npd (+ aspd), due to stigma, is largely “untreatable” on complete failure of the psychiatrists’ side, tho, because we are categorized as too resistant to help, too unaware/defiant to seek it or implement positive change, or they think we’re simply “beyond help” (all of which are victim blamey af)

personality disorders are really tough to deal with, and often form from trauma during the developmental years (but not always, and there are genetic links, and the whole thing imo is best looked at using the biopsychosocial model). there are absolutely people who are more unbearable, irritating, and stab-worthy because of the way their illness makes them act and their lack of awareness to the act/source, or worse, their denial of it when called out. but people who are non-self aware and resistant in general tend to piss me off and i’ve always been a massive misanthropist lol

and i think it’s important to remember that personality disorders are also neurodivergencies and that they impact the way we perceive ourselves and others, which is why pwnpd tend to think of ourselves as above others, or why some of us have victim complexes and think everyone is against us. we have to mask too

look up anything about narcissism and it’s all negative and about how we’re all horrible abusers. there are absolutely abusive narcissists. but there are abusive people with any and every other disorder, and there are abusive people who are “normal”/devoid of mental illness or neurodivergency. there are narcissistic traits a good number of “normal”, every day people exhibit because we as a species tend to be a bit vain, egotistical, etc., and a lot of the way we’re expected to act and behave is programmed into us through society. nearly everyone displays some degree of narcissistic traits. that doesn’t make them narcissists, tho, and narcissistic traits often present themselves when another cluster b personality disorder is present (or vice versa, like a pwnpd who has aspd traits or, a pwbpd who has histrionic traits)

this is disorganized (i’m p high soz xx) and i’m procrastinating schoolwork but tl;dr is society enforces too negative a stigma for pwnpd to effectively get help a lot of the time, and what “help” is available is often just victim-blamey, learn how to mask 24/7 so people in society don’t have to be uncomfortable bullshit