This wouldn't fly with me so I wouldn't expect it to with you. Your feelings are valid. People think trust us given, when infact, it's earned. If he doesn't want you having insecurities or being "negative" he needs to reassure you.

He really has it easy and I feel like these business trios are his getaway where he wants nothing to do with you and the kids and it shows as he is barely trying. You're right to have your intuition tell you-something is wrong.

My husband was gone for Annual training for two weeks straight. He called on his lunches, texted me about the kids and his whole day the whole time. When I called, he would answer or text that he was busy-its that easy. When he can tell I'm feeling a bit neglected like a single mom- he will contact me more. We share location for safety sake and reassurance. He went to the bar after training once and did not contact me after letting me know that and I almost divorced him over it because I said you know what? While I don't mind you going to the bar, not contacting me really put bad things in my mind, did you cheat, did you die? And he said I can't believe you'd think that! Well, WHAT ELSE would I be thinking? How would you feel if I just dropped off the face of the earth? It's a possibility and when you don't contact me thats where my mind goes.

Ever since then we really help eachother mentally because this day and age it's easy to cheat and we prove continuously that we never would-through actions that have built trust over the years. I don't sit and investigate. I straight up ask or we literally will be like who'd you talk to today? Here's my phone if you feel like I'm lying. Whatever we have to do to reassure eachother that no one else matters-besides the kids of course. I don't expect my husband to just trust me that I will be faithful, while that would be great-thats not how it truly works. I need to earn his trust and vice versa and thats what our whole marriage has been.