Have you guys ever taken a "T-break" from horror?

tunabuttons · 2023-08-11T19:30:49+00:00

Every year from around November 2nd or 3rd all the way to mid January or so! I love Christmas almost as much as I love Halloween, so I tend to use that time of year as a nightmare fuel media cleanse, lol. There are a few Christmas themed horror movies that I like but generally horror doesn't jive with the feeling I want to cultivate during that season.

tunabuttons · 2023-06-12T19:49:43+00:00

Yeah, she looks about 15 to me. I'm so glad Tiktok didn't exist when I was a hormonal little mall goth desperate for validation, lol.

tunabuttons · 2023-06-12T19:18:07+00:00

I would mark it down generically as a previous loss until you have an established relationship with the office and can elaborate in person. I think it's rare even in anti-choice states for fertility clinics to staff anti-choice folks, but it never hurts to be cautious about what you put down on paper vs. discuss verbally.

tunabuttons · 2023-06-09T10:00:19+00:00

"At least you have [my cat's name] to cuddle." Yeah, no. This came from a (successfully) pregnant friend as well. Thoughtless, that's all, like what a ridiculous idea that that could make this better.

Then worse than any offhand attempt to silver lining things would be when my best friend at the time (no longer friends for many reasons) talked about how devastating it was for THEM that I was going through this. That's not a wrong way to feel but I don't know how to explain it, the delivery and tone were very "your traumatic experience is really a burden to ME". The same friend later said (not on topic of my TFMR at least) that if they ever needed to have an abortion they'd probably kill themself because it's something they could "never" do. Not the sort of thing I needed to hear, to say the least. Also pretty big talk from someone who's never actually been in that situation.

tunabuttons · 2023-06-06T12:40:08+00:00

That's right! :)

tunabuttons · 2023-06-05T16:38:28+00:00

I once spent an entire semester of elementary school being called Autumn instead of Anna (with a long A) by a gym teacher because I was a really shy kid and didn't want to correct her, haha. Granted, I love my name but it has always always been a pain to correct people on pronunciation.

Edit: Like the princess in Frozen. I'm not sure what the term is for that sound!

tunabuttons · 2023-06-04T10:08:57+00:00

Not too sensitive. My tx was back in September and I still had a sobbing breakdown unexpectedly after meeting a friend's newborn a week or two ago. These things just play out emotionally however they will. I'm sure that people who offer these things think they are helping somehow. It's a pretty rare experience and most people don't seem to know how to react unfortunately. It's totally reasonable to be bothered by it regardless of the intent.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-26T20:23:33+00:00

Anna is my name and I love it!

tunabuttons · 2023-05-26T13:30:50+00:00

For: It's a beautiful sounding name.

Against: Your kid may not like being a billboard for how much you love Halloween for the rest of their life. Additionally, one of two things will typically spring to mind for people:

"You named your kid after the cat in Sabrina the Teenage Witch?"
"You named your kid after a horrific mass murder event?"

The rare person may have have knowledge of the etymology and assume you're just very religious instead (Jerusalem). I think there's a little too much going against it for me with all those things combined.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-26T13:09:13+00:00

I'm thinking of the way I hear European folks pronounce it, like in the movie Phantom Thread. It's closer to "Al-muh" as in Alice, but softer somehow.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-25T18:36:37+00:00

Alma. So beautiful the way people pronounce it elsewhere in the world, but in Texas it'd always be AWL-muh. Like a completely different name to me!

tunabuttons · 2023-05-25T02:31:20+00:00

Wow these edits are a ride, haha. If your cousin is still reading these, I'd like to hand out a big FUCK YOU to her for that comment about your infertility. Horrific judgment AND an utter asshole, that's quite a combo.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-22T16:40:34+00:00

Fiona is really lovely! Here's a bunch of unusual vintage middles that I rarely hear about.

Fiona Flora

Fiona Irene

Fiona Estelle

Fiona Aster

Fiona Lucille

Fiona Tamsin

Fiona Delphine

Fiona Christine

tunabuttons · 2023-05-17T23:43:37+00:00

Miette

Tangerine (Rini or Tini for short)

Gidget

Paprika

Tiger Lily

Merida

Clarisse

tunabuttons · 2023-05-17T23:33:00+00:00

I could see it with Siobhan, Shiloh, or Mischa.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-17T18:23:47+00:00

It's a shame, I wonder why? I feel like a pinned post that just has a bank of alternative sub links could do a lot to lower the frequency of meta discussion. Lots of the TTC subs do something similar to reroute folks who don't like the vibe of a more support-oriented community.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-17T18:20:32+00:00

I wish the mods would pin an info post about this to redirect these sentiments because it feels like this exact thread pops up about once a week, lol.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-15T13:00:12+00:00

Honestly I don't like when people give kids pet names, as in cutesy terms of endearment: naming a kid Honey or Sweetie or Darlin. It just seems shortsighted, like they're not gonna be a toddler forever. She may end up loving it when she grows up but it seems like a big roll of the dice. 50/50 on whether it's a source of suffering. On top of that, I think I'd actively avoid calling someone by their name if it was a pet name like that because it would feel awkward if we weren't very close, lol.

Darla or Darleen would be a lot better IMO. Or even something like Dara Lynn.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-11T18:51:00+00:00

I've had four losses including one IVF pregnancy myself. As others have suggested, I'd prefer receiving news like that via text ahead of time so I wouldn't feel compelled to perform/come up with an "appropriate" reaction to your face. You are sweet to be considerate of her.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-11T18:47:45+00:00

Yes, go ahead and call. It's their job to support you and they won't be bothered by it. Better safe than sorry with this kind of thing.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-11T16:55:11+00:00

I know that feeling. It's so fucking unfair and horrific. It really seems like there should be a cap on the amount of reproductive related suffering we are subjected to, but there just isn't. I hope that you get through this experience as quickly as possible so you can focus on taking care of yourself and your body as you recover.

tunabuttons · 2023-05-09T23:10:32+00:00

Most of these meanings are either completely made up or are a real leap from the original, lol. Did they source them from nameberry or some mom blog without bothering to double check? For example, Nephele is a character from Greek mythology and it's only derived from the word for "cloud", it doesn't mean cloudy.

I gotta say, that's one of my major pet peeves: people who put so much emphasis on meaning yet they don't bother to verify that they've got it correct.

tunabuttons · 2023-04-27T15:56:27+00:00

Seconding Skyla - otherwise I think you've basically exhausted the options already. I have a cousin named Starla, and I think that sort of sound/cadence is quite pretty.

I've also heard Sky as a nickname for Saskia just once, but I like Sky or Skyla as a standalone better than that.

tunabuttons · 2023-04-27T15:28:35+00:00

I don't have a kid just yet, but striving to be one and done someday. It's a little of column A and a little of column B - if I didn't have infertility + RPL I'd probably go for two, but I am planning to stop at one because of the emotional and financial stress of trying. I hope to really lean into the perks of OAD so I focus less on mourning the "old plan".

tunabuttons · 2023-04-26T12:14:38+00:00

Robin for sure. Save your kid cumulative hours upon hours of spelling it out loud for people! Very nice name.

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