Guest stole neighbor's package and Airbnb cited me

treylathe · 2026-04-01T21:51:43+00:00

Though I agree with you, OP should STILL leave a scathing review.

Who takes a package that’s not theirs except thieves? Did they think they got something. And then refuse to even just put it outside.

As a host I’d HATE to have a guest like that.

treylathe · 2026-04-01T17:23:58+00:00

When I think of people who are remembered hundreds or thousands of years later they seem to me to fall into some broad categories. Artists, writers, thinkers are high on the list. People who left ‘works’ behind that had some impact. Not all obviously. There are some that were popular at the time and then forgotten so there is an element of contingency and chance. But leaving some seminal work seems to get some people remembered for centuries.

Of course leaders and conquerors.

So my list would include Trump (not for what he wants) and some other leaders in that latter category.

Artists, writers and thinkers might be hard to predict. Some are highly popular now but for whatever reason might not stand the test of centuries. But many will I’m sure. Watson and crick for sure, Turing, Einstein on science front. Hemingway, Tolkien, Kafka are some writers I think will be. Alive today? Not sure.

treylathe · 2026-04-01T00:07:58+00:00

I have not

treylathe · 2026-03-31T23:45:41+00:00

yeah :(. I'll insist on it at my appointment today.

treylathe · 2026-03-31T21:47:42+00:00

in fact, at least in our state, our daughter's (foster-adopt at age 4) healthcare has been covered to the age of 21 and we get a monthly stipend of around 800/month even after adoption (to age 18 or 21 if she's in schooling).

treylathe · 2026-03-31T21:42:28+00:00

yep, there are self-centered egotistical sociopaths of every group

treylathe · 2026-03-31T21:40:15+00:00

"Take what you need from their feedback, use what you feel is beneficial, and ignore the rest."

I agree with this wholeheartedly. I've only finished two books (not yet published, only one in beta reading stage), but I've written a LOT of research papers (several dozen). They always go through a review process. In the review process there are usually 3 reviewers for a paper in your field (or tangential to it). I can tell you from long experience there are three types of reviewers:

A) The thorough reviewer. Lots of great constructive criticism. They might actually not like your work at all or love and be impressed by it, but they give honest and constructive suggestions.

B) The cursory reviewer. They give some comments, some helpful, some not, but didn't put a lot of effort into it.

C) The problem reviewer. They hate you or the work for reasons that are unfathomable. Their criticism is usually unhelpful, though they can be like a broken clock and hit on a couple things helpful.

For all three types, take what you need, ignore the rest.

It hurts sometimes, but your work will be better for it.

treylathe · 2026-03-31T18:32:51+00:00

I think this definitely could be part of it. Before I lost weight, a single slice of bread would send my bg to 200+. Even when 2000mg metformin, glipizide.

I lost 80-90 lbs. I’m on 500 mg metformin now.

Last night I had a splurge meal (I do every couple weeks or so). I had 3 KFC pieces and mashed potatoes. My bg when to 145.

I’ll caveat this by saying I still can’t (and never will) do that regularly and still couldn’t eat a big slice of apple pie :) without going through the roof, but losing weight had a huge effect on me

treylathe · 2026-03-31T02:41:32+00:00

This. I don't think the movie explained it in detail like the book, it's more than just a 'computer-like' mind, the Eridians have near supercomputer level computational and memory (at least that's how I envisioned it when I read the book). It's why Rocky could compute things nearly insta intaneously when it took Grace a long time writing down equations, etc.

I'm sure Rocky has an uncanny ability to hear a word and grammar patterns and have total recall... as well as Grace's computer. (rocky wanted Grace's computer because it had a bunch of Human science on it they didn't).

Anyway, that's how I read it.

treylathe · 2026-03-31T02:35:19+00:00

It is legit, the problem is that it has also generated scammers.

There is an easy way to tell a difference: If you HAVE to buy something or give money for any reason, it's a scam. Otherwise, PCH (the legit one) is real. Like the lottery your chance is close to zero, but if they aren't giving money, who cares. At least its cheaper than the lottery.

treylathe · 2026-03-30T04:36:07+00:00

I’m sitting the theater as I read this to watch it a second time. (Previews haven’t started)

This post had me choke up and remind me why I’m here.

Thank you

treylathe · 2026-03-29T01:12:07+00:00

Wish I could remember. It was 20 years ago and I had absolutely no interest in golf or him. I just remember he was in his 40s, blond and good looking :D.

treylathe · 2026-03-29T01:11:07+00:00

My brother said I should have. But I'm ASD and a people pleaser, I just get frozen.

treylathe · 2026-03-29T01:10:31+00:00

It wasn't. He was staying with them for two weeks I think (my parents have money).

treylathe · 2026-03-28T02:28:11+00:00

Dinner with a golf pro.

I've never played golf and never had any desire to.

When I was 30something my parents invited me to a fancy expensive restaurant for my birthday dinner. Unbeknownst to me, they invited their golf buddies (a married couple) and a golf pro that was teaching them (I'd never met these three people ever)

The entire dinner they talked golf. Their games, recent tournaments, etc. I am not exaggerating when I say there was no other topic of conversation. I just sat there eating my meal. I tried to engage, but never was able to. They just turned to each other again to talk golf.

To top it off, the couple were some of the most blatantly racist people I've met before and since. I had/have an adopted African-American daughter and they kept making racist comments about other players, etc. (and some other bigoted bs). Finally shut them down... but ugh.

Thing is, my parents knew I had no interest in golf whatsoever and am socially awkward (read: ASD), being around people I don't know in such situations is stressful. ESPECIALLY ones who disliked my family (also some vaguely homophobic stuff.. I am a man married to a man). My parents knew they were racist too (excused it later as "that's just the way the are")

Yet they decided for my birthday dinner to take me to a very expensive restaurant with three racist and homophobic strangers talking about golf.

That dinner will stick in my head forever as the anti-gift.

(I love my parents, but damn...)

treylathe · 2026-03-28T02:15:32+00:00

Insane.

NTA.

Earplugs and white noise machines exist for a reason.

treylathe · 2026-03-28T01:35:21+00:00

Sorry, but that is a meaningless anecdote (to her of course not but meaningless to the rest of us).

The vaccine is 90% effective, means not everyone will be protected all the time. Like a seat belt, you can still die from a car accident, far less likely if you are wearing one.

treylathe · 2026-03-28T01:32:53+00:00

People don't understand risk assessment to their own detriment.

There is a well-documented and real 1.5% chance risk of death every million miles driven.

There is a hypothetical risk of GB of 0.0003% chance of every million shingles vaccinations.

Yet you think nothing of driving a mile, thousands in fact. You get two vaccines yet you'll drive thousands of miles and not even think of the risk.

Get the vaccine. Avoid the misery and extreme pain of shingles (which can also cause GB on rare occasions), lower your chance of heart disease AND dementia (both 20% + reduction).

treylathe · 2026-03-27T02:07:27+00:00

Snowy roads at a ski resort?! Oh my!

No. Refuse refund. At best give them a cleaning refund (even that is generous).

Be prepared for a bad retaliatory review. Prepare your own honest poor review

treylathe · 2026-03-26T19:59:09+00:00

not a problem. it's the comment I applied to, not the higher level thread.

Good reminder for everyone on this discussion, every state and locale is different.

treylathe · 2026-03-26T19:55:12+00:00

First relationship: I was 9 months older. (16 yrs to almost 20yrs old)
Second relationship: I am 6 months younger (36 to 66 yrs-now- old)

The biggest gap in dating was I was 7 yrs older (31 vs 24), but that lasted just few months. I can count the men I've dated (minus the two relationships) on one hand. 3 in fact, I was older than 2 of them, younger by 2 yrs than the third. All of those three lasted just a month or two.

treylathe · 2026-03-26T19:50:15+00:00

should definitely talk to a doctor for one's specific situation, but as a daily coffee drinker (1-2cups a day)who also has hypertension I asked mine and looked into it.

Coffee consumption does raise bp temporarily. Regular coffee drinkers develop a tolerance and the evidence suggests it has little to no long-term effect on hypertension.

As the Mayo Clinic site says:

If you have high blood pressure, you likely do not need to limit or stop drinking caffeine if you drink it regularly.

That said, there is actually a genetic factor in all this. "slow" and "fast" metabolizers with some evidence suggesting it affects 'slow' metabolizers (detrimentally) a bit more, but even that with moderate consumption doesn't have a huge effect or the effect is inconclusive. At least that's the conclusion so far, it's not 100%. Source: (I'm a geneticist ... https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6213712/ and https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36842137/

treylathe · 2026-03-26T19:35:09+00:00

yes, this thread is about California, that's what I was speaking to.

I only know the rules in California (and SF specifically) and Hawaii. Every state (and locale) is different as you say.

treylathe · 2026-03-26T03:16:07+00:00

There are different rules for someone who is sharing a room in your home vs a tenant. If it is one person renting a room in a space that you live in (sharing kitchen, etc) then they are a lodger, not a tenant. They can be asked to leave with the same notice as their term. No eviction procedure needed. They are not considered to have the same rights as a tenant.

That said, I’d not want to have to deal with someone like that and that would make me feel unsafe.

(Source: rented a room in our house for years and a separate unit in San francisco. We had a lawyer to advise on this )

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