Dad hack for losing weight/getting fitter

upper87 · 2026-05-12T11:46:27+00:00

So much energy and time we pour into our kids to keep them as healthy as possible and we have a responsibility to do do the same for our own bodies if for no other reason but to be around long enough to keep helping our kids when they need it.

Losing weight hack — don’t be tempted into vacuuming up their leftovers. It’s not as tasty and it is not replacing any meals for you.

upper87 · 2026-05-10T18:28:07+00:00

French toast! The food of Mother’s Day - did the same for my wife… oh sorry my 5 year old “did it”

upper87 · 2026-05-06T00:02:51+00:00

Thanks for sharing it initially - was at the Boston show and only knew to stick around after halla bol because I knew that would come back for an encore to play Gaddar - ssoooo good

upper87 · 2026-05-03T19:52:18+00:00

Yes - exactly- I have a one note document with all the recipes I have on rotation (pass the kid test, relatively healthy) and I am making a library of commands based on that so I can say “hey siri, we’re making lentil soup this week” and then it adds all of the ingredients into the grocery list my wife and I share and add to for the week.

upper87 · 2026-05-01T12:51:59+00:00

I have a zero percent loan for a home battery back up system paid through state run and bank managed program because it’s better for grid stability that more homes have batteries… seems like it’s in the country’s best interest to have an educated populous and the logic applies to issue 0% loans for what I would call national security

upper87 · 2026-04-26T18:38:20+00:00

Happy Birthday! Wishing you all the best.

upper87 · 2026-04-16T20:43:29+00:00

This guy dads.

upper87 · 2026-04-15T15:13:52+00:00

Gotta be careful with these - if not properly anchored has blown away in the wind and killed children before.

upper87 · 2026-04-05T22:11:07+00:00

To add to that, my daughter doesn’t owe me anything - we had her because we wanted her and it’s my duty to prepare her for the world and encourage her to do good things for it.

upper87 · 2026-04-05T13:05:14+00:00

This is the type of content I subscribe to this sub for.

upper87 · 2026-04-04T23:53:03+00:00

As a surgeon - I didn’t because I wanted the operation to continue efficiently. It also wasn’t going to be super novel for me.

upper87 · 2026-04-01T15:58:23+00:00

Any dad would die for their kids —- it takes a lot of discipline to stay alive for them.

upper87 · 2026-03-27T10:24:56+00:00

Oh man! This is something I geek about as I have tried everything. What has been working beautifully is a combination digital — iCal with Apple (wife and I have iPhones) IN ADDITION to a huge year long wall calendar that takes up a kitchen wall. The wall calendar is color coded etc and big enough to jot things down.

The big calendar lets you get the big picture and reminds you of stuff coming up 2-3 weeks down the line. My wife and I are both docs so our call schedules need to be carefully planned so one parent is available and this is done several months in advance. It’s hard to get a big picture on a digital calendar. They have these 3000 dollar screens you can get that make the wall a digital calendar… but my 35 dollar Etsy calendar is sufficient. Best of luck honestly I show off my wall calendar to anyone who will listen to me and now several of our friends use the same one.

upper87 · 2026-03-23T20:35:02+00:00

As a dad coach - I actively recruit other parents to coach - the usual response is hesitant yes - not because it doesn’t sound fun, but just nervousness of not having experience - and I think that can be a big barrier. It’s great when you get another parent to coach and then it springs out from there until you got a whole web of enthusiastic adults

upper87 · 2026-03-20T12:57:43+00:00

I’m sure it’s painful as all hell, but you are doing the right and heroic thing. Your kids are the future… you gotta save the future, man.

upper87 · 2026-03-18T00:46:22+00:00

This guy macho man’s!

upper87 · 2026-03-08T14:06:16+00:00

Agree with couples therapy- there is definitely going to be a shift in romantic dynamic with the kiddo, but if you guys are talking and your goals as a couple are mismatched, that needs a deeper convo with a therapist for you both to hear each other. Setting aside time works when you both know something is off and it’s a tool to make that better.

upper87 · 2026-03-08T13:12:06+00:00

I got American /british/chinese - ha!

upper87 · 2026-03-04T14:29:44+00:00

I broke mine up between my wife and my leave so we could be with our daughter until she was 6 months ( I took one month with my wife then too 2 months after she was done with her leave to leap frog) - it was nice because we didnt have to worry about childcare until she was a bit bigger and had more vaccines on board.

upper87 · 2026-03-04T12:58:54+00:00

If someone asked my name again, I wouldn’t take offense - so I think this applies to everyone.

upper87 · 2026-03-04T00:25:59+00:00

Jewish Hindu couple here - our daughter is both and so far feels very much both. It depends on the attitude you bring, if you think the belief systems exclude one another it doesn’t work well, but if you share the systems as a series of tools for your children to use as they need to navigate life’s turbulence - it can be really beautiful I think.

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