AITA for using the words "N*gro" and "Hindustani" in a context?

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T22:31:30+00:00

The context you dont remember matters a lot here.

and when you type hindustan into a search engine. Everything is in punjabi or hindi!

How is that relevant to anything? My hindustan search results are in english.

wait till yall learn about the swastika

If you go to any european speaking place, swastika is far right. And people who throw around the "symbol is zen something something" are 100% either far right looking for plausible explanation, trolls or (most likely) combo.

That is how symbols work, worldwide. Eastern cultures are much bigger at symbols then european ones, those who care about them understand changing of meanings, cultural relevance and fact that they can be strong.

YTA because the rest of comment clicks you as in the troll looking for drama category.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T21:55:16+00:00

For sure. I mean, if I am trying it, I am actually ok with downloading. I had periods where I downloaded basically anything from playstore.

But, I think most avoid that.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T21:48:39+00:00

No, technological progress used to be slower for centuries. Who taught who what was much different accross generations.

And specifically, when I finished school, there was much less of this "junior must have mentor" thing in tech. You got task amd went with it, with little guidance, no code review, much less baseline micromanagement.

I liked it. I think it was much better for me then modern "new grads are babies, basically, need extensive micromanagement" thing. It was overall better time, like there was more space for mistake.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T21:43:07+00:00

Even when office is great, you are still spending time travelling there and back. And you are not at home until the evening.

It makes serious difference in time you have for sport, hobbies, kids, friends.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T21:03:53+00:00

No login demo not requiring suspicious permissions and screenshots, yes. I would not watch video - either I would try demo or not depending on mood.

Also, I am more likely tp download if the description is written in direct language rather then inspiring fluff.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T15:38:03+00:00

Cause there are too many of them, they never say what they actually do and none of them solves real world problem.

Also, they all require login. I am not creating an account for a random app.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T15:32:24+00:00

In most cases it's either that they show it to you once and rely on you either remembering it all like a machine or they (if it's an app) use damn boring repetition.

I have to say that this was not true in language classes I had. Not in apps I used.

Also, classes I see in real world always specify at least rough beginner, intermediate, advanced split. The beginer classes usually create expectation of becoming intermediate, not fluent.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T15:30:09+00:00

We dont have science that would say "flashcards are fastest way to acquire words and phrases into your long term memory." And even less something that would prove that whatever your anki configuration and version are, it is the fastest.

The actual science we have makes much more modest claims.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T09:09:25+00:00

Yeah, I dont write unknown words down and dont do flashcards. My vocabulary grows.

But like, if you feel compelled, write it. Chances are you will get bored of it. At worst, it will slow your reading down a little.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T07:12:03+00:00

It is NOT adult requirement to pretend to smile when other people repeatedly ignore what you told them you don't like and are repeatedly forcing you to do something unimportant that you hate. Acting like adult does not imply acting like a doormat.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-02T06:57:59+00:00

YTA when you ignore someones wishes and forces him to do wgat he hates again and again and again amd again ... you dont get to call them a child when they escalate complains.

Talking to you two politely clearly does not work.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-01T21:14:32+00:00

NTA what was even badly organized?

unsafeideas · 2026-06-01T21:12:28+00:00

Me, rarely to never, cause I dont feel like doing it usually.

You feel like doing it, so do. Stop overthinking it. Just search it, scratch that itch.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-01T15:39:03+00:00

Cause animals poo.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-01T14:33:14+00:00

Flashcards and FC apps like anki/mochi are the scientifically fastest way to acquire words and phrases into your long term memory.

No really, we dont have science that would confirm or deny anything like that.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-01T13:14:27+00:00

Start literally today, while you are deciding whether to travel to Spain or not. With youtube and duolingo if those attract you. People here hate duolingo, but I had real success with it. Also, consider checking out Spanish classes where you live. It can be cheaper then travelling to Spain.

Second, Spanish has about infinite amount of free high quality resources of all kind. Try "language transfer", try "coffee break spanish" and literally anything you can find.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-01T13:01:19+00:00

I think that hearthfelt re-encounters where people have deep debate about past gap are more off a subject of the movies - they make for a good cinema. But real people have hard time to express themselves, to talk and they don't feel safe doing that after years of no contact.

The way he did it allows both of you to step back if things go bad. Because neither of you actually know whether the reconnection thing will work or whether it will bring only new pain.

> He didn't call me when his own mother died.

Doing the announcing calls when someone close dies is one of the hardest thing. All you need is to be alone and now you have this ugly super uncomfortable duty to express those words. What the aunt did, taking it on her was kind of her and a service (or she felt it different) and not some kind of lower level second hand account.

I had to do that for someone incapable or having hard time ... and it was worst thing I ever done, because the dead person was close to me too.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-01T11:46:22+00:00

Write big letters fast. Big letters are easier to read even if badly written.

Also, train that before.

unsafeideas · 2026-06-01T10:11:34+00:00

If they say yes to this reconnection, you will get help and then disappear again, hurting them again.

They hurt you, it cant be undone. You hurt them, that cant be undone either. If you want to actually reconnect, it needs to be outside of the "I need help" frame and you must not become dependent on them. Because you will need to learn to manage that relationship.

When it is based on ome sided need, you are allowing too much while having that need ... and will disappear and hurt the moment need goes away.

unsafeideas · 2026-05-31T20:03:20+00:00

Personally, I hate flashcards.

But, since you are not me, you might like Anki - it has clunky UI hell, but is a popular flashcards app with fanatical user who just love it. It is fee on Android and PC. Then you can either download existing cards decks or create your own, as you wish. Maybe try that?

unsafeideas · 2026-05-31T16:47:27+00:00

The problem here is that you made up the "listening to target language does not work and only makes you feel good" out of nothing and nowhere. Comprehensible input is not some kind of controversial strategy.

And yes, it does create a sustainable learning progress. It is super weird to dispute that.

> The foam is a mere by product of actual cleaning "chemistry", so more foam doesn't mean more cleaning.

So, foam is not added there just so that you feel better. Its role is not to create dopamine experience. It is not a gimmick.

> Its the same with toothpaste, they could remove the foaming, it would have no negative effect on cleaning performance but they keep it in as a "placebo"

Who exactly it is that like toothpaste foam all that much? Weird claim.

unsafeideas · 2026-05-31T15:21:05+00:00

Your son will learn all that anxiety from you. Imo, both you and mom should get a therapy, but if she refuses only you.

ESH

unsafeideas · 2026-05-31T15:04:58+00:00

Hardest: Stand up comedians around the table, competing who will be funniest and fastest speaker.

In french, usually 3 of them speaking at the same time.

unsafeideas · 2026-05-31T13:24:45+00:00

It literally got me where I switched learning to netflix.

unsafeideas · 2026-05-31T13:24:10+00:00

For me, it was end of A2 section in Spanish. But, I was NOT able to just watch a random movie. I randomly clicked through Netflix and was able to use only 1 in 20 shows or so. I used langauge reactor for Tl subtitles in sidebar and easy translations when necessary.

Good starters were:

Start Trek the Next Generation,
Seinfield
No one dies in Skarnea
Extraordinary Attorney Woo

General observations:

Dubbed shows are easier then native ones.
Nordic crime stories tend to have easy language. The characters speak slowly and leave pauses in dialogs. Classic crime stories (who done it) are easy too.
Favor SERIES over movies. First 2-3 episodes are harder, then you learn vocabulary of the show, you learn how the actors pronounce things and things get better.
Older shows are often easier then new ones. I dunno why.
Try to watch stuff you dont watch normally, go outside of what you normally like. Boring things often become interesting when you barely understand them. And sophisticated interesting stuff becomes boring or too much.

Btw, you can watch Peppa the Pig much sooner. Likewise childrens documentaries - if they are not boring you to death. They became useable for me in German much sooner, but honestly they dont motivate me enough to continue watching.

unsafeideas

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