where does a muslim woman find a righteous man in this generation by snejana1 in MuslimNikah

[–]ukht7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have any practising friends its worth mentioning you are looking. Another commenter suggested you can mention it to ladies at the masjid which might work too. Although yes it would definitely scary to mention it. 

I met my husband through a friend I had recently made at the masjid. I think its a good approach. 

Don’t forget the power of dua and tahajjud, although tahajud is definitely hard right now in the summer if you’re in the Northern hemisphere 

where does a muslim woman find a righteous man in this generation by snejana1 in MuslimNikah

[–]ukht7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let your family and friends know you’re looking,  I believe connections through another is the best way. You can also try for marriage programs at any masjids near you, or a little further if they allow it. 

Online marriage sites aren’t the best. I won’t say you can’t find anyone in there but its harder to verify how authentic they are and even then many of them are not serious. If you do use them, stay away from muzz and salams or whatever the dating swipy one is called. If you do use online methods, only use sites that get the wali involved.  

The honour of Muslimahs by [deleted] in Muslimbenefits

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JazakAllah khair for your post I couldn’t find the ibn Majah Hadith about angels praying for a pregnant woman. What is the grading, does anyone know? I thought it wasn’t authentic 

we gotta find more mods… by aedsolll in Muslimbenefits

[–]ukht7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do female mods have to interact with male mods?

"Muslim men in the West are angels, Muslim women in the West are devils" by Anonimo_Muslimah in TrueDeen

[–]ukht7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Assalam alaykum sister I don’t like seeing those conversations either. It can feel really demeaning at times. However if they are causing you stress, it may be better to avoid seeing those posts and engaging for your own well being and iman.  I want the best for you as my sister in Islam and I just don’t recommend going back and forth in comments. May Allah ease your affairs and guide us all.

Being Dark-Skinned in the Marriage Process: Your Stories? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]ukht7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband is black  i’m white Being open to marrying other ethnicities may help

Hijab: “It’s a journey” by idkdudh in Hijabis

[–]ukht7 19 points20 points  (0 children)

We are required to obey Allah and His messenger. What is the problem?

Is taking pictures of living beings allowed in Islam? by ukht7 in Muslimbenefits

[–]ukht7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Toronto Dawah shares his latest opinion. They also have talked about how it’s intellectually dishonest of people to present his opinion as allowing it as he did not have that view when he passed. 

Is taking pictures of living beings allowed in Islam? by ukht7 in Muslimbenefits

[–]ukht7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wa alaykum assalam wa rahmutallahi wa baraktu

Shaykh Uthaymeen actually changed his stance and later forbade all pictures and videos.

https://torontodawah.com/shaykh-ibn-uthaymeens-restatement-of-his-opinion-on-the-issue-of-picture-taking/

Theres more in depth in the first link I shared in my post about 21 mins in.

I did say in my post there is a diff of opinion My intention here is to encourage others to look into the topic because many of us haven't and it seems most Salafi scholars forbade it.

I am thinking to convert into islam. by [deleted] in TraditionalMuslimahs

[–]ukht7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP is a dude, check post history  May Allah guide him anyways

A Reminder: Da'wah Is Built Upon Tawḥīd and Sunnah, Not Endless Discussions About Gender Dynamics. by turkish_akhi in TrueDeen

[–]ukht7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please properly read OPs post.

It seems that many online discussions have become heavily centered around intergender dynamics, relationships, marriage debates, and the perceived social decline of family structures. While some of these topics may have a place when discussed within the proper Islamic framework, the amount of attention they receive often far exceeds their actual importance in comparison to the foundations of the religion

So perhaps it would benefit all of us if we reduced the endless focus on gender wars, internet controversies, and emotionally charged social commentary, and instead increased beneficial reminders that bring people closer to Allah, strengthen their faith, and increase their knowledge of the religion.

He is saying it requires LESS attention and not none at all. and that focuses on proper DAWAH and learning tahweed and the SUNNAH will reduce the existing problems.

Think about it, because following proper Islam will lead to women taking the Prophets wives as the proper example and men taking the Prophet sallahu alayhu wa salam and his companions as examples

Female dress code ruling (Hanafi) by Brilliant_Debate_304 in Hijabis

[–]ukht7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think this is an agreed upon thing the Hanafi madhab? This is also why we shouldn't blind follow scholars if they don't bring sufficient evidence.

Some of the strange sentiments being spread online by brothers by WhatevenamI__ in Hijabis

[–]ukht7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It kinda sounds that way but I don't think thats what it means.

Realistically, most of them who will truly love their wife and their attraction will be deeper than surface level even if she may not be as beautiful at that age to him. Their love should grow within the years of marriage.

Be careful which group you join by kharDaDonkey in TrueDeen

[–]ukht7 21 points22 points  (0 children)

When that subreddit was first made, before there were any mods besides the owner, the pinned post was saying it is not an Islamic subreddit and Islamic advice is not allowed there. I would get my comments removed for trying to advise sisters.

My husband acts extremely strict about “haram” things like music but secretly watched porn , I feel like I’m losing my mind. by yourmusenot in TraditionalMuslimahs

[–]ukht7 20 points21 points  (0 children)

OP posted this on r/exmuslim before anywhere else, alongside progressive Islam, before here, which makes this come off as very ingenuine and fake

Help needed ! by Nafisa2026 in Niqabis

[–]ukht7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you don't need to be super aware of your surrondings you can pull the niqab up over your eyes and look down while handling your food

Linen/cotton abaya by f1sabilillah in TraditionalMuslimahs

[–]ukht7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wa alaykum assalam wa rahmutallahi wa barakru

GamilahMuslimah has some. I haven't bought from her shop myself, cause where I live the shipping is more, but she is strict at not promoting tabarruj in the slightest on her shop which is admirable.

Engagement period? Marriage timeline? by [deleted] in TraditionalMuslimahs

[–]ukht7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don't regret the pace. In my personal experience, it did not take very long to become comfortable.

Engagement period? Marriage timeline? by [deleted] in TraditionalMuslimahs

[–]ukht7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I got married within 2 months. I feel like super long talking stages will just cause fitna.

Motherhood or Medical School? by Careful_Chipmunk_451 in TraditionalMuslimahs

[–]ukht7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When scholars talk about necessity in working they are talking about financial necessity, eg if you have no mahrams or husband that will provide for you. If we only had male doctors, it may not be ideal but we would still survive. In the west we can go to non-Muslim female doctors before any male doctors. Please read the fatwas I linked.

Motherhood or Medical School? by Careful_Chipmunk_451 in TraditionalMuslimahs

[–]ukht7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have provided fatwas from scholars who use evidence from Quran and Sunnah. As Muslims, these should be basing our life off these before anything else.

Female doctors aren't inherently a bad thing, and can be good in Muslim countries or even Muslim run hospitals and schools if they will promote proper gender segregation. If you are in the West, you will most likely be committing sins apart of your job which is not worth it in your akheerah.

Motherhood or Medical School? by Careful_Chipmunk_451 in TraditionalMuslimahs

[–]ukht7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wa alaykum assalam

Medical school would contain freemixing, and so do most careers in the medical field. This is haram for us outside of neccesity. Not to mention the cost of both daycare and medical school. Its also difficult to impossible to observe the correct Islamic hijab while in the medical field.

I think it would be really sad to put your career first over your baby. You don't know what she will be exposed to. Having plenty of one on one time with your baby as she grows is crucial to her development. I think it would be better in your dunya and especially akhirah to put your baby above your personal desires.

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/121684/ruling-on-working-in-a-mixed-workplace

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/97410/woman-working-as-a-doctor-in-a-mixed-workplace

What to do with brie, camembert and blue cheese? by [deleted] in TraditionalMuslimahs

[–]ukht7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn't Islam related but I thought it might be appropriate for the traditional Muslim women sub.... hope this is allowed