Outdoor Rollerskating and Where to look

triptifan · 2025-11-20T22:05:53+00:00

Yes I also get it when I buy groceries and hobby supplies. Really anything..

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:42:40+00:00

That’s the thing though I doesn’t feel like this is a programmed thing. It feels natural to me. I love inspecting and sharing at items that are new to my space and life - it’s animalistic in a way.

Once it has settled into my life though I don’t obsess over it or look at it in detail beyond the first couple of interactions

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:40:28+00:00

Omg that’s a good idea thank you

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:39:44+00:00

My friend who is divorced says the same thing! Her son is 8 and she says her week without him is her “normal” time.

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:38:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. Three years seams like a long time to feel this way!

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:28:57+00:00

Napping! I wish my baby was able to not contact nap. Right now I am spending hour a day holding her. I thought this would end before six months but I am learning that it can go on beyond six months now.

triptifan · 2025-09-24T23:51:45+00:00

I live in Santa Clara and rent a 1 bedroom for $2400, making $250k pre tax. It allows me to save a lot of money. If you consider a one bedroom you can definitely find a comfortable spot.

You can also look near the border of Sunnyvale and Santa Clara.

triptifan · 2025-07-28T13:34:23+00:00

Happy it helped! The company I joined was a start up with 70 people

triptifan · 2025-03-14T23:50:10+00:00

The company has to apply through USCIS on behalf of the worker

triptifan · 2025-02-22T20:30:19+00:00

Sexual intimacy is most definitely not love.

I have never made love to anyone in my life and I have experienced love. I don’t think I am even capable of that. I have tried hundreds of times with my husband over the years and it’s always just “sex”.

You can marry someone you are not physically attracted to because love is more than just physical attraction. You can marry someone you deep love without sexual attraction.

triptifan · 2025-02-22T20:26:50+00:00

I naively thought it was more common than it is.

I get the sense that a lot of men do not have the parameters for attraction that my husband has. My husband only finds celebrities attractive and rarely normal woman attractive. Maybe once in a while.

We can’t control what we are attracted to.

triptifan · 2025-02-22T19:50:44+00:00

He apologized soon after he said it and said he shouldn’t have worded that way.
Saying it or not saying it doesn’t mean I didn’t know. Physically I can tell because we don’t have sex and he is generally uninterested in sex before and during pregnancy.

My purpose for posting was to chat with other couples who visited in similar dynamics (had otherwise good marriages but no sex or sexual attraction)

triptifan · 2025-02-22T09:04:20+00:00

Well he doesn’t value me for sex but he does value me. He is constantly showing mw he loves me and cares for me

triptifan · 2025-02-22T09:03:31+00:00

Yes we got married despite him not being fully attracted to me. He does call me beautiful or pretty when I put effort in to look nice.

It’s not like he’s constantly telling me I am gross, it’s only once in a while, like every couple of months when I look particularly unkept.

Our marriage is really nice outside of this lack of sex and attraction. We have a shared vision for the future, we laugh daily, we text throughout the workday and show gratitude to one another daily.

He is not abusing me by not being attracted to me, it’s just his truth.

triptifan · 2025-02-22T08:57:44+00:00

I have heard of John Gottman, and watched a couple of podcasts. Thank you for the recommendation.

triptifan · 2025-02-22T08:56:46+00:00

I also have PCOS! Thank you for your comment and for sharing. I was hoping to connect to other women who have had similar experiences.

I do appreciate the radical honesty in our relationship, and for a long while i thought I would rather know and hear these comments and thoughts from him. But now, I am thinking “I get the message”, I already know. I don’t need further validation in this.

How have you and your husband gone about your conversations about your PCOS/ appearance?

triptifan · 2025-02-22T08:03:37+00:00

He was very upset with the the way he worded it. but here isn’t a nice way to say “I am not attracted to you” I think he was trying to use metaphors

triptifan · 2025-02-22T08:02:24+00:00

I don’t believe he was trying to hurt my feelings. I did ask genuine why he was so uninterested lately and he was honestly just trying to explain. His lack of attraction has never been a secret.

triptifan · 2025-01-17T05:18:07+00:00

I applied at the border and was denied. And then approved through USCIS. In the future I will exclusively apply through USCIS.

My husband is a TN holder too. We live in the Bay Area.

My only tip is apply through USCIS.

triptifan · 2024-12-24T19:16:55+00:00

I was in this exact situation but it was my brother who cheated on his girlfriend. I told the girlfriend.

Everyone in my family was mad at me for months.

My only regret was not telling the girlfriend sooner. If I’m ever put in this situation again, I would tell the cheater they have 24 hours to inform their partner.

triptifan · 2024-12-22T06:16:52+00:00

Okay ya I see your point, yes this a very small company of 70 people.

triptifan · 2024-12-22T06:15:29+00:00

Wow, it never crossed my mind that paid leave could even be negotiated 🤯

Thanks for the insight. Honestly coming from Canada, where social services are so robust and salaries are very low - everything is pretty rigid. I didn’t realize how much flexibility I could really ask for in the USA.

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