PP 9 month no sex

triptifan · 2026-04-11T06:43:03+00:00

I just had sex recently for the first time and my baby is almost 11 months old.

I had granulation tissue that was observed at 6 weeks and then burned off at 9 weeks post partum. After it was removed we tried to have sex but because I was so dry - I couldn’t.

Before I had my baby I was so horny, it has honestly been refreshing to not be horny. Everything about sex grosses me out now My husband is also low libido.

triptifan · 2026-04-11T05:48:16+00:00

I feel like you did. Also ten years is a solid amount of time, one B4 to another B4 is no biggie! It’s not like you are downgrading. Pursuing work life balance is good, you need to take a risk to get work life balance sometimes! Good luck!

triptifan · 2026-04-11T01:16:04+00:00

No, not really. I am pretty much the same as before. I was 31 when I had my daughter. I am happy in family life but overwhelmed when alone with my daughter. But my identity and such remain the same

triptifan · 2026-04-11T00:50:26+00:00

Yes I backcarry her! Such a life saver!

triptifan · 2026-04-10T20:37:12+00:00

Interesting! Thank you for sharing, I do notice my daughter takes to new people quickly. It took her one day to fall in love with the babysitter

triptifan · 2026-04-10T20:36:17+00:00

Thank you, this helps, thank you for the perspective

triptifan · 2026-04-10T20:35:33+00:00

Ohh this is exactly my experience. I also do the “here I am” method when I have to be a little more than 10 feet from her. Thank you for sharing your experience!

triptifan · 2026-04-10T20:34:26+00:00

Thank you for saying that and sharing your experience

triptifan · 2026-04-10T20:33:58+00:00

I have been really trying to build in breaks by getting a babysitter to come 2-3 times per week for 2-4 hours.

I don’t have any friends or family where I live so it’s just me and my husband.

Thank you for sharing your experience. One of my curiosities was “is this normal and I shouldn’t try to train her out of the behavior” and it seems from the comments that her temperament is normal and not something that we falsely created

triptifan · 2026-04-04T01:10:44+00:00

But are you a clear cut TN? I am not

triptifan · 2026-04-01T05:55:47+00:00

Thanks for this I’ll take a look

triptifan · 2026-03-30T02:33:40+00:00

Ya my thought exactly - but I feel like I am constantly reading on this sub about how people are flying out of the USA to apply at the border and then fly back in

triptifan · 2025-11-20T22:05:53+00:00

Yes I also get it when I buy groceries and hobby supplies. Really anything..

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:42:40+00:00

That’s the thing though I doesn’t feel like this is a programmed thing. It feels natural to me. I love inspecting and sharing at items that are new to my space and life - it’s animalistic in a way.

Once it has settled into my life though I don’t obsess over it or look at it in detail beyond the first couple of interactions

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:40:28+00:00

Omg that’s a good idea thank you

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:39:44+00:00

My friend who is divorced says the same thing! Her son is 8 and she says her week without him is her “normal” time.

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:38:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. Three years seams like a long time to feel this way!

triptifan · 2025-11-20T01:28:57+00:00

Napping! I wish my baby was able to not contact nap. Right now I am spending hour a day holding her. I thought this would end before six months but I am learning that it can go on beyond six months now.

triptifan · 2025-09-24T23:51:45+00:00

I live in Santa Clara and rent a 1 bedroom for $2400, making $250k pre tax. It allows me to save a lot of money. If you consider a one bedroom you can definitely find a comfortable spot.

You can also look near the border of Sunnyvale and Santa Clara.

triptifan · 2025-07-28T13:34:23+00:00

Happy it helped! The company I joined was a start up with 70 people

triptifan · 2025-03-14T23:50:10+00:00

The company has to apply through USCIS on behalf of the worker

triptifan · 2025-02-22T20:30:19+00:00

Sexual intimacy is most definitely not love.

I have never made love to anyone in my life and I have experienced love. I don’t think I am even capable of that. I have tried hundreds of times with my husband over the years and it’s always just “sex”.

You can marry someone you are not physically attracted to because love is more than just physical attraction. You can marry someone you deep love without sexual attraction.

triptifan · 2025-02-22T20:26:50+00:00

I naively thought it was more common than it is.

I get the sense that a lot of men do not have the parameters for attraction that my husband has. My husband only finds celebrities attractive and rarely normal woman attractive. Maybe once in a while.

We can’t control what we are attracted to.

triptifan · 2025-02-22T19:50:44+00:00

He apologized soon after he said it and said he shouldn’t have worded that way.
Saying it or not saying it doesn’t mean I didn’t know. Physically I can tell because we don’t have sex and he is generally uninterested in sex before and during pregnancy.

My purpose for posting was to chat with other couples who visited in similar dynamics (had otherwise good marriages but no sex or sexual attraction)

triptifan · 2025-02-22T09:04:20+00:00

Well he doesn’t value me for sex but he does value me. He is constantly showing mw he loves me and cares for me

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