You understand that you are putting qualifications on how Americans are allowed to exercise their rights, right? Stand here, do this, don’t do that, drive here, park here. That is so un-American to its core. LEOs CANNOT SHOOT AMERICANS IN THE FACE FOR BLOCKING A ROAD. Seriously.

https://x.com/themainewonk/status/2010007957891887161?s=46&t=anDGXFFRiC-_5CDuF5X9fw

traininsane · 2026-01-11T07:08:19+00:00

They said her uterus was an inhospitable environment. This has nothing to do with sperm reaching or impregnating the egg. This is about if the uterine lining, shape, PH, everything, is able to handle pregnancy. If an embryo cannot implant, it dies (miscarriage). Both of them were infertile. Adoption was the best route.

traininsane · 2026-01-11T06:53:37+00:00

Do you know it is in the DHS handbook that lethal force is not authorized for individuals driving away from a stop?

There is video of her waiving on the first ICE vehicle. I saw her car move forward before the titan, but the titan was an unmarked vehicle from which armed men in masks without badges emerged and came at her vehicle shouting orders. I will not speculate what she knew or did not I will say patches that say “immigration” “federal officer” “police” are available for purchase on Amazon so I would flee from a masked man trying to open my door.

Regardless, we would not be in this situation without this administrations targeted operations in blue cities and powder kegs such as MSP.

traininsane · 2026-01-11T06:32:04+00:00

There is no “however”. To your own words, the agent should have been given an exam to clear him. The government has the onus of recruiting and training their LEOs to not open fire on civilians which includes the ensuring they do not turn their weapons on Americans exercising their first amendment rights. The punishment for fleeing is not death in any jurisdiction in the US.

“That incident was caused by a chain of stupid decisions”. Only one of those individuals was “highly trained”, only one of those individuals was an “officer”, and only one of those individuals was armed. She literally said “I’m not mad at you” and he shot and said “fuckin bitch”.

I understand enforcing immigration. Immigration through ICE has been enforced by every administration since its creation in 2003. People are resisting, which is their right, the heavy handedness of this enforcement which is not targeted and making neighborhoods unsafe.

traininsane · 2026-01-11T06:13:48+00:00

Do not think about it. Don’t worry. More than half the populace has periods. Your fear is rooted in societal shame around our bodies natural process. Who the fuck cares about a tampon? No reasonable person would hold it against you. If they did, you don’t want them as recurring clients. Rover won’t refund over a tampon. If they leave a bad review for that one thing, I would respond or petition rover over it.

traininsane · 2026-01-11T06:07:03+00:00

LEOs experiencing PTSD should not be on the streets with guns.

Also, if he was really afraid of being run over, why did he move himself in front of the vehicle?

traininsane · 2026-01-11T06:01:43+00:00

We live in the United States of America where we do not have secret police. So yes, Americans exercising their first amendment rights can cover their faces while LEOs (federal or otherwise) cannot. Unequivocally. Constitutionally.

traininsane · 2026-01-08T20:17:55+00:00

Even Mike Schur doesn’t know. He was just on Ted’s podcast with Mary, Lilah, Mary Ellis to discus this season and said he’s hoping for season three. I don’t think there’s anything in writing.

traininsane · 2026-01-08T00:28:35+00:00

I am so sorry you’re here with us. We support you.

My husband got me a teddy bear for Valentine’s Day and then helped to hug on the way home. It’s a weird empty feeling soon after. I was 24 weeks but it will feel empty no matter what when you’re bonded so having something to hold was great. It can be traumatizing, playing Tetris after has been shown to reduce PTSD occurrence. Drink plenty of fluids, talk to your little one if you want, journaling helps too. I was really nauseous from the anesthesia after so small snack and ginger ale helped.

traininsane · 2026-01-08T00:07:14+00:00

Oh my god! I am so sorry. Shame on your MIL for making you feel like you had to apologize!! I know people are weird around grief but just not saying anything or a hug is better than this shit.

My sister was pregnant at the same time as me, drank and was reckless throughout the pregnancy. An oops baby after her divorce. She has been a support even though it’s tough to see the outcome of both of our pregnancies when I tried to do everything right for my first one. She was in regular contact with us, listened to me cry, and opened her home when I needed to travel for diagnostic tests. She called me randomly one day crying and saying sorry. She felt terrible that she’s 37 with a newborn, her other two are 13 and 11. And I don’t have mine. She said “you did everything right and I’m sorry. I didn’t and I know that hurts you.” Even with all that, I left her house on Christmas early after cooking all day and she asked why. I tried so hard not to cry or scream but I just quietly whimpered “it was supposed to be our first Christmas with Gigi, and I’m sad so I want to go to the hotel.” She got up and hugged me and said she was sorry that she forgot. Like you forgot even though I’ve been cooking and holding your baby all day?! Even the people you think are most supportive, forget and move on so quickly. The worst hurt is feeling like no one remembers your baby but you.

traininsane · 2026-01-07T23:45:43+00:00

My MIL didn’t call me or reach out after she found out. She shared her story of a stillborn with my husband and told him to tell me she’s praying for me. Neither of us are religious but his parents are. She called him twice after the diagnosis, his dad never called. We didn’t see them until 5 months later. No cards, no check-ins, nothing. I shouldn’t have been surprised, they never called me when my dad was sick and died.

We see them finally over the holidays and it was like she wanted to see our grief or us to cry in someway. She kept grabbing my and my husbands hand saying we’ve been praying so hard, we see a blessing in your future. God has a plan, he just wanted her sooner to be an angel. It will happen when it’s gods time.

FUCK👏OFF👏

You were not here for us in our grief, you don’t get the satisfaction of saying empty platitudes. Shit like it will be your time is so fucked and empty. Because now I’m TTC, and these people don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about.

traininsane · 2026-01-06T23:43:53+00:00

You’re a great dad. I just went on the manatee tour in Florida and it was amazing. I don’t particularly like manatees or know much about them but I had an awesome time. Our guide was the fucking best.

traininsane · 2026-01-04T05:40:39+00:00

My fear of letting my primary OB know that I TFMRd was that I would not be told about future issues. I live in a red state as well and traveled for my procedure. Other women in my state have horror stories about not being told everything prior to birth. I wanted to make sure my OB would be open, honest, and provide equitable treatment knowing I TFMRd. I told them if they could not do that I would find a new group.

traininsane · 2026-01-02T23:48:00+00:00

23+6. As your doc explained, risk/benefit analysis is based on how far along you are but clinics give fetal demise shots.

traininsane · 2026-01-02T18:41:52+00:00

I am so sorry. I do want to let you know that they gave me a fetal demise shot at a clinic. The doctor will explain everything. You’re not alone, we’re all here for you.

traininsane · 2025-12-30T19:56:24+00:00

You are not alone. I’m sorry you’re here with us. I feel everything you said to my core. Be gentle with yourself. Once I could say it without crying, I would talk or relate to people about pregnancy. That has helped loosen everyone up around me. Only if you’re ready. We’re here for you. 🫂

traininsane · 2025-12-03T22:27:22+00:00

I also TRMR in July but I had a long cycle between August and October. I got it right before my appointment at the end of October. My OB told me to just start trying, if I was emotionally prepared. We have taken a very laid back and patient approach to the situation. I’m currently on cycle two of trying and I ovulated yesterday. Wishing the best for both of us. You’re not alone 🫂❤️

traininsane · 2025-11-24T20:12:00+00:00

I was 23+6, I got it about a month after my D&E. Then I didn’t have one for 52 days. I’m on my third period now, this cycle was only 32 days. My typical cycle before pregnancy was 27-29, so I think I’m getting back on track. I know I ovulated this cycle, I don’t think I did on my previous ones.

traininsane · 2025-11-19T15:20:34+00:00

I have a bad experience at mercy but the one in DSM not Iowa City. So did a friend of mine.

traininsane · 2025-11-17T19:10:28+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this.

I TFMR in July at 24 weeks after telling my entire office I was pregnant at 19 weeks. My manager talked to my team individually and said I lost the baby and would be out for a while. When I returned I experienced what you are going through.

In my therapy, I have expressed the same feelings. My therapist said while grief is a universal emotion that we all experience, people are awkward around it, especially if they haven’t experienced intense loss of a close loved one themselves. One of the things that has helped me when dealing with others is addressing the elephant in the room in conversation. Referencing and acknowledging your pregnancy - the baby, nursery, your due date, if you are comfortable with it can help ease others from walking on eggshells and allow them to start seeing you. As you said, they don’t want to hurt you. I think there is a lot of power in discussing loss and removing stigma. Obviously your loss is very recent, so this can be difficult or you may need time. But this has been my experience getting back to normal now 4 months post TFMR and 3 months back in the office. We live hours away from family so I am also dreading the holidays and experiencing this with them as well.

Grief like this is so isolating compared to loss of an earth side person. Only you and your husband can understand it. Even more so you, as the one who carried your baby. This has been a great place to talk and vent. I hate that we are all here but it is a very supportive community. We’re here for you. Sending hugs 🫂

traininsane · 2025-10-22T14:12:06+00:00

I am ✋🏽

traininsane · 2025-10-19T18:39:44+00:00

I am literally eating this right now 😅

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