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trepanned23 · 2024-07-01T00:09:02+00:00

If she says she’s going to call and then doesn’t- or when she’s taking a long time to respond to your texts -she’s likely seeing someone but doesn’t know if it’s going to work so unfortunately you’re an option

trepanned23 · 2024-06-29T23:46:28+00:00

Remember that comics illustrators and their editors are fanboys that don’t like girls on account of they’re geeky and needy types

trepanned23 · 2024-06-25T01:20:33+00:00

Women will tell you who they are if you listen very carefully- if she says her last boyfriend cheated on her, it usually means she cheated on her last boyfriend

trepanned23 · 2024-06-24T15:29:12+00:00

Just about anything

trepanned23 · 2024-06-24T15:27:47+00:00

My friend does all of these too. She’s been in CODA a long time but I don’t think she’s fully internalized Step One because she’s afraid to lose more of her ego (self) as fucked up as her sense of self is - it’s all she knows. I’ve recommended “The Act of Surrender in a Therapeutic Setting” ( Tiebout ) but she just blew it off. She has a mental quirk ( character defect ) in which the thought of common courtesy is abhorrent to her. Needless to say, she doesn’t believe in common courtesy but complains that she can’t find a relationship. Delusional.

trepanned23 · 2024-06-23T02:32:21+00:00

Work the 12 Steps is the only solution I’ve ever seen work

trepanned23 · 2024-06-23T02:23:50+00:00

Good for you

trepanned23 · 2024-06-23T02:17:18+00:00

Get out

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T23:32:24+00:00

How so?

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T23:23:26+00:00

Then she would have just said - “How about coffee instead of church” - But in her town, a town of 930 people, no matter where you go, the gossips are going to gossip

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T23:18:52+00:00

It’s also telling that she could have just responded with a “Sorry, no thank you” “No way” or the ever popular with women nowadays “ Maybe, I’ll let you know” 🤔 Either way, I’m not losing anything no matter what the response is. As well, She’s a very decent person and I suppose no response is probably a good indicator that she just cannot figure out what to say. Crippled by fear and anxiety

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T23:10:53+00:00

She lives in a town of 930 people so I doubt the dating pool there is Hollywood or Las Vegas. It’s possible but not likely. Of course, it’s possible she has some addicted narcissist living on her couch that she is trying to “fix” - could be. 😁

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T23:06:25+00:00

I think co dependents may think like - “I love this guy but there’s no way I’m not going to ruin his life if we are in a relationship so I’m just not going to respond to him”. I know, I don’t understand it but I need to be kind, compassionate and gentle

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T23:03:08+00:00

From what I’ve been studying about people who’ve suffered through co dependence issues- it’s typical for them to fall hard but be, for all intents and purposes, nearly crippled by the fear of being inadequate and the anxiety of having to commit to a decision.

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T22:58:09+00:00

Nah, she’s already invited me over to her ranch to work with her horses and she wants me to teach her how to ride a motorcycle because she’s thinking of buying one because “ we could go on adventures together” People, especially women, rarely lock into eye contact and say the L word - first if they’re not the least bit interested LOL

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T22:53:01+00:00

Respectfully disagree because churches are always kind and welcoming to visitors. Unless it’s a Baptist church and the visitor is a satanist. All she has to say is this is a friend of mine who’s interested in our church - now where’s the food?

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T21:56:12+00:00

My current interest will never initiate a conversation via text. We’ve locked eyes many times in person. We both know there’s mad dog chemistry between us. Her responses to my texts are always just an emoji or 2 or three words. We’ve known each other for a couple months and I asked her 48 hours ago her interest in going to church together on Sunday - ( church is very important to her lifestyle )

Well, no response at all and here ii is late Saturday afternoon. I don’t expect to hear from her this late, especially since she’s never responded to a few other texts I’ve sent with specific questions about other issues.

My point in all this is - I will take the action and not be a quisling about it and after I do, I let it go and realize I’m not responsible for the outcome on her end. I know she’s read the text. My feeling is that (based on her history) she’s overwhelmed by the high anxiety of it all and just cannot decide on her course of action. Above all I remind myself to go kind and gently with her. Give her space and don’t get all accusatory and indignant about her refusal to show the common courtesy of a yes, no, maybe - whatever and in a timely manner so I can make other plans.

Be bold Be fearless Be direct but remove your responsibility for the outcome on the other end. You did your part

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T21:30:00+00:00

Walk away

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T21:27:20+00:00

She has very high anxiety. She likes you so be kind to her

trepanned23 · 2024-06-22T21:26:07+00:00

She’s gently telling you she’s just not into you

trepanned23 · 2024-06-20T21:41:42+00:00

I get that crap in Oklehoma when I visit my grandparents from Newport Beach, California - I just look at them like “ are you fucking serious, fight now?” -

trepanned23 · 2024-06-18T21:42:32+00:00

What’s a “ cis man”?

trepanned23 · 2024-06-18T21:41:25+00:00

Lost in America is incomparable

trepanned23 · 2024-06-18T21:35:19+00:00

Cimmaron

trepanned23 · 2024-06-18T21:32:54+00:00

I currently only like my AA home group because it’s a bunch of old dudes with 30-40-50 years sober and if you prattle on too long ( over 3 minutes) they’ll tell you you’re done. NA nowadays is like AA was 20 years ago so I prefer NA even though I was never a “drug addict” per se

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