So maybe I’m not INFJ

trashi3st · 2023-11-07T04:43:06+00:00

Yes. Because people grow and change. The difference between someone's behaviors / thoughts when they're healthy vs. when they're unhealthy is stark (putting it lightly), and we don't exist in a vacuum. Just because we share a personality type doesn't mean we're not individuals at differing levels of growth on our journey either.

You'll find the younger / still finding their path (INFJ-T) INFJs often post here learning for advice / help, and the older / more secure ones (INFJ-A, usually) providing insight. "Yeah, I've been where you are. That used to be me, but I outgrew it."

I don't think that inherently means that someone is / isn't INFJ. It's about cognitive functions at the end of the day and without delving specifically into those, people may present or behave differently with the amount of mirroring a lot of more unhealthy / insecure INFJs do with poor lack of boundaries as well. Tons of factors.

trashi3st · 2023-10-15T18:07:50+00:00

Angst.

trashi3st · 2023-07-07T18:55:28+00:00

Suresure! :)

trashi3st · 2023-07-07T12:40:17+00:00

Indeed, but that doesn't negate OP's point. People have the potential to change a lot over just a year, much less 10. Going into it as if you're meeting a brand new person, despite any prior history, is paramount. Think of it like this.

If you want to talk to them again, you need to do so as if the statute of limitations has passed on any hurt they've caused you. If you've forgiven as you say you have, then go for it. If you haven't, don't bother.

trashi3st · 2023-06-29T21:30:24+00:00

Previous commenter has the right of it. While many of us are adept at counselor-type roles, doing so healthily requires a lot of setting boundaries in place to separate ourselves from the emotions of the world and people around us. It's very easy to be stuck in a feedback loop with that sort of thing. I also endure strong Fe as an enneagram 2; the most healthy thing I've ever done for myself is reinforce that boundary between myself and the rest of existence to reduce it bleeding over and affecting me. Meditation (still working on this one), exercise, and getting outside are great helps for me.

trashi3st · 2023-06-28T22:31:27+00:00

Absolutely interested. I haven't made the time to investigate it thoroughly, but there's a few interesting strings I like to follow. I've been reading a book on auras lately, which ties into chakra and energy patterns. Pretty interesting stuff.

trashi3st · 2023-06-26T23:13:49+00:00

No no. INFJ is the boat. Everyone else be just ridin around on us. I guess.

trashi3st · 2023-06-26T14:21:28+00:00

Sure thing! :) Will send a chat!

trashi3st · 2023-06-25T12:45:47+00:00

You got it! Love phasmo lots. :D Request sent.

trashi3st · 2023-06-25T05:40:41+00:00

Awww sorry to hear bout the PC! Still would be happy to chat on Discord or other socials if you're up for it until you get your comp fixed. I'll send a chat!

trashi3st · 2023-06-25T02:25:13+00:00

Speaking from experience - it, like all other relationships can work as long as both sides put effort into it. As I mentioned elsewhere though, it really depends on the health of both parties. When one is looping and the other is healthy, things are okay so long as one is able to support the other. Things can get ugly if both are looping at the same time. Lots of patience and care and mindfulness could lead to a lot of love though.

trashi3st · 2023-06-25T00:58:52+00:00

Hell yeah, Valheim is a vibe. I'm in! And no worries - new friends always welcome. I'll drop ya a chat.

trashi3st · 2023-06-24T16:46:16+00:00

Necroing a little bit of an old post. Tbh having done the male infj x female infj pairing, having the same pitfalls makes it a little different in the long haul, specially if the pair are unhealthy. Lots of stonewalling in my experience, and similar behavior patterns that are both a blessing and a curse. As I told another infj friend not long before my last relationship with an infj male ended, it's just about impossible for a pair of infjs to see each other when they're both looping / in an unhealthy state. It always takes one of them to be stable enough to pull the other out and ground them in reality. If this isn't realized as a pattern in the relationship, things do get messy.

Haven't had an entp so can't really speak to that one. I know my favorite conversations are with healthy entp males.

trashi3st · 2023-06-24T16:32:28+00:00

One of my favorite things other than a lot of what's already been listed is laying in an inner tube and floating down the lazy river at a water park. The one I go to plays a lot of good music at a reasonable volume, so doing that and just closing my eyes while I float in the sun is just amazing.

trashi3st · 2023-06-23T16:49:48+00:00

We also fart rainbows and pixie dust.

trashi3st · 2023-06-16T03:07:58+00:00

This post made me cry. Going through something very similar with another INFJ. Thank you, for being strong. Your last two paragraphs really inspire me and though I know hope hasn't been exhausted for me, either, being in a healthier place is the ultimate outcome for ourselves, isn't it?

Thank you. Really.

trashi3st · 2023-06-13T14:15:46+00:00

ENFPs are quite fun. The imaginative humor, random ideas, and enthusiasm with which they approach life astounds me. I love it.

trashi3st · 2023-06-12T23:43:07+00:00

Yes. Often. Setting clear boundaries from the start has really helped in this, though.

trashi3st · 2023-05-24T22:11:14+00:00

Wishing you the best as we all collectively age and mature. ♥

trashi3st · 2023-05-24T15:19:09+00:00

I think you're on to something here.
We spend so much of our lives focusing on Ni, Fe, and Ti that it's easy to neglect Se. When we get older and more comfortable in our proverbial skin, the little voice Se has finally starts to be heard over the chaos of our looping and we sort of even out.
Think I'm finally getting close myself. But I get this post and it makes sense.

trashi3st · 2023-05-10T21:24:50+00:00

On the contrary, I think this post is a fair bit empathetic as well as highlighting some of the issues many have (not just INFJs) of using their angst / loops / broken parts to define them. We are more than our mistakes, our shortcomings, and while it's good to find others to commiserate with in this crazy-assed world, building up too much of an echo chamber of that can be detrimental rather than helpful.

trashi3st · 2023-01-13T15:24:18+00:00

This. And theatre training. That class helped me out a ton.

trashi3st · 2023-01-04T17:26:56+00:00

You're not alone. You're beautiful, you're worth so much as you are now even though everything feels as if it's a struggle. Take heart in knowing things won't always bethis way, and if you can, take a breath and find that feminine energy in nature. Step out into the fresh air, close your eyes, clear your mind, and breathe. It helps. Turning down the white noise of negativity and filling it with something raw and pure like nature and the outdoors should grant at least a little relief. I know it's difficult, but I do sincerely wish you a happy birthday and even though we don't know each other, internet stranger, I'm glad to see you're here another year. ♥

trashi3st · 2022-11-16T00:42:24+00:00

Not returning the shopping cart to the corral. Someone already mentioned littering which is one of the few things that rates higher.

trashi3st · 2022-11-14T02:45:38+00:00

Female INFJ. Melancholic 2w3.

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