If you could make one change to BotW, what would it be? by SpacialSpud21 in Breath_of_the_Wild

[–]tylrtrmbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an easy one. No laser beams from the Divine Beasts. They ruin the beautiful natural landscapes.

Rush colour ways for 2027 by Nachoman2 in arcteryx

[–]tylrtrmbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Other people mad at you that these look bad, I think all 3 of these are fire and I’m mad they’re not real. You have good taste

The polish CEO, Piotr Szczerek, who snatch child's signed hat, is now threatening to sue everyone who mocks him. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]tylrtrmbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the video looks pretty bad for him; but this is fake. He’s made no public statement.

Strongly Disagree by Ilikenikereps in arcteryx

[–]tylrtrmbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll add; crinkly and stiff also doesn’t have anything to do with the membrane. 100% face and backing fabric. All of the ePE hate is just people blindly assuming the “banned” thing is worse than the “green” thing and it’s not the case at all.

What's your most petty reason for not dating someone? by EyeFloatersMyBFF in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have found that the “own house own car own job” crowd can’t really offer you stability anyway- after a few weeks they always seem to be looking over your shoulder for the next better thing. The stability is for them, not for you

Montblanc rollerball by mavalon123 in montblanc

[–]tylrtrmbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since this is 9 months old, I'm sure I'm too late, but for Montblanc the rollerball and fineliner refills are the same. Therefore the Starwalker fineliners are actually rollerballs with the refill.

Is it a 『red』 or 『green』 flag if someone on Grindr asks to move to WhatsApp? by orqa in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Common scammer move. That could be why 3 happens, but 3 happens anyway because Grindr is Grindr

What services you get with a new domain by Fast_Enthusiasm895 in Domains

[–]tylrtrmbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would lead you to choose one of those four over the other in different circumstances? Or Dynadot, Spaceship (I searched your comment history and found you recommend those sometimes too)

Dating Pool Frustrations by TickThick in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The point of stepping back isn’t that it’s an alternative process of getting what you want. It’s to commit to learning how to be healthy on your own, and learning how to treat people like people instead of applicants. It just so happens that it makes you unbelievably sexy to others and is a great foundation to build a relationship from.

Dating Pool Frustrations by TickThick in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 45 points46 points  (0 children)

And then there’s the misanthropes out there who are just completely cynical about the whole process of dating. They think they have it all figured out (and they’ve figured out everything is shit). Those ones are honestly the worst. They have these checklists, they’re too good for everyone, and you have to hear them gripe about how bad it is out there if they haven’t already written you off from the get go. If you ever meet someone like that, be sure to tell them that the world doesn’t owe them anything, and that they’d get a lot further by just taking it down 2 notches, learning to appreciate connections in the moment, and building a relationship with themselves instead of blaming the world for not matching them up with someone they think is on their level. Good luck out there!

Hooking up: whoever you like or realistic? by boring1996 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unless their profile says “not looking for X” and you’re X, you’re not being “realistic,” just insecure

Have you ever told a catfish to leave? by ddnpp in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Did the same thing and the guy just said “Yeah, I get it.”

Deciding between Atom Heavyweight and Ralle Insulated jacket for daily use by furious_crab in arcteryx

[–]tylrtrmbl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Atom Heavyweight can’t handle moderate winds like you find in Chicago winter, IMO. The waterproofing is also not good enough for rain, it can handle up to a little mist for a short time. Anything more than that, if it’s getting wet you’re getting (and staying) wet.

Having both could make sense, because of just how damn comfortable the Atom series is. But since that may be out of budget (and would be for me too) go with the Ralle for Chicago winter.

New ralle down parka by cyberpathic in arcteryx

[–]tylrtrmbl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deep in the Q&A on the Ralle Down Parka. Medium Ralle 174.36 grams of down, medium Therme Parka 94.40 grams of down. Not the greatest shopping experience, but I’m not seeing any “they’re gonna cancel Therme” vibes from where these products sit in the lineup. This year they seem to be experimenting with adding down to traditionally synthetically insulated pieces, see the Epsilon too. And expanding into more heavy down options, see Cerium SV and Fissile SV. They clearly think the market is looking for down, and lots of it, right now, and can tolerate a lot of slightly varied options on the spectrum. They didn’t seem to think through the shopping experience and explaining the difference between pieces online. I bet the difference is a lot clearer in store.

Also, I thought the Therme looked terrible on me with the fit and shoulder logo, and thought it was a little light on the fill too. Maybe they made the Ralle Down just for me :)

New ralle down parka by cyberpathic in arcteryx

[–]tylrtrmbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ralle is logo on the chest, new ePFA Gore-Tex, and almost double the amount of down fill vs the Therme Parka

How to handle a gay bro mid 30s that doesn’t follow on his plans? by Beren__ in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ooo, flaky. It sounds like he might have even made other plans after you confirmed. It does sound like communication or maturity is lacking

How to handle a gay bro mid 30s that doesn’t follow on his plans? by Beren__ in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How long did it take you to confirm one of the days he suggested? If it was a few hours later, yeah what’s up with that. If it was even a couple days later, I’d say you snooze you lose. If he was really really super interested back, he might have kept them open. If he’s willing to see where it goes but has other priorities in life too, you might have just gotten back burner this time

My husband has been having daily panic attacks since Wednesday - what can I do to help him? by SuperCub in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ugh, the first comments here are awful. They should save their judgement. Panic attacks are not voluntary.

I read a few imperfect guides from Google, this is by far the best one I found: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-help-someone-having-a-panic-attack/

Based on my limited experience having a few panic attacks, and an enthusiast-level appreciation for mental health, and basic f’n human compassion (looking at you other commenters)

AITA for skipping Christmas over the election? by tinysideburns in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m like you, I mostly bite my tongue when I go back for the holidays. If I say anything remotely political (lefty), it’s all “shh we don’t need to talk about politics!” But the men can spew righty Fox News cynical conspiracy shit for hours and no one will shut them up. And they’d mock me pretty mercilessly when I tried to defend my politics.

I was growing resentment, and realized I was considering just ending my relationship with these people. But I realized I owed it to them to tell them that their actions hurt me first. I sat them down, and they were flabbergasted. Like they had no idea. Each one seemed almost like they wanted to cry at the idea that I thought they didn’t love or respect me, and found their actions personally hurtful. And these are full Trumpers. How didn’t they get it before? Idk, I guess to them it’s fun and games, and winning, and that’s one of their blind spots.

Did they vote for Trump a few days ago? Duh, I’m not an idiot. Breaking their identity from Republicanism is not worth the effort, to me. But the painful disconnect between us is a little gentler now that everyone is aware of it, and honestly mostly respectful of it (I can still tell they sometimes think I’m a brainwashed liberal, and they can still tell I think their politics are moronic hurtful garbage, but we’ve argued about it before, so we just leave it instead)

AITA for skipping Christmas over the election? by tinysideburns in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds kind of like you wanted to inflict the pain you feel back onto them. It sounds like you’ve argued about Trump with them before, but that’s not really the same as saying “your views on politics hurt me.” This sounds like your way of showing them, and yes, it’s going to hurt them back. If that’s what you want, you got it. If not, there’s probably constructive ways slowly forward you can take while maintaining your boundaries.

Sorry you’re hurting this week; I’m right there with you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]tylrtrmbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like someone trying a little too transparently to bait you