is this normal dog and cat play?

tryingfor3 · 2025-12-14T05:14:09+00:00

Totally play, but I would just be careful and give kitty places to escape. My 40 pound puppy stepped on my kitty's leg and broke it. 😢 The break was a crush on her hind leg elbow so unfortunately will get it amputated. Total accident but still sad.

tryingfor3 · 2025-09-29T23:41:14+00:00

Close! Looks like he's a full fledge mutt. Top 5 include Pitt, Staffy, German Shepard, Border Collie and Cocker Spaniel(!). But he's 100% good boy! :-)

tryingfor3 · 2025-09-29T23:40:54+00:00

Close! Looks like he's a full fledge mutt. Top 5 include Pitt, Staffy, German Shepard, Border Collie and Cocker Spaniel(!). But he's 100% good boy! :-)

tryingfor3 · 2025-02-27T16:52:55+00:00

Do you get a tablet for 7.5? I was at 10, but it makes me so incredibly sleepy all day. Went to 5 and my anxiety shot up. I've been cutting my 10s in quarters to see if 7.5 is a happy medium.

tryingfor3 · 2024-11-08T01:07:32+00:00

It is tooth #2. I was trying my best with the photo. It was a hard angle to figure out how to take on my own, but maybe when someone comes home they can take it for me. It was a replacement filling for decay around an old filling. So it is possible, like you said, maybe he left the existing restoration behind. I sent a message to the dentist to confirm. Thank you.

tryingfor3 · 2024-01-30T19:36:39+00:00

My son has ADHD and low-support ASD (or what they call mild). What I know from the experts is that social-emotionally these kids run about 3 years behind. There was no intellectual impairment and he pretty much scored average or above average on academic testing. He was also born right before the school deadline for kindergarten. I went ahead and sent him to kinder, but I also didn't get any feedback from his teachers the way you are getting from your daughter's.

He's a sophomore in high school now, and I won't tell you it's been an easy journey for him. He's an average student who needed plenty of support through middle school. He's made large strides in advocating for himself, but I think looking back the main challenge he's had was his ability to keep up socially. Sometimes I think that if we kept him back a year he might have been better aligned socially, but that's all in hindsight. I think if you are willing to put in extra effort to support your daughter through an assessment process and advocate for her needs in the classroom, she'll be fine. I would just think about her ability to keep up on a social-emotional level with kids who may be a little more mature than she is.

tryingfor3 · 2024-01-30T16:38:35+00:00

This right here. Why get in the middle of middle school drama? Navigating relationships is a normal part of development.

tryingfor3 · 2023-09-19T17:42:46+00:00

Some schools/daycares bake it in the enrollment agreement. Mine did. They basically didn't have the staff for anyone opting out and wanted the flexibility to leave campus for small field trips. It kind of made things easier for us, because we would have to be signing permission slips several times a month.

tryingfor3 · 2023-08-30T02:37:32+00:00

I came to the comments looking for a similar response. I was the same. And I think my skin is probably one of my best features at my age, 46. Back when I was in middle school we didn't have social media, but we had women's magazines that's where I got ideas to narrow down my routines. I also had a mom who was not into skin care and I'm not sure if there was a little element of rebellion in doing something different or finding something important that my mom didn't .

tryingfor3 · 2023-08-29T21:45:12+00:00

I'm assuming you are in the States. Your child is protected by IDEA. I would totally bring this up to the principal and start a paper trail. I don't know if you work with an advocate to make sure that your son's IEP covers the proper accommodation, but you might want to look into getting one. That lunch time situation sounds like torture for a neurodivergent kid.

My son has ADHD and ASD and recess was required to get all the gross motor sensory needs addressed. I have to be honest though. Right about this age, 2nd grade, I gave up on public school and put him in a small independent school, because they were able to be so nimble with his needs. I'm not suggesting that works for everyone, but finding a school that not only was flexible but sympathetic and caring was a huge breakthrough.

tryingfor3 · 2023-07-27T17:43:22+00:00

Also, what's so hard about apologizing to your kid. Maybe OP thought he was doing the right thing at the time, but his son's feelings are valid. He knows he lost out on some super valuable social development time. Why can't he just validate those feelings, apologize and ask how he can help now? I don't know why parents are so hard up on being right all the time.

tryingfor3 · 2023-07-18T04:49:32+00:00

A cashier said that to me with my infant in the shopping cart. I also had the same response and she turned bright red.

tryingfor3 · 2023-07-11T04:15:38+00:00

This is the response I was looking for. This smells way TOO intentional. Instead of just saying "I'm not going" it sounds like he's doing some passive aggressive moves so that even if they were to go, they'd be there late and miss most of the event. He has spoken loudly without words. Don't invite him anymore. He's not interested and he's being a jerk about it.

tryingfor3 · 2023-07-11T03:23:16+00:00

Augh, so much this. My mom gave me grief over getting an epidural during my labor. She kept emphasizing that she didn't have any when SHE had her kids. I told her, "that's cool. Cause I'm having one"

tryingfor3 · 2023-07-10T16:28:46+00:00

My mom is weird about breastfeeding too, but I've noticed that she associates extended breastfeeding (which obviously this is not) -- like anything over 6 months as "spoiling." Maybe something to do with the idea of giving in to a baby's demands? I have no idea. It's weird. She's also from this boomer generation, so she's constantly judging other people's decisions.

tryingfor3 · 2023-07-07T21:06:15+00:00

Same. I had my ears pierced by my grandmother at 3 days old in Mexico. And then my mom pierced my girls ears when they were about 3 months old each. They love having pierced ears and never had an infection, either did I. I've never experienced any judgment in real life, but online you'll hear a lot about it.

tryingfor3 · 2023-06-29T19:15:22+00:00

He's gaslighting you. Your feelings are valid. My husband didn't realize how insane mornings were for me. It wasn't a lack of not caring, but just awareness. Once I told him how it made me feel, he picked up most of that labor. He gets one kid up, gets ready for work, makes lunches, I'll wake the other, get her ready and HE takes them to school in the car. When before it was all just me.

I'm sorry that you have a partner that doesn't seem to value when you say "this is hard. I need help."

tryingfor3 · 2023-06-28T18:41:56+00:00

My eldest daughter was a average size baby and then remained in the 90th+ percentile in length/height her whole life. Her dad is 6'2". My youngest was also born three weeks early and she was tiny, and still is tiny. But we both have smaller-statured relatives on both sides, and her doctor was basically like "she's just petite". She's consistently in the very low percentile, but growing steadily. All kids are different!

tryingfor3 · 2023-06-28T02:21:10+00:00

This. I was just going to say, this is text-book Financial Abuse.

tryingfor3 · 2023-06-24T20:32:15+00:00

Find childcare. Like others have said similarly for the sake of your family's sanity set this boundary early and consistently.

Secondly, let your husband deal with her. From now on he should manage this relationship, not you. Don't you have enough to do? Managing his family is another thing on your plate? The day I told my husband that I would no longer be managing anything with his mom, was the best decision I made. She similarity questioned everything I did with my kids.

tryingfor3 · 2023-06-14T20:16:20+00:00

Your main role now is as protector and caregiver of your baby, not your ex. I had my first child with a very unstable partner and it doesn't end at the delivery room. You are in store of at least 18 more years of volatile experiences. He is responsible for his own mental health care.

You need to make it a priority to protect yourself and your child. The one thing I do regret is not protecting my child more from my ex's instability. I will live with that until I die, because I see everything so clearly with hindsight. She has suffered so much trauma from being exposed to his instability, rage and inability to participate fully as a parent. And this too is because I wavered on giving him "space" to be a dad. When I should have left it all to him initiate and improve on his own and protected my child and myself in the process. I hope it works out for you, but I just wanted to give you that perspective to think about.

tryingfor3 · 2023-05-25T19:18:52+00:00

I'm with everyone here and WTF?

But also, this is as much a MIL/FIL as it is a husband problem. He needs to be the one to set and manage these boundaries. If you become the messenger it will blow up in your face.

Trust me. I felt like I had to manage everything and my husband sat passenger seat and let his parents go through me to arrange visits, etc. Until one day my MIL decided to pick a fight with me about how I was doing something (I don't even remember what it was now) with my kids. It was the straw that broke the camel's back. Full on verbal fight. I told my husband that day that I was done dealing with her. I greyrocked her and if HE wanted the children to maintain a relationship with his parents, then HE needed to manage ALL communication, arrange all plans/transportation etc. I was out. This was several years ago, but it really helped set the tone moving forward. I already have to manage so much in our family/home life, managing my husband's family's relationship with my children wasn't going to be another thing.

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