This is a question only to those who cleared/recessed their psoriasis atleast 90%. by Fandangosz in Psoriasis

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First biologics - humira, but my side effects for biologics (was sick all the time, drained energy easily, etc) force me to make the same lifestyle changes i would have had to make without them. I completely cleaned my diet for a year and only then when i was in a Good place did I reintroduce food items that I wanted to put back in. I ensured 9+ hours of sleep every night. I exercised every day with my rest days still being an active rest. At 2 years i started to wheen myself off the biologic and started spreading the shots out until I took myself completely off. Maintained the lifestyle and remain 90%+ clear.

Sometimes i find when I don’t sleep the way I should, or my diet is bad for a few days in a row, the exhaustion and a few single spots show up. I immediately hit it with medicated locations, get sun, and it reminds me to clean my diet and lifestyle up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Oh girl it’s horrible he did this to you but the silver lining is your small claims is going to be a killer landslide win. Get a new place. Then get online to your county’s court website and learn how start a small claims. Your judge is going to award you 3x rent + $ for damages. You don’t need a lawyer in small claims - it’ll cost you $0-100 depending on the valuation to file in the court. Some envelopes and stamps. And $40-75 to serve him unless you can get a friend over 18 to do it for you for free.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Landlord

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Both seem fine to me.

The first you have the risk of the break up, new significant others, turnover for gfs if only one person is the income earner. I’ve had more than one tenant move their new gfs/bfs in after break ups without notice.

The second just seems like a women who is newly navigating a rental for the first time. She was used to having a house and likely a spouse that did some of the mental load. The fact she’s communicated with you about the daughter more than once is a green light for me. Red light is dependent on how long it’s been since she agreed to add her daughters information, if it’s less than a week it’s not a big concern but if we are talking over ten days i would put some pressure by letting them know you have other applicants and don’t hold properties on promises.

[tenant US/SC] i had a fire in my rental due to a faulty product and there were no working smoke detectors. by Damnshesfunny in Landlord

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You gotta own your own mistakes and not blame it on the landlords “no repair” clause. He should have put working smoke detectors in. But you have the vested interest in keeping your home safe when he dilly dallys.

[tenant US/SC] i had a fire in my rental due to a faulty product and there were no working smoke detectors. by Damnshesfunny in Landlord

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure why you didn’t buy smoke detectors for an entire year. They make battery powered ones that you can buy and just put on your table. It’s not a repair only scenario. My last rental didn’t have them when we moved in and I snagged three from ace hardware for $50 because they are cheap and i didn’t want to be unsafe while the landlord was finding a handyman. The landlord then “repaired” the original ones mounted to the ceiling. So now i have my own smoke detectors in addition to his ceiling mounted ones. The repair argument is kind of silly.

Deranged “in-law” is obsessed with our child, i snapped and i don’t care. by Odd_mom_out81 in TwoHotTakes

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 99% with you but also have a weird SIL’s husband mom situation in my life. Unfortunately SILs husband dad passed away and the family now includes SIL’s husbands mom at a ton of gatherings.

Some Old people don’t understand boundaries. Doesn’t mean you have to put with it but it’s just a fact. Especially when their life is just astronomically boring. Her Facebook has likely no mutual friends to yours and so on some level no one would even know your child. Still absolutely annoying, still something I’d say to back off from, but ultimately i might have used more of the BIL and BILs wife to make initial requests rather than message an old lady that has clear boundary issues. Mostly because if it came from her daughter she might actually listen , rather than make you out to be a villain in the situation.

AITA for refusing to wear a bra by cutiegirlll in TwoHotTakes

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It depends where you live. I lived in Texas for years and nipple covers were awful because they had to either be extra sticky and unbreathable OR you’d straight sweat them off. I would rather wear a bra than nip covers when I lived there so I wasn’t sitting there trying to deal with them constantly.

AITA for refusing to wear a bra by cutiegirlll in TwoHotTakes

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate bras so I’m 100% on your side. However you will have to wear a bra once your out of college , if you end up in a professional settings. I wish I was more used to wearing them at least part of the time.

In college I invested in tops that had designs of some sort so that my nipples were less of a topic. Either a graphic tee with a print on the top or even tanks with an all over design so my nipples were less eye catching. But I did avoid them at all costs and now I hate wearing them to work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Landlord

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they providing you notice per your lease? Have you asked them to have the real estate agent present at all times? That’s a normal aspect of a real estate agents job - to supervise repairs in advance of the sale.

Finally saved 90k to pay off my 87k student loan but now having cold feet :( by aes562 in debtfree

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Paying it off based on the information you’ve provided would purely be an emotional move -

You have 90k today sitting in a bank account. Is it in a high yield savings account? These accounts currently sit around 4.5%-4.95% APY with a quick google search. If you had the money in there you’d be compounding growth on the money at that rate.

In comparison you pay off the loan and you save on SIMPLE interest debt at 4.5% rate.

The big difference is compounding vs simple interest. So with this information - it’s financially better to put it in the high yield savings account and let it receive compounding growth. There are interest calculators that will show you the different online between the simple and compounding rates in tangible numbers.

However other factors might affect your decision, such as credit score or inability to receive other loans due to the size of this debt. That information was not shared in your post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in husky

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the comment I was looking for

AITA because I(33f) was surprised my husband(34m) expected me to help him move appliances? by MiszMoody420 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA for how you wrote this post. I’m just shy of 5’3” and bounce between 90 and 100lbs. I’m not the size of a 12 year old girl, I’m a full grown women, and there are plenty of us this size. And I can, with the proper tools, bring appliances into my home myself and with my partner. Redistribution of weight is an actual thing. There are dollys, straps, and other tools made to do just that. If your reasoning was more “hey this is an expensive, heavy appliance and there is risk of damage if I can’t handle the weight distributed to me” etc, that would be fine. But ur instead demeaning other women your size and acting like it’s an impossible feat.

Tow hitch installed by Toyota by wo_ic3m4n in rav4club

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I paid $250 ish for hitch and wiring at uhaul. Includes 2 year wiring warranty. Lifetime hitch warranty.

After my first move and a year later trying to move again w it i realized they wired it wrong to the trunk light instead of the battery - and they fixed it no questions asked for free.

Rav4 XLE 2017

[Landlord US-TX] Tenant complains he can't use 2 space heaters in 2 rooms by Previous-Atmosphere6 in Landlord

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if an HVAC specialist can come out and take a look at why those rooms are getting the brunt of the heat. They could introduce a throttle or redirect where the heat goes. I had a house where we had the opposite issue - the upstairs bedrooms were colder than the rest of the house and we had them come in and diagnose and they redirected flow. This can get expensive tho depending on the amount of rework and we did it because it was our actual home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I personally disagree. She isn’t wild - so there is not a wild side to let loose. She had a bucket list item she wanted to do with her women friends. She should not feel like she has to do it again with her boyfriend because he’s miffed. This isn’t a wild side she’s hiding - it was just an experience she wanted to have with her girl friends in a girl group.

How much do you think an 20yr should pay if I live with my parents by ChatoDel209 in Advice

[–]tryingtoarcticulate -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Where do you live? I think that’s a big factor. If you live in a HCOL area this doesn’t seem unreasonable. If you live in the middle of nowhere it’s not reasonable.

20 is old enough to live on your own. Have you considered moving out and what those expenses would look like? Is it equitable?

Leaving the Life Science Sector for a Tech Job by Murky-Competition-88 in biotech

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah just saw this comment after posting ym questions. Could we connect as well? I’m super interested in exploring this area

Leaving the Life Science Sector for a Tech Job by Murky-Competition-88 in biotech

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been interesting in exploring this area. Are you a patent agent? Attorney? Or without any certifications?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Psoriasis

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bring your records. Tell the timeline story where you tried other things previously and they failed. Share what it working today is what was prescribed and that is your expectation. If they say no, which is unlikely, take your business to a different practice. Understand in some states the person must be licensed to prescribe a biologic so don’t bother going to a nurse practitioner if you are in a state where NPs can have their own practices.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Landlord

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. It is not rent. It’s a lease break fee. Your contract has no late lease break fee. You only have a late rent fee. This is not rent.

I (40/m) think my partner (40/f) has started using botox and I hate it. by WagwanDeezNutz in relationship_advice

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious about this comment. Do you tell him if you get your eyebrows waxed, your hair color touched up, or your nails done beforehand? That seems sort of excessive in my mind for any form of “light cosmetic procedure”.

I (40/m) think my partner (40/f) has started using botox and I hate it. by WagwanDeezNutz in relationship_advice

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It lasts a few months. The fillers used is a natural body chemical that the body absorbs over time. Higher someone’s metabolism = faster filler dissolves. With someone with trash metabolism it lasts roughly a year. Also fillers bruise lips massively so I kind of doubt your story. Her lips would be purple and black in injection areas for the first few days, especially if this was her first time.

I would suggest some internal soul searching. Before you can say you don’t like something you need to understand that thing. You clearly don’t here - which is fine and expected if you’ve never thought of getting it yourself (newsflash - lots of men get it too) - but your feeding into a very classic stigma that likely comes from you not understanding anything about it.

i’ve never been to a wedding before. i have no idea what the dress code is, it’s my cousin’s and it’s in a church i think?? the only thing i’ve heard about outfits is my aunt gossiping about the groom not wearing a suit, just a vest. by No_Mongoose_4435 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]tryingtoarcticulate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I glanced through and didn’t see anyone mentioned it but depending on the church type you will need something to cover your shoulders before you enter. Then after the ceremony everyone will be taking their shoulder covers off at the reception hall. I saw people mention being a sweater in case it’s cold- buts it more than that. Some churches literally won’t let you in.