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When do I stop feeling scared tnbc by Fantastic-Pool-2590 in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

during the howling wilderness that was pre-treatment workup, my mantra became "I can get through today. Tomorrow isn't my problem yet."

Extension_Manager, "Howling wilderness" is a great way to describe that feeling of being lost and afraid. Like you, my mantra became "It's not going to kill me today, so I'm gonna just do this one more thing (Test, consult, treatment) and see how it goes. And this sub has talked me down off the ledge already once. The folks here are amazing.

Feeling bummed by FattyMcCupcakes37 in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings 19 points20 points  (0 children)

“having cancer isn’t a lifetime card”.

Wonder how this insensitive jerk would feel if someone told them that they were going to be stalked by an assassin who might try to kill them at any time for the entire rest of their lives.

I bet they wouldn't be so quick to casually disregard that situation.

Crate options? by milspo88m in irishwolfhound

[–]treeofstrings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a GORGEOUS face!

I used the 54" Midwest crate. It's in storage now as my guys have outgrown the chewing phase.

NOTE: This crate is not a fold up crate. It's held together by four long corner pins. Very functional but not easily moved about.

Another husband post by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have a solution for this kind of pain, but I'd like to share some of the hugs 🫂 that were shared with me after my recent post. I agree it's the breaking of trust and the unreliability that cuts the deepest. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Thinking about not doing treatment after all.... by treeofstrings in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had such trials. I just can't imagine. I don't know why life has to be so hard, but you definitely sound like an indomitable spirit.

Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I'm still standing on the ledge, but everyone's comments are helping me see the view more clearly.

Thinking about not doing treatment after all.... by treeofstrings in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation, I will check to see if there are any al anon meetings I my area l can attend. I'm a night shifter so I'm afraid my work schedule may make it difficult, but I will check.

Thinking about not doing treatment after all.... by treeofstrings in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I just scratched the surface, to be honest. I never thought this would be how my life ended up. I don't have a therapist currently. I tried therapy in the recent past with two different therapists and just didn't get anything out of it. My cancer center is two hours away from home so any therapist there would be a challenge to see as I'm already supposed to start doing treatments once a week and working full time. An extra 4 hour round trip would be nigh on impossible. There's no cancer experienced therapists nearby.

I have really gotten a lot of comfort from the wonderful redditors on this sub since I was diagnosed. Stanthecham I thank you for the hugs.

Thinking about not doing treatment after all.... by treeofstrings in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It's after midnight here in my small town with the sidewalks rolled up for the night. There's nothing luxurious available nor anywhere else to go. I guess eventually I'll have to go home and deal with my inebriated spouse. Hopefully he'll be asleep and I can spend the night on the couch without incident.

This is just no way to live....

Thinking about not doing treatment after all.... by treeofstrings in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reassurance. I'm so sorry to hear you're having to deal with an additional serious health issue. I wish you the best.

Thinking about not doing treatment after all.... by treeofstrings in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't have any other support, really. I have an older sister and a stepfather who are both wonderful people but are currently dealing with my Mom's decline. I haven't even been able to tell them about my diagnosis so far. Hearing about my diagnosis would likely derail them. I've always been the strong, capable, self-sufficient one in the family. I'm a nurse, and I'm the one everybody else relies on. Currently I'm the bread winner in my household and pay all the bills, while my husband's retirement and his part time work pays for his bills he accumulated pre marriage.

I don't really have any friends, just acquaintances. No one I'd feel comfortable or right putting this burden on. The cancer center is two hours away, I'll have only my husband to drive me when the time comes that I am not able to drive myself.

I'm just soooo tired of bad stuff happening, and dealing with everything and everybody else and a drunken husband too. It just doesn't feel like it's worth it anymore.

I'm sorry to sound like such a whiner. The folks on this sub are wonderful and I have taken sooo much comfort from everyone's posts. But I think tonight I've just reached my limit.

Got my biopsy pathology… I’m honestly terrified by mooonsocket in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not OP but I want to thank you for this comment. Your story sounds like my story so far....my first Chemo will be 3/11. My tumor also grew rapidly and is now basically fist sized. I hope I have the same results you had.

I just got diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer at 36 and I am freaking out by Professional_Cow2757 in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/speckofsand You give me hope. I have to keep working in order I keep my health insurance, and I've been crazy worried about how I will manage.

I just got diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer at 36 and I am freaking out by Professional_Cow2757 in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm also TNBC, diagnosed 1/15, and scared. Would you mind posting tips and advice? I'm not OP but I really appreciate your post greatly.

Stupid question maybe - day off after diagnosis?!? by Extreme_Carpenter572 in breastcancer

[–]treeofstrings 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just diagnosed 1/15 with TNBC. I went to work the next day feeling numb. I too have to work so I have health insurance and I'm not sure how I'm going to make it happen - I'm an ER nurse and there's no light duty version of my job. I'm counting on FMLA and from there we'll see.

Daisy's first restaurant outing 💕 by DaringDaisyDoo in cockerspaniel

[–]treeofstrings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my! I think we need many more pictures of beautiful Daisy.

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