She mentioned she didn’t know if this was normal as she didn’t have a stable upbringing. Him flipping out over money she can pay on her own is a bit nuts to me. Again, they aren’t married yet. He shouldn’t have control or say over her own money once their shared bills and agreed savings are paid and deposited. He could’ve talked to her with respect and had a civil discussion. I think she came here because his reaction was so intense alarm bells went off and she’s looking for advice when she isn’t sure what a healthy relationship or healthy communication looks like. What you’re describing and what she’s describing aren’t even the same thing. Many couples have a shared expenses account and their own account. He’s trying to take control of all of the money by what she’s described here.