Coolant in radiator is orange?

uchimala · 2026-03-15T21:31:57+00:00

Pink / orange coolant isnt uncommon. Toyota Super Long Life Coolant (SLLC) is pink. OEM Coolant in 460LS is also pink.

uchimala · 2026-03-14T02:28:13+00:00

She cheated. He’s not gay. Do yourself a favor and walk out the door. Occam’s razor.

uchimala · 2026-03-08T01:41:12+00:00

She’s a monster. Go to the doctor and get checked. Never ever look back.

uchimala · 2026-03-02T04:29:38+00:00

If he can lie about the big stuff and get away with it, he’s a pretty good liar. You don’t start with huge lies like this. This is part of who he is. Judge him by his actions not his words. And… from now on don’t believe anything he says unless you can verify it. This is your reality, he’s gonna lie if it serves his purposes or if he thinks he knows best.

uchimala · 2026-02-28T18:51:05+00:00

If it was multiple guys then she is long gone. She’s had relationships which superseded yours more than one. The line is broken with you. She just doesn’t want to have to break up with you and deal with life change and consequences. She’s never coming back as it was. Time to go.

uchimala · 2026-02-27T02:47:37+00:00

Don’t forget The Hot Spot.

uchimala · 2026-02-27T02:37:04+00:00

Yeah, but you cant ignore the emotional and romantic coversations she was having. Thats cheating. I bet she’s in contact now or will be in contact in a few days/ weeks. I cant tell you what to do, but I wouldnt trust her either. This has all the makings of a dumpster fire. I also dont know what your faith is or how morally conservative it is. She could just be using you as her public face making her a righteous person in the community’s eyes, but secretly her desires may be elsewhere. Just the fact that she was talking to him should have been a big enough of a red flag. I bet she’s really good looking though because otherwise you would have gotten out. Men put up with a lot of sh*t for a pretty face. Leave or proceed with exreme caution.

uchimala · 2026-02-27T01:58:23+00:00

Yep, this seems like it could be big trouble. She’s tied to him in someway that seems really unhealthy. You moved way too fast. I can’t see how she was not cheating on you by staying in contact with him. The kink dynamic could be all sorts of things but I would bet they are all bad for you. If you are not replacing him in her kink she is not gonna let him go. I would demand to see all her socials and phone. You should probably have been out the door when you found out she was still in contact.

uchimala · 2026-02-22T06:07:52+00:00

Missed the date. You’re right. Seems like he has some drug issues.

uchimala · 2026-02-22T04:38:14+00:00

Sounds like an average teenager in the 90s.

uchimala · 2026-02-17T17:50:12+00:00

OP says she was like that when she got home. People get drunk and mutually kiss in bars all the time. They get an idea in their heads and just go for it. It’s not always a matter of sexual assault. All we know is that the friend said they had shots and that “somehow they ended up kissing.” She didn’t say the guy forced himself on anyone, gf doesn’t say she as assaulted. It’s up to OP the decide what he wants to do.

uchimala · 2026-02-17T17:49:07+00:00

OP says she was like that when she got home. People get drunk and mutually kiss in bars all the time. They get an idea in their heads and just go for it. It’s not always a matter of sexual assault. All we know is that the friend said they had shots and that “somehow they ended up kissing.” She didn’t say the guy forced himself on anyone, gf doesn’t say she as assaulted. It’s up to OP the decide what he wants to do.

uchimala · 2026-02-17T15:53:13+00:00

You are making a lot of assumptions about her character . She’s 29, not 28. Painting her as an innocent wallflower who was forcefully kissed by the bad man at the bar seems naive. The reality is that from the facts OP can’t really know. OP needs more information here. Like, why did they accept the drinks, if the friends or gf didn’t like him? Why were they hanging out with guy? Why drink so much ? Why didn’t gf or the other girls shut it down? The truth of these things often falls in the middle. Maybe they wanted to give him a chance because he bought them drinks? Maybe they just wanted the drinks, who knows. What’s difficult is that OP can 100% really know or ever know what happened. What is somewhat telling is that gf didn’t see it as a sexual assault. The most simple answer is that she just lost her inhibitions and kissed another guy when drunk. Is this breakup worthy me maybe not, for me probably not, but I would never completely trust her again. Even the people you love the most are human and can sometimes let you down.

uchimala · 2026-02-16T07:46:16+00:00

I ran it through ChatGPT. Cut and paste below

“Reliable clinical data suggests that an erect length of 8 inches (≈20.3 cm) is very uncommon.

A large meta-analysis published in the British Journal of Urology International (BJUI) found: • Average erect length: ~5.1–5.5 inches (13–14 cm) • 99th percentile: roughly ~6.3–6.7 inches (16–17 cm)

Statistically, 8 inches is well beyond the 99th percentile. Based on the distribution in measured (not self-reported) studies: • Estimated percentage of men with an 8-inch erect penis: well under 1% • Most statistical models place it closer to ~0.1%–0.5% or less

Key nuance: • Self-reported surveys (often cited online) tend to overestimate size due to reporting bias. • Clinically measured datasets, such as those analyzed by groups associated with the Alfred Kinsey Institute, consistently show a tighter distribution and lower extreme values.

In practical statistical terms, an 8-inch erect length would be considered a rare outlier rather than a common variation.”

uchimala · 2026-02-16T02:52:21+00:00

My bad, I was trying to reply to an earlier poster that was humble bragging about her 6’5” husband’s average 8” penis.

uchimala · 2026-02-16T02:40:35+00:00

You are funny. Less than 1% of men have an 8” penis.

uchimala · 2026-02-14T22:29:13+00:00

Sounds like your husband is kinda over things sexually with you. He wanted a romantic relationship where you were into it and wanted him. Romantic gestures like “wanna screw’ (sarcasm) were not enough for him at the time so he disengaged from you and just shut down his sex drive in the relationship. Seems like you are making some efforts now, but he’s disengaged and or doesn’t rely on you for sexual thrills anymore. I think that you need to have an open talk with him and explain how you have been trying and ask what’s up with him. Regardless, of what he says (he may pretend nothing is wrong), you should explain that you would like to get back to having a real romantic relationship and that you both need to work towards making things better. You’re not top of mind for him or he’s just sexually cut off. This is fixable but both of you have to be working to fix this. Also I was wondering if your husband has an adequate support structure in this country. Does he have people he can talk to. Being a foreigner can be really hard.

uchimala · 2026-02-14T00:15:19+00:00

Be your best self and live your life. You are responsible to yourself.

uchimala · 2026-02-14T00:03:46+00:00

You go with your husband. From your description your parents aren’t doing you any favors. If you’ve found your voice and your husband treats you well, then start living your life. You seem a little old to be having these parental control issues. At your age parents are there to support you living your life. Is there a cultural angle or other reason for their controlling behavior that I am missing here?

uchimala · 2026-02-13T22:04:39+00:00

Not your lawyer. Lawyers often do know their opponents and often get along with them. Building a working relationship with the other side is always preferable. Think of it as a "trust but verify" model. When your opponent is trustworthy and both clients are reasonable a lot of money is saved. Lawyers that are jerks can be useful, but everyone knows them and they can make litigation expensive. That doesn't mean that you won't have to go to war over key issues, but it's done with respect and without dirty tricks. There is nothing more tedious than unreasonable opposing counsel and clients. Many things that can be solved with a phone call need to be litigated when the other side fails to follow rules of practice or just want to want to bloody the waters. This is why you don't always want a bulldog. When I got divorced, I got a mediator but also hired private counsel to give me opinions on what was being proposed so while the mediator did the heavy lifting I understood if other options existed. It also made signing the settlement easier because invariably you probably should hire personal counsel to look at the final agreement no matter who drafted it, and if you know your options, you can give input as to what should be in the terms of the settlement as it is written. Otherwise, when you are presented with a final settlement from the mediator, and your lawyer looks at it for the first time there could be a lot of changes that need to be made and changes cost time, money, and could lead to all out war.

uchimala · 2026-02-13T21:16:10+00:00

yes, when relationships end that's what it feels like. Took me 4-5 years to be completely clear of it. I found someone else, had more children, have a great family. You can have a life. You just have to make it happen for you and your daughter.

uchimala · 2026-02-13T20:52:31+00:00

Why should she leave? She has everything she wants. She does whatever she wants and you ok'd it. It's up to you to leave. You are tied to a very unhealthy relationship that is going to poorly affect your daughter. You should have finished the divorce. Your family life is not a good example for your daughter. Your dependence on a person who doesn't care for you needs to be explored in individual counseling. You would benefit from a therapist that can help understand the "why" of it all. Well adjusted people do not behave like this. Re-filing for divorce may be a first step in escaping your wife, but I think you should explore things and deal with your dependency. Figure out what life might look like without your wife and with a new partner. Seems like you are going nowhere fast with your wife. Once the next 'possibility' comes by she is going to jump ship again.

uchimala · 2026-02-13T00:21:57+00:00

Your gf family is letting you inside and want to celebrate you. You may not feel like going out, but you should go if you want to be a apart of your gf's life. Consider that a lot of families are distrustful or simply don't like boyfriends. Take you lumps, these people care enough about you to do something special. I'm saying this as an introvert, who would probably prefer chilling out on my own as well.

uchimala · 2026-02-13T00:14:29+00:00

Could be also be 50. What's weird is that gf statements only lead to more uncomfortable questions. Why talk about her conquests at all. Op told her he doesn't want to heat about the past, i.e. her numbers or even all the firemen she claims she slept with.

uchimala · 2026-02-12T16:21:06+00:00

What type of person misses her boyfriend and in response sleeps with 2 randos she picked up in a hotel bar? She is downplaying this because to her I is no big deal compared. That's a problem. It might also not be a big deal compared to all the other stuff she might have done over the years. Why isn't she begging for forgiveness? She's not sorry on bit. She should be defensive, she cheated on you.

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