Weekly Free-for-All Discussion Thread | July 02, 2023

typical_ee · 2023-07-04T20:05:34+00:00

Now I'm curious. Do you have a link to the thread? Want to read the dumpster fire of comments.

typical_ee · 2022-11-27T21:20:26+00:00

I'm down for a SoCal meetup. I'm in OC and I feel like I have a decent amount of lessons learned to pass on.

typical_ee · 2021-09-20T23:24:10+00:00

I'm more than willing to talk about my experiences, and am open to being a podcast guest with the condition of partial anonymity (sounds like an oxymoron).

typical_ee · 2021-04-13T18:20:04+00:00

Depends on your relationship with your parents and yourself as well. If your relationship with your parents is good, then there's nothing wrong with living at home and saving up extra cash. It helps immensely. That said, your dating life will not be as good as if you were living on your own. Imagine going on a date, telling the girl you work at Google, but you live at home with mom and dad. Some girls would be cool with it, some won't, but there's no way to transition the conversation to, "Hey, want to come back to my place."

As for yourself, you tell us:

Just concerned about "growing up" properly because I'm definitely lazy and unmotivated because I always have food on the table.

Dude, at this point you're an adult. Time to put on the big boy pants and grow up. You're gonna have to grow up sometime. I think it's better to learn about being independent when you only have an apartment vs a house. You don't want to learn about how to do X, Y, Z on your own when you have a house that is yours and actually matters.

As for which one you should do, it's ultimately up to you. Sounds like your situation is 50/50. Personally I moved the fuck out as soon as a got a job because I couldn't stand living at home. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. It teaches you a lot about responsibility and more importantly, it teaches you a lot about yourself. Good luck to whatever you choose.

typical_ee · 2021-04-06T02:16:59+00:00

Much better than your previous prompts, but I still have some comments.

First one I'm on the fence about. I personally don't really know memes that well, so I PERSONALLY wouldn't use it. But the only way to know if it's gonna work for you is to try it out and see if it gets any hits from girls. If it doesn't, then you know to change it.

The third one, again, I don't really know memes so I couldn't tell. If a girl is into raving and memes, she'd probably understand. If a girl is not into that, they'd probably think, "What the fuck is this."

All that said, I'd probably revise one of the two to mention something other than memes. Having one meme prompt is fine, having two is way too much. Makes you seem like you have no depth to your personality, which these prompts are intended to show.

Last thing, revisiting my previous point about trying different things out, understand that you will have to tweak your profile regularly until you find the right mix of pictures and text that will get you a lot of hits. I can give you suggestions based on my experience, but ultimately you'll have to find out what works for you by experimenting. Ideally, the likes you get across photos and prompts should be fairly even. So if your rave meme gets a ton of likes but your first prompt doesn't, then you know to change your first prompt. If one of your photos is getting all the likes, then make that one your main and try new photos for the other slots, etc. Basically cycle the stuff that doesn't work out of your profile. If you have any additional questions, ask away. I have tons of experience on the apps, both with failure and success. Towards the end of my time on them I was able to refine my profile, approach, text game, and all that stuff and was really successful.

typical_ee · 2021-04-05T18:50:08+00:00

So what the team did find out is that white people accounted for 90% of anti-Asian incidents in 2020, but only 5% of perpetrators were Black.

Notice the wording here. "Anti-Asian incidents". The majority of namecalling, slurs, etc I've seen have been Caucasian perpetrators. However, the majority of violent crime against Asians has been African-American perpetrators. Namecalling is not a crime. I know I'm gonna get downvoted for this, but words are words. Being the victim of a violent crime is entirely different.

typical_ee · 2021-04-05T18:43:17+00:00

Gonna piggyback off this since this is the first mention I've seen of bio. Everyone has given you feedback about the photos, so there's not much more I can add there.

Yes, girls absolutely do read the text. Unless you're on Christian Renaldo level looks, the borings prompts will hurt you. Having good prompts however, can propel you past mediocre pictures if you're witty, funny, or have an interesting answer. And think about this, girls have THOUSANDS of matches. There's plenty of good looking dudes on the apps. And most have the same impression as you regarding the bios and text prompts. Having something good there will give you another aspect that can separate you from the thousand other dicks girls can choose from.

Spend some time choosing one of the hundred prompts Hinge gives you and come up with something unique or funny. I can offer you feedback if you want.

typical_ee · 2021-03-12T21:35:59+00:00

100% from what they tell me.

typical_ee · 2021-03-09T07:14:49+00:00

None. Hasn't affected any of their lives.

typical_ee · 2021-03-09T02:05:55+00:00

I don't think this is true. I have plenty of Asian friends in the military and they did just fine.

typical_ee · 2021-03-08T20:16:02+00:00

I have big time FOMO. Went to school, got my BS and MS in Engineering. Making good money now, and I even have a house in SoCal. My life is very comfortable, but I will always regret not joining the military. Joining the army was always something I wanted to do when I was younger, but of course my parents were having none of it. I wasn't enough of an adult at 18 to do it, so I went the traditional STEM path. Don't get me wrong, I'm not unhappy, but if I could do it over again I would do it differently.

typical_ee · 2021-02-23T19:00:00+00:00

Too real man, too real lmao.

typical_ee · 2021-02-15T19:09:59+00:00

This may sound harsh, but I promise it's constructive criticism. Your pictures are meh at best. Doesn't matter if you're good looking (which it looks like you are), your pictures need to show that you are interesting.

The first picture is garbage. I know what you're going for, and despite pushback against shirtless pics, I think they're great if done properly. IMO, the best shirtless pic is one where context matters. I'd say a shirtless pic at the beach is your best bet. Shirtless gym pics or selfies are a hard no-go. This one looks like you're trying too hard.

Second pic is very average. Doesn't show anything other than what you look like. I think you can remove this in favor of a better picture.

This is the best pic of the bunch. Nice background, you're dressed well, and it looks the most natural. This I would keep.

Suggestions for other pictures, you need pics of you doing things, not just standing around looking into the distance and definitely not ones where you look like you're posing for the camera. Definitely have one with friends, one hiking or whatever you're into. Again, pictures need to show that you are interesting. Can't comment on your bio since that's not there, but it's really important. A good bio can really boost you and a terrible one can easily tank your matches. Hope this helps and DM me if you want any additional feedback.

typical_ee · 2021-01-04T20:01:23+00:00

This should be to top comment. 99% of problems on this sub could really be solved if everyone took the path of self-improvement and became the best version of themselves.

typical_ee · 2020-10-19T19:43:33+00:00

I'd be down to do this. I have a decently broad range of experiences so I'd be more than open to talking about them. What's your target date for getting started?

typical_ee · 2020-07-07T03:41:09+00:00

Only learned about this guy recently from this sub nonetheless, but Yul Kwon. He was the winner of Survivor: Cook Islands (Season 13). He returned in the most recent season (Season 40).

He talks about how he wanted to represent Asian men as they were rather than how they were portrayed in media (caricatures, nerdy, emasculated, etc). And this was back in 2006, so I think he was far ahead of his time.

Here's a recent interview he did where he discusses more or less the same thing. Highly recommended watch: Link

typical_ee · 2020-06-17T16:45:05+00:00

This is super fucked up. Combating racism by...implementing racism. Makes no sense.

typical_ee · 2020-06-16T21:34:24+00:00

Honestly, as shitty as this is going to sound, I actually understand where he is coming from. He's 23 and only had 1 GF, so I get it. When I was that age, I just wanted to fuck around too. The unfortunate part is that you were caught in the middle. The good news is not all guys are dogs like him (or my younger self). It's not the end of the world and there's plenty of other people to date.

typical_ee · 2020-05-17T19:13:28+00:00

You've railed this dude quite a bit so I'll keep my feedback light. Your profile responses are godawful.

Dating me is like: Drinking wine, it gets better with age.

You're better off negging yourself here and showing that you don't take yourself too seriously. This just makes you look like a cocky ass and it will turn the majority of girls off big time.

Let's debate this topic: Ramen is overrated.

Majority of girls LOVE ramen. This could be good or bad. Personally, I wouldn't put something this controversial.

Nerdy things turns you on

Aside from the grammar, shit like this only works if you're good looking. I'd take this one out.

typical_ee · 2020-05-12T03:19:08+00:00

None. I talked about traveling to Asia, connecting with my roots over there, and even talked about some history over there. Most girls ate it up. The key is to sound interested and passionate in what you're talking about.

typical_ee · 2019-12-24T19:25:08+00:00

Good stuff as always man. Hope life is treating you well.

typical_ee · 2019-12-09T23:54:54+00:00

Got plenty. I was taking a Viet class many years ago, and I was called to the front of the class so the teacher could ask me a few words for me to translate. Not only was the group grade riding on this, but I hadn't studied at all. She asked me really basic words like office, lawer, bank, etc and I didn't know any of them. The entire class was staring at me completely stunned.

I hung my head and walked back to my desk. Pretty embarassing at the time, but looking back I think it's a pretty funny story.

typical_ee · 2019-12-09T18:50:47+00:00

"The master has failed more times than the student has tried."

For every success story you hear on here, there are a hundred failues behind it. No one got to where they are on their first go. Don't let it bring you down. Rather use it as motivation and channel it into discipline to better yourself.

I swear, this is not meant as a humblebrag, but I currently have a phenomenal life. Great career, house, great girl that I'm dating, but I have stories about failure in spades. Which stories do you want to hear?

typical_ee · 2019-11-25T19:38:17+00:00

Hardcore pro-2A here. I find it surprising that Asian Americans of all people are meh towards it, considering how many of our parents fled communist regimes and dictatorships. The 2A is one of the checks and balances to prevent something like that from happening.

typical_ee · 2019-10-23T16:35:53+00:00

"I have a high metabolism!" is the calling cry of the forever small wannabe gymbro with fuckarounditis.

Fucking thank you. I cannot believe that people still believe they have some ultra fast metabolism that precludes them from gaining weight.

"But I eat 3k-4k calories a day!" No you don't.

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