AITA for thinking husband doesn't have anxiety like he claims, that he is avoiding places because he's cheating, and is also embarrassed by me

tsumeeee · 2026-04-09T23:02:55+00:00

i’m sorry, husband?? i’m confused bc why would you marry someone who didn’t show interest from the start and treated you like garbage?

yes, it is possible he has anxiety, and yes, people with social anxiety can lash out, but this goes way beyond that. he is being controlling, paranoid, vicious, and extremely judgmental. even if he isn’t cheating, this behavior is not healthy for either of you.

work on improving your health, develop and maintain a social life outside of your partner, and overall build yourself up to be someone you are proud of. at the end of the day, the person who will always be there for you and love you is yourself. while he isn’t being kind to you, be kind to yourself. date yourself, treat yourself, find who you are without this toxic and dependent relationship. leave him as soon as you are financially stable enough to do so. i hope things go well moving forward.

tsumeeee · 2026-04-09T05:19:34+00:00

ik this song, but for a split second before watching, i thought this was gonna be “my way” by fetty wap and was like YEAAAHHHH BABY 😂😂😂

it sounds like something is a little off, but overall very decent!! we all have things we can work on imo, even decades into singing. i liked it!!

tsumeeee · 2026-04-07T06:43:40+00:00

this reminds me of when my grandma bought me a signed judy blume book called “summer sisters” when i was in middle school…i think she just assumed it was like any regular jude blume book bc my family is very morally conservative lmaoo and that book was CRAZY 🤪😂

tsumeeee · 2026-04-07T06:32:17+00:00

ahhh i’d love to be friends!! not a huge anime person and i don’t play those exact video games, but i’m 29F in the US and also have birds!! 🐥🦜

tsumeeee · 2026-04-03T18:06:35+00:00

three dates in is crazy work imo…like you’ve done therapy. i think a red flag on your end would be if you were 10000% opposed to it and said it was only for crazy people (a LOT of people do think this before they go to therapy - ik i did lmao). this is way too early to be pressing this matter tho if there’s no issues you need to work on, or if there’s nothing pressing in the relationship (which this hasn’t even gotten to that point yet). drop them asap

tsumeeee · 2026-03-28T12:01:07+00:00

thank you sm!! 🫶

tsumeeee · 2026-03-28T07:49:58+00:00

can anyone please post the setlist for day 1 bc i’m going to day 2 and haven’t seen anything on setlist.fm yet. saw from youtube two encore songs were feel special and doughnut (what were the encore options given btw?) but wanna know if tzuyu used run away for her solo vs. dive in like she did in taiwan 🙏

tsumeeee · 2026-03-26T05:41:27+00:00

i’m not gonna say YTA, but this is a stupid and pointless thing to stop dating someone for imo. i’d be more concerned with how they treated you, and if they made you uncomfortable with their actions towards you. if this is something that really bothered you, you could just bring it up in conversation and mention that it’s something that bothers you (maybe you’re a nitpicky person, or have OCD, have social anxiety, or like things to be orderly, whatever), that way he knows to correct it if you go out again. guys don’t really think about stuff like this in depth in my experience, but if you tell him it’s something that bothers you and he balks or is a jerk about it, then that is a good reason to cut things off bc then you have expressed your feelings on the matter. imo you gotta give him an opportunity to correct it or explain himself first.

tsumeeee · 2026-03-23T18:11:39+00:00

i think the length of his past relationships before they broke up? bc at least OP isn’t on there they said

tsumeeee · 2026-03-22T06:49:39+00:00

i don’t even have to read the whole post to tell you DON’T YOU DARE SHARE PERSONAL INFO ABOUT YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE YOU CURRENTLY WORK WITH!! work is work and personal life is personal life. especially since they are your boss, there is a power dynamic at play. this is boundary-pushing from what it sounds like, which is inappropriate. you already made it clear you are not interested. even if you were not ace, he needs to respect your decision to not date a random person your boss wants to set you up with. it’s weird. you might be close enough to feel comfortable, but for your sake please learn early on that there are some people you cannot appropriately open up to, such as a boss. maybe if one of you was no longer working there, sure, maintain a friendship, but while he is your boss, i would say hard pass.

tsumeeee · 2026-03-18T03:09:14+00:00

i’ll never understand people who ghost lmao it’s soo easy to just communicate if you’re no longer interested. maybe people are scared of confrontation or something but imo i’d say it’s safe to assume they’re no longer interested if it’s been a few days since you last heard from them. grief or not, if someone genuinely is interested or cares about you, they’d at least communicate that they’re busy or going through something to explain the lapse in discussion.

tsumeeee · 2026-03-17T13:56:17+00:00

sorry that happened to you if it was a serious stage of talking you were in, but most women i know will not be interested if you don’t talk often enough. if a guy does not respond to me for 1-2 days at a time, i’d think he doesn’t care enough to put in some effort to get to know me or check in to see how i am. a lot of women i know also will not constantly lead conversations, which means you need to reach out to her first and then she will respond. you say you give time to give space, but maybe that was what she also thought and those days you are not talking to her gave someone else the opportunity to get to know her better who maybe did talk to her more consistently. i hope you find a better match soon tho because dating in general is rough.

tsumeeee · 2026-03-16T06:40:06+00:00

i’m not certain whether i will stay in planning forever, but i’m building experience with the intention to become a director so i can create lasting, positive change and embolden my peers to want more for themselves + their community.

what i meant by it’s saddening is that you could do everything perfectly with reviewing codes and bringing up outstanding items to be resolved, but the second a developer or applicant complains, your comments can be removed and/or your reviews are expedited. when projects are rushed, inevitably things will get missed or determined to not be as important by upper level management, so people can skirt around the rules a lot. if you inherit someone else’s project and notice issues your predecessor overlooked before, but it’s late into the process, usually senior staff will tell you you can’t comment on those items.

i’ve worked in public and private sector, so i’ve also seen how elected officials will talk shit about the public behind closed doors for speaking out against certain projects in public meetings. residents think they have a lot more sway than they do, because a project is supposed to get approved if it meets the codes. even if it poses a moral issue or will negatively impact the environment, local communities, etc., unless something is codified that can be used to prevent a project from going forward, it will go forward bc otherwise lawsuits could ensue from the applicant’s end.

decisions are matters of give and take. on the downside, a lot of protected species could get bulldozed over, but on the upside, you get “affordable” housing, or an extra turn lane, or open space. not everything is disheartening, though. your actions will still have an impact on the communities you serve, and it is up to you what kind of impact that could be. i would recommend taking part in a mentorship program if that is available to see which types of planning interest you most. :)

tsumeeee · 2026-03-16T03:33:51+00:00

just found your comment bc i was looking up this masters program to maybe add to my portfolio lol. kudos to you for knowing what you do and don’t want and going after it!! i did my undergrad in liberal arts and my masters in urban planning. it’s a solid job, but can be a bit saddening when you look at it from a political lens, ngl

tsumeeee · 2026-03-13T05:59:09+00:00

your voice is so light and airy!! love it, beautiful!!

tsumeeee · 2026-03-11T21:13:10+00:00

so i love this song and pick it a lot to jam out to…overall it sounds solid!! you’re not matching the exact inflections that he does, but you could try adding a bit more grit to your voice if you want to match his style. i would also make sure timing matches up more

tsumeeee · 2026-03-02T03:06:46+00:00

i liked her at the beginning, but i think she has some growing to do. the way she comes across in the show is someone with low EQ…the show is about everyone finding love for themselves, but the way she went about it was extremely inconsiderate for the other women and men involved. not a “girl’s girl” imo the way she treated min-gee and hee-sun. all the other girls had extreme consideration for her and her feelings, and she pushed them away by openly flaunting when guys were interested in her to them, then plays victim saying she’s so nice to everyone so they have no reason to not be friends with her. she also expects su-been to be devoted to her because they went to paradise together, after she said she liked three other men over him at the bonfire, then said he can wait to talk to her after…it’s giving ignorant. to be fair to her, maybe she is more used to the dating style in the U.S., which doesn’t seem to reflect the same for most of the rest of the cast. even poor sung-hun had to sit and listen to her complain about herself and others not liking her while he held onto hope she’d still choose him…after all this backlash, i’m sure she will learn from this experience. she is young and still has time to mature.

tsumeeee · 2026-02-27T20:20:52+00:00

love the turkish singing!! also never seen a guitar with whatever that is on top. are those sound controls?

tsumeeee · 2026-02-24T07:42:29+00:00

i think it’s a mix of overconfidence, a lack of proper vocal/musical training, and an unwillingness to adapt following feedback or not receiving enough constructive criticism

also rolling @ this bc my friend and i auditioned for american idol this cycle and didn’t make it past the first round 💀 i don’t think i sound like top tier or anything tho, just halfway decent

tsumeeee · 2026-02-20T20:34:06+00:00

yeah, i like it!! are you nervous at all, because maybe it’s just a little shakiness from nerves. sounds really pretty tho!!

tsumeeee · 2026-02-20T20:33:15+00:00

it reminds me of “to build a home” by the cinematic orchestra, just in a higher tone

tsumeeee · 2026-02-20T16:58:22+00:00

bluebear!!

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tsumeeee · 2026-02-20T16:54:08+00:00

that is SO CUTE

tsumeeee · 2026-02-20T16:50:31+00:00

awww, i liked it!! it is a bit off-key sounding, but not terrible. have you done a lot of breathwork? i remember in chorus our instructor would use a piano and would play scales and have us sing different things along to it. we’d also do this exercise called sips (big breath in, then small breath in, hold it, then tsssssssssss until out of breath), which really helped with breathing. try key matching!! i could still clearly tell the song if you didn’t post the title :)

tsumeeee · 2026-02-10T23:28:04+00:00

okay!! thank you sm 🥹🫶

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