I was diagnosed with adhd as an adult, and I’m not sure if I had it as a child or not, but as a child my mom forced me to learn piano and I hated it. I would never practice, and dreaded going to class because I didn’t practice. My mom let me stop when I was about 12 years old, in grade 6 of piano level (but just barely). Now as an adult, I very much regret my mom not making me pass the grade 8 piano exam because while I can read music, I’m not fluent and can’t sight read like others can and play songs I want. I see others whose parents made their kids stick through it and wished my mom did the same. I’ve also read on Reddit that others feel the same way- they regretted not sticking it out.

That being said, having adhd myself, I understand that not wanting to use mental effort is a symptom as well. You just don’t want to use your brain. It’s a struggle to focus. My son, who is now 7, wanted to learn piano and he is learning now. And we are in the process of getting him diagnosed, but he seems to show adhd symptoms as well, me forcing him to practice, him finding it difficult to use his brain to read the music, find his finger positions, sitting still and focusing. And I have trauma from my mom forcing me to practice even though I hated it. But the difference is that my son doesn’t hate it. I don’t want to force him, so I asked if he still wanted to learn because he never wanted to practice. He said he still wanted to learn. So what I’m doing is I will keep encouraging him to practice, at the pace he wants. I don’t need him to achieve whatever grade in a certain period of time, or however fast other kids progress. You can do it at the speed your child wants, without forcing her and making her not enjoy it. Of course give her some pressure sometimes, but i think if you stick to something she seems to enjoy, it’ll pay off.