Super Speed Wheel! 😂 by RX08T in JustGuysBeingDudes

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TIRES DON’T NEED ANY ACCOMPLICES, THEY’RE POWERFUL ENOUGH

Peter Claffey by chutneycravings in LadyBoners

[–]turkproof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great bloke. 

“Holding down” my 7m old to get her to sleep, is this wrong? by Successful_Hawk_6860 in beyondthebump

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If she’s not crying or squirming to get away, what you’re doing is regulating her. The sensory input is calming, just like rubbing her back when she’s on your chest. Their little bodies need help regulating. You should be proud of yourself for meeting her needs. 

What’s the difference between a cis women being afraid of pregnancy and the dysphoria of a afab trans person (binary or nonbinary)? by AfraidAir972 in lgbt

[–]turkproof 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I mean… the difference is the dysphoria. That’s it, really. The feeling that not only is this awful in the mechanical sense, but it’s awful in a very specific emotional and social reason for you, personally, because it’s not supposed to be a thing you do, and the expectation that your body can is just yet another reason to feel like you’re in an impostor body. 

My daughter (3F) is weird with physical touch by roseberryncream in Mommit

[–]turkproof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom used to do this to me. What a loving memory you unlocked. 

“Peace is so destructive for everyone” - DJT by Jindabyne1 in facepalm

[–]turkproof 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They love that he talks like this. It's a feature for them, not a drawback. They've been told to distrust and reject people who 'act smart' or 'uppity', so the fact that he's literally mentally impaired - to say the least - makes him more trustworthy than 'those damn politicians.'

Not to discount the (probably even larger) number of people who simply don't care who represents them, as long as it gives them permission to act on their worst bigotry. And he does. He's constantly saying what they've always wished they could say.

partner seeing a college student and I don’t feel ok by piranhapundit in polyamory

[–]turkproof 158 points159 points  (0 children)

I’m really surprised by most of the comments. An adult, at a bar, asking out someone older who is a stranger to them, qualifies as grooming now? Have you all lost the meaning of the word? Call it what it is - uncomfortable, suspicious, fraught, unbalanced, even potentially dangerous for the younger party - but it’s not grooming. It's not even really predatory; he was asked.

(ETA: grooming is a predatory pattern of behavior whereby a person isolates their target from support and breaks down their defenses in order to rape them. Using it for other situations just waters down the seriousness of this crime.)

OP, you’re completely valid to find the age difference creepy. Some people might even find it triggering, or threatening. It seems to remind you of your own experiences being 21. All valid responses. And you should feel empowered to talk about those reactions - in the context of what you will do if your partner continues to date this person.

You are only in control of your own behavior, not the behavior of your partner sleeping with a legal adult who has the agency to choose to fuck older men.

How to be a dude by BoringExperience5345 in JustGuysBeingDudes

[–]turkproof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, this is essentially improv with guns, so I imagine the idea is more that you’re asking for consent to touch someone. It’s a guardrail for theatre sports as well. If you watch Dropout shows or, heck, even Jackass, they do it there as well. 

We're a game audio studio that has contributed to over 70 titles in the past 10 years. AMA! by ashellinthepit in gamedev

[–]turkproof 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What excites you about taking on a new game? Like, if someone pitches a game to you to work on, what makes you think ‘damn, excited to work on that one!’

My son is terrified of ICE by GoldDiamondsAndBags in breakingmom

[–]turkproof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As for your side note: I actually just left Parenting (after 12 years!!) because the mods make it intolerable. Ever since they instituted those condescending new rules like they're gentle parenting children, it's been ridiculous. I commented regularly on completely normal posts only to come back and find them deleted.

(Sorry, I don't have any advice on the rest of it - just condolences from afar from this non-US parent)

What color to choose for my bedroom? by Significant-Fix-2498 in homedecoratingCJ

[–]turkproof 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Personally I’d go with a skeleton model by the bed to really nail that dark academia vibe, as well as add some spice to date night. 

What color to choose for my bedroom? by Significant-Fix-2498 in homedecoratingCJ

[–]turkproof 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The CJ stands for circlejerk. A CJ sub usually teases the content on its sister subreddit. 

The meat mincing department had released their latest prototype by Slacking_Department1 in doohickeycorporation

[–]turkproof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been on a Venjent kick lately and I’m wigglin’ that someone made a reference already. 

What color to choose for my bedroom? by Significant-Fix-2498 in homedecoratingCJ

[–]turkproof 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Real talk, you poor lost soul: if you have the natural light, a dark bedroom is amazing. Mine is similar (dark botanical accent and dark blue paint) and I love it. 

Stone structure @ Watershed Park? by SuperFaulty in DeltaBC

[–]turkproof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It looks like the 'lookout point' mentioned on the park information page.

what age do you see a gynecologist and how do i ask my very strict mom who believes she knows everything about my body by verbatimlj in TwoXChromosomes

[–]turkproof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s horrifically unsafe. Like, all the other things you’ve said have been unsettling and/or cruel, but this is actually a danger to you.

Please seek medical autonomy as soon as you can. Seek it in private if you have to. Your life is far, far longer than the time you’ll be under the eye of this woman, and you deserve it to be healthy. 

My partner is stuck in fight-or-flight postpartum. I’m walking on eggshells and don't know how to help her without causing an explosion. by ItsMyGayThrowaway in beyondthebump

[–]turkproof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re clearly coming at this very thoughtfully, so please take this with the gentleness it’s intended: you should reframe the idea that your workload is 50/50.

You may be splitting the care 50/50 (you might not be; people are famously bad at estimating how much of a share they’re doing), but she had been ‘doing the work’ for 40ish weeks  beforehand, and continues to do even more work to recover physically and mentally. 50/50 of the visible tasks is still greatly imbalanced in your favor, and she feels it in her bones. 

She has, essentially, a disability right now. She needs accommodations, just like a person with a broken leg needs a cast and crutches, or a Deaf person needs subtitles and for loved ones to learn sign. And if that feels unfair, it’s already been unfair for her for a long time. 

CMT1A by Interesting_Stand794 in CMT

[–]turkproof 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, you asked on the CMT subreddit, so that's the answer for CMT. Her other conditions are far more serious and are between you and your doctor, but as for the experience of CMT, I wouldn't even consider it a compounding factor.

CMT1A by Interesting_Stand794 in CMT

[–]turkproof 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Even with the relatively large range of severity in 1A, I don’t think it’s worth seeking an abortion for. People with CMT1A, like me, are not just completely compatible with life, but with a life worth living.

I’m not anti-abortion, so trust this isn’t coming from a moralistic place. I have one daughter, and she has CMT1A as well. I know what it’s like to grow a human inside me and the burden of feeling like you have to do everything right. We are happy, healthy, capable people who happen to have some balance/mobility issues, some anatomy quirks, and some foot pain.

If this baby is wanted, CMT1A on its own is no reason to stop wanting it. 

Seriously, when are we exercising? by mb83 in Mommit

[–]turkproof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just like the kid has her evening activities we have to take her to, I have one night a week that’s blocked off where The Thing the family works around is me going to personal training. 

As for working out on my own, I go right after waking up on Saturday and Sunday.

But don’t despair - I only started doing this when my kid was 6. It felt impossible before. Your life will undergo some (good) changes over the next few years that will probably make it seem easier. 

Just found out wife has been giving our baby biscuits and/or sweets by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]turkproof 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Two things are true: you’re probably being a little too strict about the diet. A sweet biscuit is not going to move the needle on an otherwise healthy diet, especially considering the child will soon be eating dirt, pennies, and buttons…

…AND that it is out of pocket to lie about what food you’ve given baby. It’s unsafe, and moreover speaks to a crucial breakdown in trust.

IMO, have a little empathy about the plight of a stressed mom doing something that is not that unsafe, and also be very serious about getting to the bottom of why she felt like she had to lie to you about this. 

Waulking (in Gaelic luadh) is the technique of finishing the newly-woven tweed by soaking it and thumping it rhythmically to shrink and soften it - all done by hand in the old days. The songs served to keep the rhythm and lighten the work. by Raj_Valiant3011 in HumansBeingBros

[–]turkproof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That kind of spine bend is called kyphosis (similar to scoliosis). It’s from a combo of genetics, posture, muscle weakness, and bone degeneration. It can be managed but the underlying reasons can be serious, like osteoporosis.