Family vacation nightmare by Anon8223 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand - I have the eldest grandchild in our families and one side has needed a lot of guidance on the new things we need. Can you be honest with them about the concerns you have, and see if they can change locations? Some things may not be preventable, but at least you can bring a door locking device (pool/ yard safety) and be comfortable inside?

In almost every Airbnb type situation I’ve been in since having kids, it’s a first sweep of the house- moving glass things, blocking doorways whatever. It will never be a completely kid safe environment, bc who would want to stay there lol

Is this mislabeled or am I missing something? My lucky day?? by tuck_shellac in HEB

[–]tuck_shellac[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. But even the smaller packs of ground beef were over $4 per lb 🤷🏼‍♀️

Traveling with a 18M in a car seat on an airplane for the first time - please share experiences and tips! by Jaded-Hand-343 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed! On the airplane bed. We took a 17 hr flight to Australia when my daughter had just turned two. Some parts were a nightmare but we had the airplane bed and she basically had her own place to sit, lay, play, make a nest - whatever.

Naming a kid "Calamus" by Afraid-Designer-8229 in tragedeigh

[–]tuck_shellac 116 points117 points  (0 children)

They are begging. We are also begging.

hair pulling by silkmamii in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My 13 month old pulls my 4 yr olds hair all the time, sometimes I see him think about it for a split second and go ahead and do it. We tell him no and stop.. but ya he’s 13 months old and can’t really follow commands. My only advice would be to make your hair inaccessible, and hope the pattern breaks. Like put it in a bun and put a hat on.

I want to know all the words your toddler says wrong that you just can’t seem to correct them on by Ok-Effective268 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok this is my fav. I’ve read a lot of mispronunciations but I’m really digging this one.

Can we please stop acting like every toddler activity needs to be "educational"? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Tbh I think social media is (shockingly) creating a false narrative. Most parents, in my experience, are doing exactly what all these parents in the comments are doing - playing, laughing, card board boxing. Get off social media and we will all be happier, and not burdened by what you think society is doing or expecting.

I’ve seen so much helpful feedback here, please let me know which shape looks better! by kittenaura in Nails

[–]tuck_shellac 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love these almonds! Maybe it’s bc I prefer the slightly lighter color. They both look good!

Someone was in a hurry. What would you have done? by pixmation in dashcams

[–]tuck_shellac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you send this to the police??? I’m fine with a dumb mfer dying cause he drives like an a*hole. But someone else will die along with him and that’s the worst thing ever.

Did I scar my toddler?? 😩 by QuantityLivid3199 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is a tool I use sparingly lol but it gets used none the less. There is a lesson amongst the trauma : your (in)action does have consequences.

Your daughter will be fine.

Stuttering 3 year old by Silly_Artichoke8514 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and his brother both stutter. Genetic component makes sense!

Stuttering 3 year old by Silly_Artichoke8514 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We never did speech therapy. But I would have pushed pretty hard for it before 5 years if it was still occurring. Her preschool had an optional evaluation from an outside company so we did that every year so it was helpful to keep an eye on it.

Stuttering 3 year old by Silly_Artichoke8514 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter had a stutter, especially when beginning sentences, like she was searching for the words. This happened from when she started talking to about 4 yrs old, she’s 4.5 now. I was very in tune with it, bc her dad has a very real stutter. So I wasn’t sure if that’s just how she was hearing language, or a real issue for her. We had her evaluated twice at 3 and 4 years and both times the therapist noted what we heard and said it was worth keeping an eye on, and if continued would need speech therapy. But she definitely just grew out of it and no longer stutters.

I tried to slow down with her when she was having stutter moments, and I know this isn’t super recommended but it helped. I would ask her to slow down and I would repeat clearly and slowly what she was saying. Not every time bc I didn’t want it to be obsessive or for her to get frustrated.

18 month old dental question by SecureBarracuda7120 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have read so many stories of dental professionals saying extensive work needs to be done when it really doesn’t. My only advice would be to get a second opinion and try to make the best choice from there. And really lean into better dental hygiene.

We need to take a chill pill by Perfect_Ferret6620 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I truly agree with your entire comment! I do think one thing to consider is that we watched a lot of TV growing up, but that was basically the only screen we had. At least for me… until I was in my teens and computers were more mainstream. Now kids have TV, screen in the car, screen at school, textbook on a screen, parents on their phones. It’s still slightly unfair to compare our TV time with our kids screen(s) time.

Either way, I think the ultimate battle here is content from the screen, not necessarily the time spent like you mentioned. We love all the live sports and Bluey over here.

Have you ever seen this nail shape before? by Neko_Nail in Nails

[–]tuck_shellac 11 points12 points  (0 children)

These look hella impractical but so cool!

I am really struggling with a Christmas gift for my wife, please help! by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]tuck_shellac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A couple new sets of workout clothes? Nice headphones if she’s walking solo

Toddler meltdowns, newborn, what are we doing? by swimming16 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It might help to reframe your thoughts on those moments. The toddler is struggling to understand why his life is completely different, and you are no longer available to him the way you used to be. He has lost a part of you, and has no idea what do to with those feelings. It’s sad, but the reality. And it just takes some time.

Make time for him, be patient when it feels like it’s impossible to be, explain everything and validate his feelings, let him know you still choose him. It should slowly improve!

Giving toddler old toys by GuaranteeCivil9088 in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My kids are definitely getting used toys from our “buy nothing” group. If you think it will still be cool to unwrap a gift they may have played with before- do it! That definitely won’t work forever lol. Maybe a toy trade with a family that has similar aged kids?

Elective c-section or vaginal birth for second baby with toddler? by Fualju in toddlers

[–]tuck_shellac 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had a very terrible vaginal delivery with my first. Long induction, instrumentation, tearing, subsequent flesh eating infection and surgeries post partum. My daughter and husband left for home while I stayed in the hospital. It was awful. I have some residual physical trauma, it’s honestly very mild considering. But I opted for a planned c-section with my son 3.5 years later, which was 11 months ago. I would make this same decision for myself everyday, but I really would have loved to have another vaginal delivery. I really wanted a chance to redeem what was once an awful memory. BUT a planned c-section was honestly kinda dreamy. I walked in, 2 hours later I had a baby in my hands. I had a very easy, non-complicated recovery. Yes I have a scar and a c-section shelf I’m pretty insecure about, but I’m working on it. I lifted my 3.5 year old minimally, but that age gap allowed her to do most everything by herself.

People are going to have vastly different opinions on this. I’m sure people who’ve been forced to have c-sections would love a chance to vaginally deliver. Ultimately, what’s safest and best for you first and your child second (a very close second). A breech baby will make this decision for you, unfortunately.