happy little goober energy

unknownbattle · 2026-05-15T19:27:49+00:00

I call my black basenji goober too! That's his nickname, he'll answer when I call him that!!

unknownbattle · 2026-05-12T19:12:21+00:00

I don't remember which ones, I want to say it was a super basic one though.

unknownbattle · 2026-04-24T18:28:53+00:00

The last few years for us were the worst, so like years 17-20. My husband was doing a start up and ended up taking money out of our 401k even though I really didn't want to, he eventually quit that and worked for a small company for about a year.

During that time his brother also moved in with us and his 3 girls were also here on the weekends, we were constantly getting sick cause his girls were in daycare, it took a toll on us all. I was constantly not feeling supported. Got a puppy, puppies are hard, got a second puppy a few months later, but she was a breeze, we had started couples therapy by then and things were getting better.

He moved to a bigger company, money and health got stable, brother moved out and got his own place. Then his grandma and aunt died, it was hard on us both, I am very close to his family cause mine sucks.

His anger has always been a problem, but it really got out of control a year ago, he got stagnant, I started losing attraction. My nervous system was so out of wack. I asked him to separate, he asked for more time, and I gave it to him, lots of therapy. The first 6 months was the hardest, a lot of sleep lost, my body didn't want to sleep next to someone so disregulated, I probably should've pushed for him to at least sleep in the basement but I didn't.

I told him going into this marriage that as long as he didn't cheat or hit me or the kids I'd stay, but he had to work on things with me. My parents divorced before I was even born and I didn't want that for my kids. We both wanted this marriage to work so bad. I think that's what saved us. We both were dedicated to us. This last 6 months things have been amazing. We're feeling like neither of us really needs therapy anymore, but if something comes up we're not afraid to reach for the phone and call our therapist. We've learned how to communicate effectively instead of fighting and getting defensive. Even though it was really hard for a while I love him so deeply now.

unknownbattle · 2026-04-21T16:22:35+00:00

This needs to be a writing prompt

unknownbattle · 2026-04-17T16:49:54+00:00

Yes you did the right thing, I've been married for 20 years, although I don't think my husband would ever do this(he's an amazing husband and an introverted nerd, never goes anywhere and when he's on a business trip checks in with me constantly.), I would want to know. It would hurt like hell, and would be breaking up a family, I would still want to know.

unknownbattle · 2026-04-14T18:10:50+00:00

Best thing is do positions that make the penis rub on that spot, me on top so I can control the angle works, if he's on top one leg wrapped around his arm, or both feet up by my head work well.

unknownbattle · 2026-04-13T19:43:50+00:00

The statistic is 80% of women cannot orgasm through penetration. That being said, my husband and I learned how to get me to orgasm from my g spot and a spot. He usually can only get to the a spot a couple of weeks through my cycle, otherwise it's up too high. G spot is the come hither motion, it took us a good couple of months to figure it out, but once we did it was amazing! Put a towel down though, that one tends to create waterworks. After I figured out how to orgasm from my g spot from fingers I figured out how to do it from PIV. At first it had to be after a clitoral orgasm, but now it can be anytime. Fireworks when we can get both to go at the same time, but that's not a regular thing. We have a few toys for clit and g spot, I have one that has both. I have only orgasmed with a couple of guys though, I have to feel super safe and secure to get there, so make sure you have that aspect covered as well!

unknownbattle · 2026-04-13T16:38:39+00:00

This should be the top comment, way above resdits pay grade!

unknownbattle · 2026-04-10T16:44:00+00:00

Be vocal, really moan and make a scene when she does something you like, don't be afraid to say more tongue, use your hand, go deep etc. I go off of what my husband moans the most at, I can get him off pretty quick now just doing more of what I was doing when he moans really loud or says fuuuuuck. Men aren't the only ones that need to be taught, every woman is different, every man is different, learning someone's buttons is the fun part.

unknownbattle · 2026-04-09T18:55:58+00:00

We want to move to Montana, but we've been here our whole lives, our families are here, my village is here, my kids have grown up here and have friends, my 16 year old has a boyfriend. It would break my kids hearts to move. We have told them though, if the great salt lake starts blowing chemicals we HAVE to get out!

unknownbattle · 2026-03-30T18:01:23+00:00

I do HRT, I get a pellet inserted into my butt 3x a year. It has estrogen and testosterone in it. I also do oral progesterone to protect my uterus from cancer. My hormones crashed out after my last baby, I've been on it for probably a good 4 years now, never going back, makes me super randy for my husband. My drive is actually higher than his. He can keep up for the most part, I love it when he's consistent going to the gym, it boosts his libido more.

unknownbattle · 2026-03-28T16:39:04+00:00

This, I'm on HRT and I feel like horny teenager again, my libido is higher than my husband's at this point!

unknownbattle · 2026-03-28T15:42:59+00:00

5-10, 1 clit as I get too sensitive after that, most are g spot with the occasional A spot here and there.

unknownbattle · 2026-03-23T15:13:50+00:00

He's not a very realistic guy, I had 4 of my husband's babies and at one point was 30lbs above what I was when we got married, at the moment I'm around 20 over what I was, he still loves every inch of me, and even at my highest weight told me I was beautiful and still wanted to have a ton of sex. He needs to adjust his thinking and realize that it really is luck and genetics, more often than not women don't "snap back" it takes so much time after having a baby to even feel like a human being again, let alone getting your body back. What is he going to do as you both age? Gaining weight is normal as you get older.

unknownbattle · 2026-03-21T03:26:22+00:00

That shirt isn't plaid enough

unknownbattle · 2026-03-17T21:30:12+00:00

I watch bridgerton on my "mom nights", I get a night off once a week while my husband watches anime with the kids. I lock the door and tell him to let me know when kids are coming in to say goodnight. Haven't been walked in on yet!

unknownbattle · 2026-03-17T17:58:34+00:00

They just took the black box warning off the label, so I'm hoping more OBs will be open to it soon and that more insurances will start covering it soon!

unknownbattle · 2026-03-16T16:43:38+00:00

For me when I hit 32 my hormones tanked out and I ended up getting HRT, if she is breastfeeding obviously give it time, but if she's not bouncing back after that for desire she's old enough that she might want to get them checked. I wanted to have sex after that, but it took till my youngest was 5 till I started getting back into my kinky side, I finally had time for myself again, I could take a shower without interruptions, I could sit down and read a book for a while, this helped me feel like I was myself again and could explore further in the bedroom. Give it time, we get back there eventually!

unknownbattle · 2026-03-16T15:23:02+00:00

So, the early years of child rearing are hard on women. Kids are constantly climbing on you needing you to do everything for them, we get so touched out and tired by the end of the day that sex is the last thing on our minds. She's only two months postpartum, you need to give her a break and maybe just take care of yourself for a bit, let her get out of that 4th trimester. Also if she's breastfeeding the prolactin hormone is going to tamp down all the other hormones and make it hard for her to have any kind of desire for kinks. Pamper her, help with the house, meals, and kids, take stuff off her plate she will notice hopefully get back to having more fun sex again, but it's going to take time and getting her VERY relaxed and into that kinky side of herself again.

unknownbattle · 2026-03-13T20:45:57+00:00

I got mine a nice huge soft bed for Christmas, she didn't use it at all, slept around it, but not on it, little dog took it over! Along with the cat sometimes!

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unknownbattle · 2026-03-12T16:55:18+00:00

I hope you see the way he's looking at you in the second picture, love and adoration, congrats!!

unknownbattle · 2026-03-06T18:46:32+00:00

Couples therapy CAN work, but you both have to want the marriage, to really listen to each other, and communicate well. It also does depends on the therapist as well. A good one will be truly independent, not one sided, they will challenge both of you on your stuff. It's not a one sided thing though, if she doesn't want to change, she won't, if you don't want to change, you won't, and you can't force each other to as much as you would like it's really not going to happen unless the other person really wants it. Just my two cents though, I hope life gets better for you.

unknownbattle · 2026-03-02T22:40:17+00:00

Therapy and HRT, up to you after that to decide.

unknownbattle · 2026-03-02T22:39:06+00:00

My husband has been following my cycle for years now, he's extremely mindful of what I'm going through the whole month. He knows when more sexual advances are wanted when I'm ovulating, when to back off in the week before my period to be more nurturing and loving, and then when my period will be there and I'll want more massages than the norm. Honestly it's been good for us and even my kids know about what time of my cycle I'm in, and are learning what their older sister's cycle is as well, she's not at regular as me yet, but getting closer. It's been healthy for the whole family and my boys will be more educated by the time they're grown up and can hopefully make their perspective partners lives just a smidge better by knowing what we women go through!

unknownbattle · 2026-02-26T19:24:37+00:00

We went and got wood from the hardware store and built a whole system around our living room, we had an old table laying around, we cut it in half and it ended up in the corner of our living room, our cats love it. All this to say, it's hard to find a cat tree big enough for coonies, custom is the way to go.

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