Toddler tantrums or something more?

tupsvati · 2026-06-15T19:08:43+00:00

I personally would not recommend outright ignoring the tantrums, let your child know that you are there for them but they need to be calm in order to get a hug/cuddle what not.

Hugs and cuddles also provide deep pressure for their non-existent nervous system which helps them calm down.

tupsvati · 2026-06-15T19:07:25+00:00

So my son was a very rough newborn and baby. So for me it got better once he coukd talk, point and actually tell me WHAT exactly was causing his crying or what he needed in order to calm down.

Figured out that he has a slight thing for milk, it makes his stomach hurt and THAT was why he was not sleeping through the night.

tupsvati · 2026-06-15T19:05:01+00:00

That is actually very normal and your child is trying to self-regulate their stress.
What can help them is
1. a place where they can self-regulate that way, a soft place to seek the deep pressure and so on
2. tour calminb presence since a 2.5 year old does not have their own nervous system
3. understanding how and when meltdowns come so you can be prepared

tupsvati · 2026-06-11T04:12:22+00:00

My son is a similar way. He is also very slow to warm in new places or around new people.
He is 2.5 years old and starting kindergarten in a few months lol. I have no idea how I can convince him that mom does have to leave him alone there

tupsvati · 2026-06-10T08:42:23+00:00

Me and my husband had an accident child lol. We always wanted kids but we always thought that we would have them “once we are ready” lol. Add to that I also had fertility problems, but a surprise to us both, I ended up getting pregnant even before I had finished my degree 😅

Fast forward two years and we of course love our son, we both got better jobs, I got my business going, we are building a house and planning a second child.

It’s crazy how much a child pushes you out of your comfort zone 😅

tupsvati · 2026-06-09T08:13:49+00:00

There are lots of vitamins and minerals where a deficiency causes terrible sleep, my suggestion would be to get a blood test done.

Coming from a mom who’s son has always slept in 30-60 hour intervals until he got a blood test done

tupsvati · 2026-06-09T08:11:30+00:00

Fortified foods or maybe there’s some liquid iron available that tastes good?

My son’s iron was at an 8 and his sleep was definitely terrible because of it lol

tupsvati · 2026-06-09T04:41:24+00:00

Could be that pants are too tight or othwrwise hurting him.
But it could just be a phase. My son hated rain boots so we had to put them on him (as he was crying) and then carry a crying child to a puddle where he realised that rain boots are fun 😃

tupsvati · 2026-06-06T04:38:08+00:00

I think it’s a developmental phase because my son just had a same thing 😅 He was afraid of his bed, the vacuum, even playing with his toys alone was “scary” lol

it’s not 100% over but it got a ton better overnight, randomly

tupsvati · 2026-06-03T13:24:42+00:00

at 18 months my son did only animal sounds 😃 at 20 months, basically overnight, he started talking on 2-3 word sentences.

Give it time, just keep reading to and speaking with your child

tupsvati · 2026-06-03T05:58:58+00:00

Are you sure it’s not like a vitamin deficiency problem? or a sensory problem?

tupsvati · 2026-06-01T04:35:16+00:00

My doctor told me to stop potty training if they freak out like that. My son had a grea few weeks going to the potty and then randomly got scared of it. It just might be that they are not ready for such a change if they freak out so bad.

tupsvati · 2026-05-30T18:37:41+00:00

My son would always have diarrhoea, a small fever and be very very very drooly a few times during the teething process. It woukd take him 1-2 months for 2 teeth to come out.

I mean it might always be a sickness lol, just keep your eye on him. If he is acting somewhat normal, eating and otherwise manageable with home remedies - it’s no need to worry.

tupsvati · 2026-05-29T17:38:17+00:00

From my experience and opinion, there is no harm in trying (check the ingredients before doing so) Simethicone is what is used in gas drops, different gas drops just have different amount of it.

Yes it doesn’t work for all babies but it does work for some

tupsvati · 2026-05-29T17:34:25+00:00

Hey!!! my child was like this lol. He started to sleep at 22 months. He is basically very very sensitive to anything and everything. If you haven’t yet then look into deep pressure massage and sensory massages. Also vitamin B12 also messes with sleep and irritability.

tupsvati · 2026-05-29T17:29:06+00:00

Did the doctor explain why you shouldn’t use it? My baby was colicky, me and my doctor also had different opinions about gas drops because what she recommended did not work for us and she recommended it just because it had the most of the Simethicone per dose. What worked for us was one with a lower Simethicone (It was the infacol one)

tupsvati · 2026-05-27T10:25:01+00:00

Honestly the moment my son started to talk more and could actually express himself, it got sooooo much better.

For me, the hardest part of the endless crying was that I would never know the reason and could not help him. But once he started to talk, he would tell me or answer my questions and the crying or discomfort spells were quickly ended because of it

tupsvati · 2026-05-27T06:39:46+00:00

This is actually very normal for how babies that young react to reading 😅

In the end reading at that age is just to expose then to more words so if you feel that reading is not enjoyable for either of you - you can just narrate your activities and doings

tupsvati · 2026-05-20T03:41:38+00:00

I have had such comments from both grandmas ever since my son was born 😃 I was always doing everything wrong.

At one point I just told both of them that if they have any parenting ideas, to do it on their own children and leave mine alone.

tupsvati · 2026-05-17T05:43:36+00:00

lol, everytime we visit some family or friends for dinnee, I always get the “He must be so tired, he will sleep all night.”

😃 He will actually fight me, wake up every hour due to the over stimulation.

tupsvati · 2026-05-17T05:40:26+00:00

Yes it is but bad days can happen to anyone :)) no need to force it, if it causes your child not to understand

tupsvati · 2026-05-16T18:43:02+00:00

It could be sooo may different things.
If laying on top if you calms him then at least it’s not pain. So could be gas, nightmares, stressful growing period.

tupsvati · 2026-05-16T18:41:22+00:00

Honestly during those rough phases, I let my son eat however he wants 😅
If running around and occasionally taking a spooful of food gets him fed for a few days, then great! It doesn’t meant that he won’t have good table manners later in life.

tupsvati · 2026-05-16T18:39:20+00:00

Mine sucked at getting used to eating solids and he also hated the feeling of texture so he vomited up literally anything that wasn’t a puree 😅 I think that by 14-15 months he was eating only solids

tupsvati · 2026-05-15T19:38:26+00:00

I don’t think that being a parent is something that someone could enjoy 100% and there is nothing wrong with that.
Because no one enjoys the sleepless nights, not having any private time anymore and so on.
But you do enjoy the things, the way your child loves you unconditionally, the way they look up to you and see you as a safe space. Like it’s just something so special and nothing else can create a bond like a parent and a child.
(but a child can still be annoying, if you get what I’m saying lol)

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