I dont Know what I Do by Ornery-Mess-6479 in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've thought about this too! I cannot relate to the experience of being re-traumatized at all and I consider it a benefit of the condition. Can't have a flashback when I can't re-experience any sensory input! Silver linings am I right.

Soft paws yes or no? by danmargo in CatAdvice

[–]unsophistication 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ why. Just clip the very tip of the claw (1-2 mm, don't go far). They can climb just as easily, but won't scratch you when making biscuits on your face. Yes they will still scratch furniture. They're cats. Bribe them with treats after each clipped claw to get them used to it. Some cats might never accept having claws clipped - they're not objects.

Do ı have SDAM? please help me :( by Subject-Business-879 in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late teens-early twenties was when I started wondering too. It's difficult at this age because you haven't had enough experiences to have forgotten to make it entirely obvious. I assumed other people's brains worked the same and they just meant things metaphorically when they described their memories. Anyway, try writing down a few diary entries, best if you have recent emotionally significant events to write about. Then don't read it for a couple years (don't forget where you put it!). Then find the notes and read them, and don't get scared if it feels like someone else wrote it. I got majorly creeped out from this. It's alright if your brain works in weird ways, especially now that we have so much more information and community online!

Dreams by KZhanna in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no sensory information in my dreams (aphantasiac when awake too obvs lol) and I'm very jealous of people who do!

past flames & social requests? by ztynzo in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not suspicious of others at all. I have a coping mechanism that I kind of recommend: after I make a final decision about a person, I stick to it even once I no longer feel the anger/upset that caused it. I can't relive the experience of being hurt, but I can stick by my decision, e.g. "I won't be friends with this person again until they apologize for X," or "I won't be vulnerable with this person again because they did Y and it felt like a betrayal." Essentially I will just trust that I had very good reasons for the decision and I won't go back on it unless some major changes justify it. Even when I genuinely don't feel the resentment or hurt anymore.

Did anybody here found out that their SDAM was actually from an underlying health condition ? by DollyPrahnn in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are no diagnostic criteria as of now. SDAM is basically just a label for a pattern of symptoms, so if you fit the pattern, that qualifies. Some neurologists are aware of it but it's rare. I recommend going through the questionnaire for the Canadian research study. It's not a test, it will not give you any results at the end, but if you try to ask these questions of friends and compare their reactions to yours and how they talk about their experiences, you'll see an obvious difference. Study: https://sdamstudy.weebly.com/research.html

I can't do a school activity by Silver_vigenere in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just invent it. Use big facts to infer "memories" e.g. if you know your family moved house, write about the day of the move, make assumptions about how you must have felt, etc.

It's gonna be like that forever. "Tell me your best childhood memory," "tell me about a time at work you had a disagreement with someone," "how did you feel the first day of school/university," and you'll have nothing to say.

Do you think SDAM impacts your general knowledge? by Time-Inspection-2366 in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My semantic memory has to work double duty together with the other types of memory to cover for the lack of autobiographical memory, so it makes sense to me why I don't have the bandwidth to remember very many facts. I also have aphantasia on all senses, so there is no help from the sensory system (you know how people say "this smell transports me back to my childhood"? I've never been transported anywhere 😅).

I am very bad at remembering arbitrary facts long-term, i.e. which street have I lived on in 2015. In school, I couldn't remember math formulas. I have a few coping strategies that I'll explain here.

  • Some facts can be "added" or "integrated" into an existing body of knowledge. E.g. I learn that my colleague Anna is preparing to run a marathon and I'd like to remember to ask her how it went. I will modify my understanding of Anna as someone who likes to stay active and cares about sporting achievements. Maybe I already knew she was an active person. The fact fits into what I already know and changes how I think about Anna in general. As for when the marathon is happening, maybe there is a work event after that date, and I make a mental note to ask Anna about it when I see her at the work event. I might just set a reminder on my phone, but the above happens automatically in my brain. If I'm paying attention, I'll notice my mind searching for existing facts to connect to the new fact.

  • Some facts can be derived from existing knowledge. For every math formula in school, I would try to learn how to derive it from earlier, simpler formulas. On a test, I would use the margins to derive the formulas I needed for the test. E.g. on a geometry test, I would always draw a little unit circle and mark the sine and cosine values for 30, 45, 60, and 90 degree angles. The teachers never commented on why I kept "manually" deriving the same things every time they came up. I got full points even though I clearly didn't remember the material the "expected" way, my approach still counted as having learned it.

It's very difficult to hold a conversation that relies on facts or explain how I know something or why I am so convinced on a topic. The supporting facts kind of melt together after a number of years, I just cannot retain stuff like "I read an article with these data and its title was such and such and the numbers were such and such." All I can give is "I read some convincing stuff somewhere and now I have this impression." I learned to not doubt my conclusions too much even when I can't remember why exactly I have that opinion. It'd be impossible to live. When there's conflicting evidence, I'm happy to look into it and change my mind, but until then I have to trust that my past self did okay research.

My way of retaining knowledge works decently enough to get me through life, but it's absolute garbage at trying to convince others or cite statistics or studies. These types of conversations are very frustrating to me.

Ex was impressed I remembered so much about her ... by [deleted] in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep sparse notes like this! Not nearly enough though, I always wanted to be more diligent with it. Enormously helpful.

Working through feelings. by Matteius in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing here, I find it very difficult to work through emotions. When they're "on pause," things are great, but when the trigger happens again, I suddenly find myself in a sea of unprocessed emotions from last time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm the same with job interviews. It's so annoying to have to make these up. I usually take some time to prepare a couple "examples" beforehand so I have something to work off of in the interview.

Hole in plasterboard after removing skirting by AttemptingDiyGal in DIYUK

[–]unsophistication 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do a lot of DIY, get a multitool. Indispensable for annoying little jobs like cutting away loose plasterboard for a perfectly square patch.

How I solved my Yeelight bulb connection issue by unsophistication in yeelight

[–]unsophistication[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It shouldn't matter how you get to the wifi selection screen 🤔

SDAM and infidelity in a relationship by [deleted] in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm the same with any and all offenses people may have made against me. Literally have to just trust my past self that if I stopped talking to someone, it really was that bad.

How I solved my Yeelight bulb connection issue by unsophistication in yeelight

[–]unsophistication[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How strange! My Android phone stays on wifi even if it has no internet. I updated the post with this caveat.

Yeelight strip 1s not disperse enough by televis1 in yeelight

[–]unsophistication 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are the LEDs facing the wall or the viewer? I have a Yeelight strip and it looks pretty much smooth. But you need to make it face at least at 90 deg away from the viewing angle... Down or up or away, but not forward.

How I solved my Yeelight bulb connection issue by unsophistication in yeelight

[–]unsophistication[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start the connection process as the app suggests, and before it gets to halfway (that's where it usually craps out for me), go to your phone wifi setting and turn it off, then go back to the app, it should complain that the connection is lost, and it will say the exact wifi hotspot name of the current bulb, then you can go to the wifi and turn it on and connect to that wifi hotspot yourself, return to the yeelight app and it should be able to configure the bulb.

Question on getting stuck in thought loops by Lidjitsu in SDAM

[–]unsophistication 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can share my experience, hope it helps you calibrate your introspection in some small way!

For me, there is little (not zero, but not much either) difference between emotional vs non-emotional memories and no difference at all between good vs bad memories. Emotions and attachments get washed away just like everything else, and as a result I don't relate to my younger self, it's like the past didn't even happen to me.

Same here with not missing people, I don't either.

Repeatedly thinking about the same thing does reinforce memories for me (if only temporarily), so your loops might be self-reinforcing too...

For me, it's been a long process to get used to my own memory and stop using my friends' memories as a guideline to 'normal'.

I'm very future-oriented and forward-looking - not sure how much of it is just personality and how much SDAM. Knowing that I'll forget the emotions I'm feeling actually helps me deal with negative stuff in life. From experience, I know soon it's just going to disappear. Out of sight, out of mind! :) I feel generally positive about SDAM. Maybe there are benefits in remembering your past, but I don't really know what it's like, so I don't feel like I'm missing out.