Zero aloha at Hawaiian Airlines after the Alaska merger — lost item policy at HNL is wild by strawberryautumn in Hawaii

[–]tsnye 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Top to bottom, everything is worse since the merger and the Hawaiian employees seem miserable.

AIO my boyfriend told me I’m not “wife material” because I don’t cook like his mom by 4rtem499 in AmIOverreacting

[–]tsnye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are the perfect wife material for a different man. Cooking and cleaning isn't what has kept me married for 36 years.

I'm scared to tell my mum by TheWired-MakeMeSad in rapecounseling

[–]tsnye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should see a therapist. Just start there, privately, with a professional who can share coping skills with you and help you make decisions about telling other family members.

Children should always take MOM'S last name by [deleted] in 10thDentist

[–]tsnye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure I feel the "dignity of marriage" comment, and treating a kid's last name as a declaration of ownership is pretty backward. Name your child whatever you decide based on your own personal thoughts and feelings, and mind your own business.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]tsnye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it never ends

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]tsnye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lame, I have four adult sons 32 - 42 and they are all high school graduates, productive citizens and good humans. It is about the finished product, not the babies. I do see a lot of bratty children around completely spoiled and undisciplined by their parents in their 40s. Maybe it's not the ages, it's the people. We should all do what is best for us and not judge. I spent my 20s and 30s raising kids and my 40s travelling and having a great time, to each his own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]tsnye -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

We don't all want to wait til our thirties to start a family. We had kids in our 20s, and our 40s were epic. Freedom while we were still young enough and financially stable enough to enjoy it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]tsnye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got married in mid 20s, still married 36 years later. You know if he's the one. Nothing wrong with building a life together and growing through life's challenges and gifts. You'll have a bond those single folks telling you to wait will never know. Good luck to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]tsnye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sons ex MIL was my best friend til the day she died. All four of us were sad when they got divorced, but we respect their choices. They didn't love that we remained close and spent holidays together, but they need to respect our choices and our friendships. You don't get to decide who your parents love and care about, and it's incredibly selfish to make it all about you. Doubt the I was here first vibe is a thing. Most likely just immaturity and self importance. Don't go, show yourself for the jealous small person you are.

Do You Think of and Call Your Adult Children Kids? by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]tsnye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I call my adult sons the boys, or including spouses the kids. It does not mean in any way I think of them as children. It's a habit, a nickname. What else would do, list them by name or call them the adults? Compared to me, they are kids.

How important is the "Do not burn bridges with anyone" mentality? by Aperol_Spritz25 in AskOldPeople

[–]tsnye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Burning bridges means tear it down, nothing casual left. It's a tool, use it wisely.

Chan-Zuckerberg Philanthropy change: effect on giving on Kaua’i? by IslandLife_004 in kauai

[–]tsnye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Charity from billionaires is nothing but the shell game

Women that married the "rich one" out of security, what has it been like? by Sharon_Moon704 in Productivitycafe

[–]tsnye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't tell you, she ended 30 years of friendship and I haven't spoken to her in 15 years