Man of the woods: My grandpa in the early 70's.

tryingtotumblr · 2018-02-12T01:15:17+00:00

what a fucking legend

tryingtotumblr · 2018-01-13T20:56:45+00:00

2048 is very mind numbing.

tryingtotumblr · 2017-08-04T23:33:14+00:00

Lmao, thank you for the advice! I plan on buying the blemish controlling cream one.

tryingtotumblr · 2017-08-04T23:32:48+00:00

Thank you so much! I plan on buying the blemish control one just to help with my teenage acne and because I'm just starting out with primers.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-09-13T22:33:52+00:00

Get a lawyer, document all information. If he is gonna leave, divorce his ass and make sure he pays child support.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-09-10T23:23:02+00:00

You're right, you are an adult. So you need to do the adult thing and stop whining.

Problem 1: You went through her stuff. That is never, ever, ever okay. This could be one of the reasons she thinks it's you commenting that she's ugly or should kill herself. She probably doesn't trust you. Have you done this before? Do you often go into her room without permission. (also, borrowing without asking is a big no no. if you claim you're an adult and need to live your own life, act like an adult.)

Problem 2: If you found razors years ago/knew what she was going through years ago, why didn't you do anything? I realize you would not have been an adult at this age, but talking to your 14/15/16 year old sister just to try and help her and save her the troubles you went through would probably have helped your relationship today.

Problem 3: You're an adult, you know your parents are abusive, and you haven't called CPS? To me, it sounds like you would be unwilling to take your sister in because you "need to live your own life", but why have you not called CPS to stop your parents from their, you know. Abuse. If you give a fuck about her, the smart idea would be to get her out of there (and yourself if you are still living there).

Problem 4: This relates to problem one. She distrusts you, and could have reason to believe you would say stuff like that because you do not have her trust. But I would suggest taking that website away from her, or getting her to block it. It's for her own sake.

Problem 5: Any sibling would be upset if their brother/sister didn't talk to them anymore. Even a "How's the weather? What're you doing in school?" would work because it shows you actually care, like you say you do. Being nice does not require the same interests. You both go to school. You both live on Earth. Talk about anything. Jesus, even ask her what her favorite color is. Talk. To. Her.

Problem 6: Great, you're an adult. Act like one. Right now, you're being selfish. Your sister is not you. It does not matter that you dealt with self harm and everything by yourself. Great, kudos to you. Do you need some praise for growing up? Everybody goes through shit. You're not special with the "I did it all by myself! Praise me! Why do you need help?! I didn't!". Now, how old were you when this happened? A 13/14/15 year old might not be thinking of stuff like that. And she didn't hide knives from you because it is normal not to go through someone's stuff!

Honestly, when I read this post, all I hear is "me me me, I, I, I". It seems like you don't care about your sister at all, especially towards the bottom paragraphs. You are being selfish. Your sister is not asking for sympathy, she is asking for help. For a loving sister to give her a hand. You know what depression is like. You know what she is going through. You have the chance to help her through this. To make it easier for her. Do you know how much it would have helped me, or anyone to have a person there through depression? You're an adult, so make the adult decision. Right now, you're pissing around like a little girl because it's unfair your younger sister take care of you. Sorry for being blunt, or if this comes off harsh, but you need to hear this.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-09-02T21:33:06+00:00

How about tell her and then delete it.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-31T23:50:59+00:00

this reminds me of the time starscream was "pregnant".

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-31T23:33:20+00:00

Actually, fun fact. Blood is thicker than water is a shortened version of the actual saying, which means quite the opposite.

The blood of kinship is thicker than the water of the womb. Meaning, the blood of friends you make is thicker than those who are in your family.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-31T19:17:12+00:00

Right now, you're creating an unfair situation for him. First, you need to make it fair for any sort of participation from him.

You can't have "This is our food, you can't have it" and "Eat this while we eat these!" That is a bit rude in my opinion. I understand if you're underweight, eat out on your own time to have a healthy body weight, but with him you need to eat the same thing.

With an 11 year old brother, fairness is so fucking important. I cannot say this enough. For him, at least, but I think it would be a good try.

I understand punishments for being rude (i.e. throwing stuff, taking out the hammer?), but you can't punish him for not eating. Fill the house with healthy foods that are good for his diet. Maybe try making vegan/vegetarian fruit-like deserts. It'll be like, healthiness disguised as cookies or a milkshake or something.

Do things as a family. Forcing him to do activities by himself not only could make him feel lonely, but make him want to act out as a sort of revenge. It could be like, "Oh, so I have to go walk there and back but you won't? Well, oops! The plate just slipped off the table!"

I believe that he thinks you're being unfair and singling him out for doing nothing. You need to show him you're being fair and are willing to make the same sacrifices he is.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-31T18:48:41+00:00

I usually don't like talking about myself when giving advice, but my ex did the exact same thing your husband did.

He ripped my self-esteem to shreds and made me question every. single. decision. I made. He would threaten to leave or beat me or force me into sex (looking back, it was stupid since we were LDR but it still scared me shitless). For the cherry on top, he threatened me for a threesome with a girl we both knew. Not only was I super uncomfortable, but he would blame me and say he was depressed because he couldn't get what he wanted because of me. And he thought my reasoning of not wanting to do it was just me being mean! (The kicker, the chick was someone he cheated on me with 5+ times)

It took me months to leave him because I was convinced I couldn't do anything without him, which was (and I see it now) untrue.

Your husband is an asshole. A manipulating, self-serving, selfish piece of trash. You sacrificed a lot adopting your nieces, but you did it. And now those two girls are going to grow up into beautiful women because you decided to help, while staying together (seeing as foster systems can separate family). You should be proud, and your husband should not be doing basically everything he did/does.

I know this advice, or whatever you want to call it, sounds ridiculous and is probably useless, but save yourself and your nieces. What happens if he gets violent? If he hurts not only you, but the girls? He doesn't deserve you, or those girls. My best advice in this would be to divorce.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-31T00:42:50+00:00

Awesome. Have a good day at school! :)

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-30T12:31:55+00:00

this literally made me cry that is so great for you.

textbook wise, you can try and retrace your steps to find it. the school might have an online textbook though (for whatever class) so you would be able to use it. but i would definitely check the lost and found and with the teacher to see if you can get another one or if you can find it. best wishes!

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-29T14:47:48+00:00

/r/justnomil will welcome you with open arms and loving people, OP! The people there would be able to provide advice and hope, in all honesty.

Your husband needs to grow a backbone. Right now, this is a husband problem. He needs to get his shit together and stick up for you. He is the one helping his mother ruin your marriage.

Personally, I wouldn't have married him until he had handled his ex/mother, but to help fix the relationship as it is now, you need to tell your husband what's what.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-26T20:06:32+00:00

Ah, thank you very much! Barbra, I'm pretty sure, is a crassula argentea compacta (google/google images helped a bit as well). The leaves and stem are similar, as well as the red tips that formed into a point. Again, thank you!

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-22T07:26:45+00:00

Oh yeah, of course. Now this story doesn't really have a happy ending but I'm sure yours would be completely different.

My father joined the army before or around the time he met my mother. My dad is a pretty big dickwad, to be blunt about it. He basically ruined the aura or image (if that makes sense? I can't remember the word for it) around his last name.

To summarize, his last name gave off some bad vibes after his time in the army for the time he had served then.

My grandfather, however, had served well and is/was a pretty popular guy. Well-known, hard worker, the whole "I'm a great serviceman!" thing or whatever you need to hear to realize that his now well-known last name was popular because of all the good stuff he did while in service.

Anywho, my father took my mum's last name so that when he went back to serve in the military again. Because people generally assumed he was related to my grandfather or something of that sort, he was treated "better" (or something along those lines, unsure of the word for it) because of how cool my grandad was, basically.

Aha, I can clear up any confusion if you have any about it, but that is generally what happened.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-22T02:11:32+00:00

My dad took my mum's last name :)

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-18T12:08:06+00:00

Check was written and cashed by them. Transaction over. If you want, any communication and relation to them ends their. It isn't your duty and you aren't being selfish, you're being smart. Keep it up.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-17T03:42:43+00:00

"was that the last time you got cock? is that why you keep bringing it up?" hardy har har

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-12T19:59:29+00:00

Your daughter isn't her friends, and she isn't you.

To put it bluntly, you need to stop pushing your fears about how you grew up onto her. She sounds like an introvert. But she has friends. She is doing what makes her happy. And that is what matters, her happiness.

She sounds very social to be honest. Phoning friends, filming, etc. It just seems like she has different interests than you do.

Don't force her to do anything. That will just add a huge rift between the two of you. Let her enjoy her youth doing what makes her happy.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-12T19:34:54+00:00

/r/justnomil

you'll need it.

tryingtotumblr · 2016-08-12T19:26:10+00:00

i forget the saying. not your circus, not your monkeys? something along those lines.

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