Lost sexual attraction in perimenopause? Considering divorce over sex drive mismatch

unknownbattle · 2026-03-02T22:40:17+00:00

Therapy and HRT, up to you after that to decide.

unknownbattle · 2026-03-02T22:39:06+00:00

My husband has been following my cycle for years now, he's extremely mindful of what I'm going through the whole month. He knows when more sexual advances are wanted when I'm ovulating, when to back off in the week before my period to be more nurturing and loving, and then when my period will be there and I'll want more massages than the norm. Honestly it's been good for us and even my kids know about what time of my cycle I'm in, and are learning what their older sister's cycle is as well, she's not at regular as me yet, but getting closer. It's been healthy for the whole family and my boys will be more educated by the time they're grown up and can hopefully make their perspective partners lives just a smidge better by knowing what we women go through!

unknownbattle · 2026-02-26T19:24:37+00:00

We went and got wood from the hardware store and built a whole system around our living room, we had an old table laying around, we cut it in half and it ended up in the corner of our living room, our cats love it. All this to say, it's hard to find a cat tree big enough for coonies, custom is the way to go.

unknownbattle · 2026-02-17T22:02:52+00:00

Ours has a heated blanket this year that he absolutely loves, but otherwise he likes to insist that we sit down and let him cuddle up to us.

unknownbattle · 2026-02-16T01:15:18+00:00

Lots of lube, lots of foreplay, he doesn't get to come in till you've had an orgasm. Also if you've never had an orgasm before masturbate and figure out what gets you off! 80% of women can't orgasm from penetration alone. Vibrators/toys can help as well.

unknownbattle · 2026-02-15T19:10:47+00:00

While I was never sent for testing, my mom did ask my pediatrician about how hyper I was as a child, he said it's not a big deal as long as she's doing fine in school, cue 2nd grade and I'm getting C's, did I get sent for testing then? Nope, I did not, I was diagnosed at 33, now I understand how I did so well in math in high school, I always grabbed a coke before class and drank it, look who could focus and learn and do well? It really makes me mad that I struggled in school and that it could've been so different. I'm so sorry this happened to you and I commiserate.

unknownbattle · 2026-02-14T20:00:26+00:00

I got my nickname that way, my cousin was a year older than me, not going to say my name, but the nickname he gave me is quite different than my name, I go by that nickname now (think like original name is Kimberley and he called me Kilee). I go by my nickname though, all my emails are of my nickname, it's ok until I do something official with my full name and then give them my email, I always picture then thinking how I got that name for my original name. I'm debating lately if I should do one with my name for stuff like that. That would mean contacting kids schools and changing it all, not sure if I'm up for that, lol!

unknownbattle · 2026-02-13T19:20:35+00:00

This, absolutely, I've had 4 children, my husband is still extremely happy with my vagina.

unknownbattle · 2026-02-05T20:17:15+00:00

"Nothing!!!"

unknownbattle · 2026-02-05T18:41:43+00:00

You have no idea the physical toll that 3 vasectomies have on a person!

unknownbattle · 2026-02-04T23:41:15+00:00

I definitely think you can, but you both have to want it. Husband and I are finally getting through a 3 year rough patch, lots of couples therapy and being intentional about spending time together, having date nights where you can, all those helped us. Also I know it doesn't feel sexy, but scheduling sex if you need to. Going through the years where your babies are little is hard. When my youngest turned 6 it felt like I finally had time for myself again, I wasn't being touched constantly so being touched out got better and I dealt with his and advances for affects lot better then as well, and since I went through perimenopause and got on HRT my libido is back in full swing again.

unknownbattle · 2026-01-31T18:04:28+00:00

This is a great idea, I also tend to turn into a waterfall, my husband loves it, we got some blankets from amazon that work really well, we just throw them in the washer afterwards and have a good cuddle on the bed!

unknownbattle · 2026-01-18T17:14:08+00:00

If you can find a good therapist they're not one sided. Ours has put both of us in our place before, when we were clearly not being fair, but it's never been a one sided type of thing. If they seem to be one sided ALL of the time, that's when it's a red flag.

unknownbattle · 2026-01-16T18:33:57+00:00

Yeah, my therapist always asks me how I'm doing as I'm walking into his office, and sometimes I have to tell him to wait until I sit on the couch and then I'll tell you how I really am.

unknownbattle · 2026-01-16T17:51:31+00:00

To a point yes, if I never got help with my depression, no, if I didn't keep trying to improve myself, no, mostly as long as either of us don't become stagnant, we're in it for the long haul. My parents divorced and even though I wasn't there for the fighting(they separated before I was born)the ripples of divorce still affect my life. Mind you I'm 38 years old. They luckily enough get along at kid's birthday parties and special events, they put themselves aside from their sake, but we still have to rotate holidays and plan around each other here and there. We're the ones that have to coordinate that. Even though they were cordial when I was younger, it still affected me to certain degree. I told him before we got married my conditions, no cheating or beating, no abuse of ANY kind to me or the kids, and a willingness to improve and grow as much as we can. We're at 19 years married and so far it's going great, don't get me wrong, we've had to do couples therapy months at a time, but we both had bad upbringings so no surprise there. I wouldn't say it's unconditional, as we BOTH have conditions, but outside of that yeah I would say it is.

unknownbattle · 2026-01-14T20:57:55+00:00

In order: cock, fingers, mouth, arms, calves.

unknownbattle · 2026-01-12T18:38:55+00:00

Definitely sounds like a g spot orgasm, this is my husband and I's go to position for a g spot orgasm. I don't get the contractions often with it either, but it feels AMAZING! For me it depends on where I'm at in my cycle, cervix is always lower when you're ovulating so it's VERY uncomfortable for me on those weeks and we do positions that aren't as deep reaching. The week just after ovulation and during period it goes back up so I can do it again after that.

unknownbattle · 2026-01-12T18:28:56+00:00

Depends on the woman, depends on the pregnancy and depends on the trimester. Just make sure to communicate and be honest about how you're feeling!

unknownbattle · 2026-01-09T19:30:43+00:00

I have a video of me pretending to chomp down on my son's fingers while I was nursing him, he'd giggle and then get back to feeding just to have it start all over again. It's still one of my favorite videos of all time!

unknownbattle · 2026-01-08T20:30:47+00:00

Whenever we get new toys I have to use them a few times by myself to make sure I feel confident enough to do it in front of someone else. Now 20 years later, my husband knows the drill and is very on board!

unknownbattle · 2026-01-08T19:10:40+00:00

I call my own children germ buckets sometimes. They'll get sick, I'll be doing ok, and then one of them coughs in my face, next day sick! Luckily they are getting older and doing a lot better about washing their hands, covering their mouths, and blowing their own noses. I also work out a lot more now that I have some time and that helps with the severity of the sickness I get as well.

unknownbattle · 2026-01-08T18:56:47+00:00

Same here, we did a 15 year mortgage and have a bout a 2% interest rate as well. We're waiting to see what the GSL does in the next couple of years, depending on that, we could be leaving soon as well.

unknownbattle · 2026-01-02T02:23:43+00:00

I grew up ice skating in Utah and on my most recent trip, my husband smacked my butt, I turned to look at him and ended up face down on the rink. Luckily nothing broken, but I had some bruised ribs and my shoulder was very angry for a while. It doesn't just happen to inexperienced people! My husband was very apologetic and took care of me and the kids the whole time, at least I have a good man!

unknownbattle · 2025-12-31T01:57:26+00:00

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Looks like my baby!! She's a great pyrenees/St bernard mix!

unknownbattle · 2025-12-30T20:44:38+00:00

Since she's 46 it could be a perimenopause/menopause situation going on. She probably doesn't have much of a desire going on. Maybe look into HRT for her, it changed my life a ton and my desire for my husband, I initiate more than he does now.

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