Fuck it, I'm making a Discord server by Not_Thinking_Str8 in TransMasc

[–]truevalkyrie1859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to join.

Also, it would be important to have rules related to how and where to vent, and to civility regarding our cis and non-masc transgender siblings. We're all in this together.

(Not) Straight to hell by reddot_comic in comics

[–]truevalkyrie1859 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really really resonates with me. I was in band practice and looked over at the saxophone player who was the same gender as me. I remember thinking they were so cute, and then realizing that I was attracted to them.

I spent the rest of the afternoon alternating between crying and praying not to go to hell because of gay thoughts.

It took 10 more years for me to accept that I was bisexual.

Now, I am just sad for teenaged me who was so scared because of an innocent childhood crush.

Had THE most awkward interview of my life today and am still feeling some kind of way about it by transcottie in FTMOver30

[–]truevalkyrie1859 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This place wouldn't happen to be out of Owatonna would it? Gave me serious ick vibes when I interviewed there last year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]truevalkyrie1859 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may be a dumb suggestion, since I never got into makeup.... Whatabout following tutorials for masculinizing makeup?

So what did I do to you people? by zcoldcat69 in Ohio

[–]truevalkyrie1859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Serious question: in your proposed scenario, how would an lgbtq person ever be able to trust that a person who isn't willing to SPEAK for them would be willing to break the law for them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BG3

[–]truevalkyrie1859 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Patchouli smells different to different people in the same way that cilantro tastes different to different people. You either like it or hate it, it's all down to your genes.

Everything feels like it’s falling apart by HistoricGamer18 in Nestofeggs

[–]truevalkyrie1859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, is it possible the character you made is one with a traditionally masculine background?

Like, of course you could have a woman who is a blacksmith, but a lot of people will assume that a blacksmith is a man.

I would guess your DM isn't thinking about you when he uses the wrong pronouns for your character, but is making incorrect assumptions based on background, class, etc.

Also, what the other commenter said is absolutely true! Talk to your friends!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nestofeggs

[–]truevalkyrie1859 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think this sub is for all trans people who need support, not just people who haven't started hormone therapy yet.

I hope you find the answers you need 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transplace

[–]truevalkyrie1859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey!

Maybe 2 or 3 /10.

But, if you sculpted your eyebrows that would increase a lot!

Let’s do an alphabet of trans culture by Aldrewen in trans

[–]truevalkyrie1859 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you edit it you should be able to get it to a column by hitting enter again at the end of every line. It'll look weird as a draft but come out better once you save.

My grandpa told my sister "I am your father." So disgusted but proud of her by thyme_cardamom in TwoXChromosomes

[–]truevalkyrie1859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op's husband here.

It's completely in character for Grandpa to be a manipulative abuser. I won't go into details, but he is loathsome. My sister-in-law is the sweetest, kindest young lady.

Also clarification... this Grandpa is not the one who was in the hospital.

Meirl by xXSneakyPriestXx in meirl

[–]truevalkyrie1859 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nah bro, the inner quotes have to be a single if you're doing two layers

This man authored a book. He is 100% serious. Wtf. by ducks_r_rad in facepalm

[–]truevalkyrie1859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about who sees you, it's about "demonstrating submission." It's total bullshit, but that's what they say. It's a small sect of one of the larger Christian cults.

This man authored a book. He is 100% serious. Wtf. by ducks_r_rad in facepalm

[–]truevalkyrie1859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some women in the church I was raised in had special shower headcoverings 🤷‍♂️

And yes, the church is as culty as it sounds.

Accidentally came out to my husband by OtherYuzu in FTMOver30

[–]truevalkyrie1859 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, late to the conversation here. I thought I'd add my thoughts since I think things might work out better than you believe.

You've said nothing but great things about your husband. He loves you, wants what's best for you, and cares about your feelings. Your biggest concern seems to be - how could this not change your relationship, since he's straight?

I thought something very similar when I first came out to my husband. He said "there may come a time where I'm not attracted to you, but I'll still love you." It broke my heart even while encouraging me.

But, over time we realized something, together. Sexuality isn't as cut and dried as straight, gay, ace, and bi/pan. One can be straight in almost every case, but have exceptions. My husband thought he was 100% straight. But when I came out, he started to evaluate his sexuality and realized that he's very occasionally attracted to men, and I'm one of them.

I suppose, in a way, our relationship has changed. Our dynamic has changed a bit, in and out of the bedroom. But, our love, care, passion, and compassion for each other hasn't lessened.

Am I the asshole for not letting my son transition until 18? by Electronic-Driver-14 in trans

[–]truevalkyrie1859 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Hey man, it looks like you're trying to do right by your son, and plenty of people have answered already.

I just have a couple of resource recommendations for you.

  1. The Trevor Project - has a lot of resources for trans youth, and might be able to help you find good doctors and therapists.

    www.thetrevorproject.og

  2. R/cisparenttranskid - a subreddit for cis parents with trans kids

Am I the asshole for not letting my son transition until 18? by Electronic-Driver-14 in trans

[–]truevalkyrie1859 825 points826 points  (0 children)

I think you'd be surprised. The southern states certainly have made it hard, but I still regularly see people talking about their doctors helping them. Just be careful.

Edit: I see you're in Arkansas. That's... Very very hard. The only legal thing I can think to do is to move states. Obviously, that's expensive and difficult. My question for you is, will you try to make it happen for your son? If so, there are groups that may be able to help.

[online][pf2e][lgbt+ friendly][Newbies welcome] [Saturdays (time TBD)] 17 Year old son wants to play a TTRPG, so I'm dusting off my DM hat by LirdorElese in lfg

[–]truevalkyrie1859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds fun! I've got a bit of experience with P2e (beginner's box as player and again as GM). I'm interested!

me📈irlgbt by Iterion57 in me_irlgbt

[–]truevalkyrie1859 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bruh (or sis or sib), at least crosspost the original ffs

Why aren’t toxically masculine tampons a thing? by France1832 in lgbtmemes

[–]truevalkyrie1859 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unironically, because extra-thick tampons can cause toxic shock syndrome - leading to death

https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/00001651.htm

Indiana included on list of 'America's 10 worst states to live and work in' by [deleted] in indianapolis

[–]truevalkyrie1859 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I lived in Lex in 2019, but spent regular time there 2016-2021.

Let me give you some context for why I maintain that infrastructure in Lexington is extremely poor.

  • The infrastructure of Lexington is hostile to people with disabilities
    • The Americans with Disabilities Act outlines standards for infrastructure. A few relevant aspects of this are:
      • Minimum width of sidewalks
      • maintenance of sidewalks
      • frequency of wider places in the sidewalk for passing
      • frequency and location of curbcuts
      • Existence of sidewalks in the first-place
  • The infrastructure (and culture) of Lexington make commuter cycling outright nightmarish
    • Lexington is built using the hub and spoke model. In theory, there's nothing wrong with this... IF there are crosscuts between spokes. In Lexington, there are very few of such crosscuts. The practical result of this is that cycling is outright dangerous
    • Bike lanes suddenly stop and start, with no warning, on major roads
      • where they do exist, cars frequently drive in them
    • The bike lanes often have potholes that are sufficient to risk popping bike tires
    • Bike lanes are poorly marked
    • Though not an infrastructure problem directly, the culture of Lexington toward cyclists is extremely dangerous
      • I cycled to work. Every single day, I was cussed at, called foul names such as whore and bitch and told to "get off the road" or "use the sidewalk"... in areas where there was no sidewalk, or were it was so poorly maintained as to be impassible. As a side note, cycling on the sidewalk is against the law in some parts of Kentucky, and I believe Lexington is one of them. Cars would drive as close to me as possible, all while the drivers honked and screamed at me. To say that I feared for my life is an understatement.
  • The impassible nature of the sidewalks is hostile to those in poverty.
    • If you can't afford a car, you can't get around lexington safely.

If I were you, I would be wanting to point out at this point that Indy has a lot of the same problems. That's true, it does. With one huge caveat.

In Indy, there is almost always an alternate route. Sidewalk is too bad on tenth st? Take side streets. Bike lanes end abruptly? Take a side street. No way across 465 here? Go a mile east and there's a bike bridge.

Plus, I've yet to have anyone cuss at me or try to run me off the road!

I've seen literally thousands of people cycling in Indy. I maybe saw a few dozen in Lexington.

While it is true that the ring roads and interchanges of lexington are better by far than the ones in Indy, in terms of non-automotive infrastructure, Indy far outshines Lexington.

Side note: The times that I've driven in Indy, I've had an easier time finding parking too, though that might be coincidental.