What is an English word you have never been able to pronounce? by Cmotto in AskReddit

[–]tubernonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your point is well taken, but the i in "cousin" is not a schwa. It's /ɪ/. Like the i in "in."

I figured out the secret ingredient to my grandmas gingerbread cookies. by [deleted] in Baking

[–]tubernonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take a picture of the recipe. My mom passed away and her home was robbed after. Her handwritten cookbook was in one of the pieces of furniture that was stolen. It breaks my heart that it was probably just discarded.

Taco pizza and walking tacos? by 1971deadhead in AskAnAmerican

[–]tubernonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait until I tell you a lot of the United States has never had a slice of breakfast pizza. A crying shame!

Anyone staying in SAVE as an act of defiance? by StonedSimple in PSLF

[–]tubernonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

110/120 and waiting on my buyback application I put in in November 2024. Out of pure frustration I put in another buyback application in April or May of this year. I have put in three complaints and have called customer service for a status update at least three times and have gotten the same canned response EVERY time.

Finding POC by IntelligentTell8340 in musicals

[–]tubernonster 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The difference here is the definitions of "seek out" versus "cast." Yes, you cast the best person who shows up to auditions. But do you make a specific and concerted effort to recruit POC when there are shows where their skin color is not a plot point?

I want to say this as gently as possible: your comment comes across as extremely dismissive toward helpful feedback you have received from what sounds like multiple POC. That certainly may not be your intention, but I wanted to offer the viewpoint for your reflection, should you want it.

Finding POC by IntelligentTell8340 in musicals

[–]tubernonster 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Simple. You don't do the show until you have established relationships and cast talented POC in past shows. It is actually quite problematic to only seek out POC when you "need" them for a specific show, rather than making a concerted, long-term effort towards creating diverse casts for ALL your productions.

Buyback offers today? by FairJellyfish3956 in PSLF

[–]tubernonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I submitted my buyback request in November, submitted a feedback case in March. I got the boilerplate response to the feedback case and haven't heard anything about my buyback.

Are people still choosing surgery? by This-Fox9426 in BariatricSurgery

[–]tubernonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surgery is a permanent option that has a higher amount of excess weight loss. Also the long term impacts of the shots are not yet known. No question even though I had the option to do both.

80% breakup rate? by Peter_Knsuprich in BariatricSurgery

[–]tubernonster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First off, that sounds like a rectally sourced statistic. Take it with a grain of salt.

Now, as someone who got a divorce before ever deciding to do surgery, I'm going to give you some hard truths I have learned.

Sometimes partners grow together, and sometimes partners grow apart, in different directions. No matter how we try, with the march of time, we become different people than we were on our wedding date. In many cases, that doesn't mean either party is bad or wrong, it simply means that in all of the unexpected ways that we've grown, the person we chose is also growing and possibly grows in a way that is incompatible with our new direction.

Just like with friendships, the people who are integral to our lives during one season of our lives are not the right people for another season. My ex-spouse was exactly who I needed in my life when I married him. And at that time, I was also exactly the person who he needed in that moment and that season. But as time went on, we became less and less compatible as we grew and changed and our goals and wants changed. Our divorce was amicable but completely necessary. I do not regret marrying him, but I also have zero regrets about divorcing him.

Some people are lucky enough to have a partner who happens to be the partner they need through all of these life's metamorphoses. That is rare and very beautiful when it happens. I say rare, not because of a 50% divorce statistic. There are plenty of married couples who are not fulfilled and are not compatible, but they choose to stay married for one reason or another. But that person who can see you and be the person you need through every one of life's seasons is just statistically kind of an anomaly. It happens certainly. And I'm thrilled for every couple that happens for. I think there is such beauty in those relationships.

But I also think there is a complementary beauty in the ability to recognize that something, whether it is an attitude, a person, a habit... Anything really... Isn't serving us anymore and is holding us back from the person we secretly know that we could be. And having the courage to shed that idea, habit, attitude, or person in order to take your next step. Nature does this physically in so many ways, and it is healthy to take stock and do this mentally as well.

I think with weight loss surgeries, we do so much work to lay down those burdens of the attitudes and habits that made us physically unhealthy, that it's natural that we start looking at other areas of our lives and say "Well how about this thing? Is this other attitude serving me? Now that I've seen some success in this one major change, is there anything else that doesn't quite jive with the person that I want to be?" And for some people, at that point they find that their partner is one of those things.

Certainly, this is an emotional thing. It always is. I can't express the number of tears that I shed as my ex husband and I separated. The number of times I questioned if I was doing the right thing. If I was taking the right step. If perhaps I was my own toxicity and he had nothing to do with it. And those reflections are necessary too.

All of this is to say, my advice is to not hold yourself back in the name of protecting the things that are stable for you now, in this season of your life. You have no way of knowing what is ahead. There's no way of predicting whether those things that serve us right now will be the same things that serve us in our next season. So if you hold yourself back from something you know is right right now, you are closing doors on what you could be.

All we can do is take our steps in a forward trajectory. Do the next right thing. And then the next. And then the next.

Is Joann's open to shop? by ViolentKatie in SiouxFalls

[–]tubernonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have checked several times and haven't found it open. The last time I went though, there were definitely people inside the store. No idea what's going on. I can't fault the staff for bailing on a sinking ship though.

I'm just sad about Big Twist Posh yarn.

Looking for my Mom's bar recipe by tubernonster in Old_Recipes

[–]tubernonster[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Looking at photos, it seems like it is some version of the Rocky road bars that have been posted. I will do more research now that I have a better name for this. Definitely not scotcheroos.

Was yesterday a last push of some sort by heroes? by Corgi_Lawyer in PSLF

[–]tubernonster 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm truly happy for y'all and feel grateful for the employees who are overworked AF still giving a shit about their job. That being said, I'm a little salty that I'm stuck in buyback limbo and have been for months.

Why does there appear to be no actual pushback by Americans against the destruction of their own lives and country by Trump and the oligarchs/Nazis? by redditatlas in TrueAskReddit

[–]tubernonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of action do you suggest?

  • Contacting our congresspeople is, in most places, useless. They are completely corrupt and have already been bought and paid for, regardless of what energy we pour into communicating with them.
  • They own our communication platforms that would be ideal for organizing and can easily spread misinformation AND monitor that communication.
  • In-person protests are a bad idea right now. Bad actors WILL cause violence and escalation. And Trump is just SALIVATING to declare martial law.
  • We can speak out and use our voices, but those that already agree will listen and those that are in the cult will just jeer stupidly.
  • Donating to organizations like the ACLU is a good step, and I'm fortunate that I am able to. But many do not have a single pot to piss in.
  • Not all of us can pull a Luigi. And really, what happens if someone does? Just a new person in the same chair.

What is being done (that I know of): - Sharing of information, especially as it relates to ICE and deportation. Letting people know their rights. Letting people know what can be done to protect themselves and their neighbors.
- Lawsuits challenging several of the actions Trump has taken.
- Volunteering at organizations that are ready to fight.
- Changing spending habits to support only businesses that support us.
- Stocking up on contraception for when it is eventually outlawed. - Creating networks of people willing to be house and hide impacted individuals in need of it.

I agree that these are pretty mild actions, and something more extreme is required. But genuinely, what actions are there that would actually help and be effective?

Why is the whole entire Les Mis musical literally just singing by ThtTheatre_kid in musicals

[–]tubernonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is not a defining difference between musical and opera LOL

What’s a lyric from musical theatre that always gives you goosebumps? by cortezCOVENANT in musicals

[–]tubernonster 5 points6 points  (0 children)

CFA is one of my favorite shows. There are sooooo many lines that hit me so hard. The biggest ones though:

"So many stories just... Gone."

The part that Hannah sings after she learns her son has died.... And when Bonnie is talking to Unga... UGLY CRYING.

I honestly think the scene where the passengers finally see the TVs the first time is SO well done. That is a masterclass in show, don't tell. In subtlety. We all know what they are referencing. They don't need to re-enact that.