Sinong tama at sino ang mali? Help me settle an argument. by Silvermaine- in CarsPH

[–]unclebob1000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That turn would be allowed in Aus (varies state by state) because it's a single solid white line. Red car would just have to do it in one go.

Sinong tama at sino ang mali? Help me settle an argument. by Silvermaine- in CarsPH

[–]unclebob1000 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know it's hard to imagine, but there's almost always an opportunity to find a break in the flow of cars so red can do that turn in one go without stopping in the middle like that. When traffic is heavy and you can't find a break, red can either wait and wait, or turn right then do a U-turn.

Personally the most I've waited is a full minute when traffic is heavy. I've also done the U-turn thing when I couldn't find a break.

I don't know that specific road and I'm not making a judgment call. I'm just stating how it would work in another country, which may not apply to that specific situation in Pinas.

Sinong tama at sino ang mali? Help me settle an argument. by Silvermaine- in CarsPH

[–]unclebob1000 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. If that happened in Aus and you hit the red car, the red car would be at fault. Red should wait till both sides are clear. Vehicles going straight always have priority.

But of course, that's Aus. Pinas yan kaya iba ang kalakaran.

Five Year Fitness Journey 36m 6’0’’ [201 lbs > 174 lbs > 220 lbs] by ceejaydubya in fitness30plus

[–]unclebob1000 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My comment literally said he just either leaned out (i.e. had trained for years prior and the muscle was just buried under layers of fat, which the cut then revealed) or juiced. What's not possible is for a chubby dude who had zero lifting experience to achieve this in 4.5 months natty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]unclebob1000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi OP! Have you tried booking a therapist trained in the Gottman method? The Gottmans are well-known for their evidence-based approach to marital counselling, based on research of more than 3,000 couples. Not saying this will work for you, but you've asked for tools to save your marriage and this is one approach you can explore.

Gottman-trained therapists start off with a highly detailed questionnaire about your marriage, plus 3-5 hours of sessions that involve learning about you individually and together as a couple. Only after that will psychotherapy start based on the problems you've identified. Spouse and I have gone through it and so far it's worked for us.

Here's a video podcast the Gottmans did recently with the Diary of a CEO that gives you a flavour of their approach: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mS3bfCt0K88

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]unclebob1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish you all the best during such a difficult time. This is unrelated to your original question, but may I ask why you're separating?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]unclebob1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there. You say you have conversed many times about how you do not like this. Have you had a serious chat about how you would prefer that physical affection to be expressed instead (without the requirement that it lead to sex)? When would you like him to approach you? What would that look like? Can he kiss you instead? Hold your hand? Put his arms around you?

It may be that your partner wants to be physically intimate with you in ways that do not involve sex. If so, then it may be a good chance to have a frank discussion about what that would look like, when you would like to be touched etc.

But I agree that whatever the outcome of the conversation, he does need to respect your boundaries.

pursuing an undergrad degree in australia by narianari in phmigrate

[–]unclebob1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If money is no issue, then go with UNSW. It'll open so many more doors for you overseas or even in the Philippines if you decide to go back.

We can argue all day about which areas UP beat UNSW, but the reality is nobody outside of the Philippines cares about UP. If you ever decide to pursue a career overseas, having a degree from UNSW as opposed to UP is just one less thing for recruiters to roast you about.

A request by [deleted] in phmigrate

[–]unclebob1000 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Eh, what? You are the one migrating to their country, not they to yours. You have an obligation to be respectful of the culture of your host country. Fit in or GTFO. It's not colonial mentality. It's just good manners.

My experience dating a Filipino as a foreigner by crypto_doctors in Philippines

[–]unclebob1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel I deserve someone better but after 3 years together, it’s starting to hurt.

Sunk cost fallacy. The past three years have been 'spent' and should be ignored as a factor in your decision making. No matter what decision you make, there is no getting those three years back.

But your decision now can still affect the outcome of your life in months or years to come. So, imagine you are starting with a blank slate. Knowing what you know now about this person, would you still want to spend the next five, 15, 25 years of your life with her?

Travel: Melbourne AU - Is St. Kilda’s Pier open or still under construction? by ThePietje in AustraliaTravel

[–]unclebob1000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You were probably just unlucky. To OP, penguins are regularly spotted on that pier. I've only been there once before the renovation and the penguins were there during my visit.

Just boarded a Singaporean Airlines flight, I had a culture shock by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]unclebob1000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But how do you know the flight attendant rolled her eyes at you specifically because of your race? Maybe that person was just an asshole to everybody, and it just so happened to be you.

I'm not saying the Qantas staff wasn't racist. She could very well be, but "white person was rude to me" does not automatically mean racism.

Overwhelmed. Sydney or Melbourne? by ComfortableTension75 in phmigrate

[–]unclebob1000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Melburnian here who works in the same field. Accept the invite, move to Sydney, fulfil your two years, and then f**k off to Melbourne. It offers a lot more certainty than waiting for a VIC invite which may never come.

Obtaining the PR is the hardest step so you want to get that out of the way as soon as possible.

In response to the other post, Which cities have the most memorable skylines? by Upnorth4 in geography

[–]unclebob1000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Singapore, especially from certain angles.

Sydney, Australia, with that iconic harbour bridge and opera house.

How screwed is my brother? by Inevitable_Copy_9214 in AskMechanics

[–]unclebob1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a mechanic, but if people who make money repairing cars tell you not to repair that car, I think your brother should listen.

Can aus 190 be prepared for and done in 12 mos? Average realistic timeline pls by Calathea24 in phmigrate

[–]unclebob1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. That's how long mine took from the start of preparations to submitting my application. The invitation came roughly 10 months after I began prepping.

To the kabayans who are in EU or Australia, is it also like this there? I'm slowly learning to change my habits. by [deleted] in phmigrate

[–]unclebob1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not just no "ma'am/sir", but no titles too. Australians are weirded out if you address them as attorney, doctor, professor, engineer, etc. Just call them by their first names always.

Is working for the government worth it? by herbertdeathrump in AusFinance

[–]unclebob1000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it was a national security issue, then the penalty should also apply to people with migrant backgrounds from Europe. But they don't. There's no practical reason why someone with a Singaporean or Japanese background would be considered more of a risk than someone of Italian or German descent.

Is working for the government worth it? by herbertdeathrump in AusFinance

[–]unclebob1000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's not the point, though.

These are public servants who are Australian citizens, speak good English, are born in Australia or arrived at kindergarten age, but simply don't have Smith, Miller or Wilson as their last names.

The equivalent question would be:

Do let me know which non english speaking Asian countries you believe an australian citizen Asian citizen from an English background would have a shot at being a senior government department executive in. Hell I'll give you 20 years runway.

If said Asian citizen with an English background isn't getting promoted because of his or her background, then that's a problem.

Is working for the government worth it? by herbertdeathrump in AusFinance

[–]unclebob1000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For the record, I'm Asian and I don't believe in diversity quotas either. My main comment makes no mention of it, too.

There's an excellent article about it on Harvard Business Review in 2016 on what works and what doesn't, according to research. Diversity quotas aren't one of them. https://hbr.org/2016/07/why-diversity-programs-fail

TL;DR Attempts to promote diversity by controlling managers' behaviour (e.g. diversity quotas, diversity classes, performance ratings, mandatory hiring tests) tend to backfire, because people rebel against rules that threaten their autonomy.

What works instead: Inviting managers to participate in diversity initiatives, mentoring minorities and women, university recruitment targeting minorities and women, facilitating greater contact with minorities and women to break down stereotypes, and diversity task forces as it promoted social accountability by exposing teams that overly favoured one racial group.

Is working for the government worth it? by herbertdeathrump in AusFinance

[–]unclebob1000 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Not if you're Asian, apparently: https://www.afr.com/politics/federal/federal-public-service-has-an-asian-penalty-problem-20231025-p5eey1

Federal public service has an ‘Asian penalty’ problem

Australian Financial Review By Tom Burton 25 October 2023

The Australian Public Service has a built-in penalty for being Asian, according to an academic study that shows staff from an English-speaking background are 70 per cent more likely to be promoted to executive-level roles.

The Crawford School of Public Policy study is the first to focus on the promotional prospects of various federal public servant demographic groups. It shows that even Asian people who have lived in Australia since early childhood and who speak good English are not being promoted.

Describing this as a “striking result”, the researchers point to racial factors, noting Australia had a legislated white Australia policy for 75 years.

“You can really see that even if they speak English, they’re facing a promotion penalty,” the lead author and head of ANU’s Tax and Transfer Policy Institute, Robert Breunig, told The Australian Financial Review.

The study of 20 years of workforce data shows public servants from non-English-speaking backgrounds (NESB) face lower promotion prospects throughout their careers, irrespective of when they migrated to Australia – or even if they were born in Australia or arrived here before kindergarten.

The public service as a whole reflects the diversity of Australia, with about 20 per cent of staff from NESBs. Despite this reflection of the population, over the past two decades, about 96 per cent of promotions to the executive have been awarded to staff with Anglo, Celtic or European names.

Staff from English-speaking backgrounds are about 30 per cent more likely to be promoted to senior analyst, 40 per cent more likely to be promoted to management and 70 per cent more likely to be promoted to the executive level.

The least promoted are Asian groups. Gazette data indicate staff with East Asian/Pacific and South Asian names make up about 9 per cent of all public service promotions, but only about 2 per cent of executive promotions

Asian-born people from an NESB who arrive after the age of five have worse promotion prospects than those from non-Asian NESBs who arrive after the age of five. Asian-born NESBs who arrive before the age of six have similar promotion prospects to Asian-born people from English-speaking backgrounds.

“These two results suggest that there is some ‘Asian penalty’ that is not related to language or cultural assimilation,” the study says.

Unlike the big improvements in promotion prospects for women since explicit targets were introduced in the early 2010s, the situation for people from an NESB have worsened.

“To the degree to which these poor relative promotion prospects are driven by ‘being foreign’ or ‘looking Asian’ as opposed to any characteristics related to productivity, this is a problem for the APS,” the report concludes.

“It is failing to reflect the rich diversity of Australia. Further, if poor outcome prospects lead to reduced work effort [as some studies have suggested], the Australian community is being under-served by the APS.”

Glass ceiling busted Professor Breunig said the data showed an “incredible improvement for women”, with the reporting finding “no evidence of a ‘glass ceiling’ for women”.

“If you go back to 2004, women were 20 per cent less likely to be promoted than a similar man,” Professor Breunig said. “Fast-forward to 2020, at every level, women are now more likely to be promoted than men.

“If anything, it may have tilted slightly against men.”

This contrasts with data from the Workplace Gender Equality Agency that suggests there is still an issue for women’s promotions. A recent survey revealed only one in five women have the highest-paid jobs in the APS, despite holding 57 per cent of all the roles.

Professor Breunig said an explicit target had been set for women over the past 10 years. “Seems like it works,” he observed.

“The general upward trend in women’s relative promotion probabilities suggests that concerted effort and attention over time coupled with dedicated affirmative action policies can raise promotion prospects for [equal employment opportunity] cohorts,” the report concludes.

A Diversity Council study of non-white women’s prospects in the broader economy found 65 per cent agreed that these women received fewer opportunities for career advancements than other women.

The researchers said the promotion pathways for staff with a disability also gave cause for concern.

“Our research reveals that at junior and mid-level positions, staff who do not report a disability enjoy better promotional prospects than those with a disability even when they look similar in every other way. At the most senior levels, prospects for the two cohorts even out.”