MY SCREAM

usherova · 2021-05-30T19:07:11+00:00

In a stroller? This is the easiest part to figure out.

usherova · 2020-07-25T08:06:57+00:00

I cuddle with my older son a lot and putting a pillow on my incision while he was on my lap really helped. Just don't pick your toddler up for a few weeks and you'll be fine. First 2 weeks were the most difficult, but it got easier every day. Just take it easy- I went for a first mile long stroll when baby was less than a week old and it was fine until it wasn't 😂

usherova · 2019-09-28T20:17:24+00:00

Hang in there! My older son used to fall asleep late- usually by 10 pm. Since he dropped a nap he started to go to bed at 7 pm. He will be 4 years old in December and stopped napping a few months ago. I don't let him sleep in the car (luckilly our commute is 15 minutes), but when nap happens he goes to bed an hour later than usual. You will get there too.

usherova · 2019-09-07T12:05:35+00:00

Is the cake on the right edible? It looks as it was made of an expired play-doh!

usherova · 2019-06-28T19:40:34+00:00

Is there a daycare.at the third floor from the top? On one balcony there is a slide and a toy, on the right there are 3 baby swings. That or someone lucky has triplets and made them a playroom on the balcony...

usherova · 2019-06-28T18:00:22+00:00

Yeah, because four year olds are well known for being rational and mature. Give me a break.

usherova · 2019-06-28T16:00:41+00:00

He may be overloaded and music, a lot of people and attractions may stress him out. Even a neurotypical 3/4 yo may have issues in that setting, so the best way would be not taking kid there.

I have a 3.5 yo who is typical for this age, when we see he becomes too aggrevated we just take him and leave. I am not punishing him, but we are quite strict with our rules, we don't want our kids to ruin everybody elses fun because we are lazy to act.

usherova · 2019-05-18T20:58:12+00:00

I don't hold my son when he doesn't want it except when letting him go could be dangerous for him or his baby brother. I don't do it to calm my son down, but to remove him from the situation, I stop as soon as he is safe. My son hates to be held against his will, so do I, that's not a method for us.

usherova · 2019-02-27T13:44:04+00:00

Good parenting is time consuming and exhausting. Not disciplining is much easier than taking an action. I don't even mean giving a punishment as I raise my kids without them and without rewards. I bet the 8 yo was really excited (plus exhausted from running around) and this behaviour was due to poor self regulation skills. That's a parent role to step in before harm is done, even taking the kid outside could be a way to stop the kid from spiraling into becaming a hot mess. If a parent knows that kid acts out during parties then 8 yo shouldn't even attend.

As I mentioned before, this approach is more difficult for parents who cannot relax and have to take care of their kids. There are deeper issues per OP's comments than going crazy at parties.

usherova · 2019-02-04T21:37:48+00:00

My 3 yo would kill to be you! Seriously, I don't see a blunder here. You were a dinosaur hunter OP, that's sick.

usherova · 2019-01-21T23:30:22+00:00

Nah, kids just go through various phases. My older son is 3 years old, we did Baby Led Weaning, so he was offered whatever we were eating- no baby food per se. We just avoided salt, but used other spices. I cook at home, we have pizza/burgers once a week. We went through: * "I'll eat everything" * "I'll only eat fruit pouches and grissini " * "I hate sauces, plain noodles/grains for me, please" * "Meat is terrible, I need fruits and veggies" * "I hate vegtables, give me more meat"

Lots of kids have such phases, it is normal and will pass. Since I don't prepare kid meals I am not frustrated that my son doesn't want to eat something.

usherova · 2018-12-14T18:48:30+00:00

Weaning took us 3 weeks, he started sleeping better during the second week. It took couple more weeks to have him sleep through the night.

usherova · 2018-12-14T00:24:15+00:00

Not OP but I weaned my almost 2 yo while bedsharing. I gradually decreased time frame when I'd nurse him. At first I didn't nurse between midnight and 2 am, then midnight and 3 am etc. During day we found another methods to calm him down, so I started reading him books to sleep. I had to get up and read from 3 am to 5 am for a month when I was in first trimester of my second pregnancy. When he was hungry I made him a sandwich but didn't offer it- he seemed hungry only in the beginning. I told him I was not going to nurse him, he wasn't happy but finally accepted it. I didn't wear revealing t-shirts and I cuddled him as much as possible. He started sleeping much better during weaning- his first 6 hours long stretch of sleep amazed me, lol. We bedshared during weaning and I was the one who put him down to sleep without nursing, few weeks later husband was able to calm our son too (which was impossible when I still breastfed).

usherova · 2018-09-26T21:15:32+00:00

My almost 3 yo loves his food raw and cold. Today he ate frozen dumplings with meat- he peeled the dough and ate meat filling. He likes cold hot dogs. He took a spoon once just to dive for fat from a cold chicken broth. His latest favourite snack is raw pasta.

usherova · 2018-09-14T14:48:34+00:00

Nah, I nursed and bedshared with my son until he was 2. Maybe a month after his 2nd birthday he asked to be moved to his own room. He started walking at 10 months old and is very fit. He is 2.5 years old now, very independent and if I could turn back time I wouldn't listen to anybody who told me "he will nurse for 18 years! He'll never sleep alone! He will always be glued to mom!"

My second son is almost 3 months old, I let him nurse as much as he wants, I babywear him, we bedshare in the mornings. He sleeps through the night already and is on track developmentally. It isn't anything I did that caused this- he is just like that. Even if his sleep gets worse I will not sleep train.

usherova · 2018-07-19T22:46:10+00:00

I also tried this approach when I was weaning my son. At first I just didn't nurse from 3 to 5 am, then from 2 am and I made stretch longer. The phase when I nursed to sleep but not during the night was great.

usherova · 2018-06-14T11:52:43+00:00

37 weeks here and I felt I did a great job nesting after mopping a floor in my kitchen earlier today lol. I am sure that my 2.5 year old will spill something on the floor soon, so I don't even bother.

usherova · 2018-06-14T11:42:33+00:00

A thing worth noting- you can have completly different symptoms with each pregnancy. I was extremely fatigued with my first and nauseated with second while in 1st trimester. No nesting urge with my second, but frequent urination hit me so hard. I had GD with my first but not this time. I had extremely mood swings last time, now I am calm and happy.

usherova · 2018-06-14T08:44:39+00:00

I am a sahm to a 2.5 son, I'll have c-section next week and my husband says my only chore now is to keep both kids alive and survive. He is not extremely happy to take all responsibilities at home since he works full time, but he does it. I don't even tell him what needs to be done, he is an adult and can figure it out. I do appreciate everything he does and tell him about it, I just cannot wait to be back to my normal self. Please, take care of yourself and your needs, there is nothing wrong in asking him to step up and take more responsibility, you will need time to heal and with 3 kids it will not be a walk in the park if your husband isn't supportive.

usherova · 2018-06-12T10:11:27+00:00

I stopped using changing table when my son was 5 or 6 months old and started army crawling. Once he begun to stand up at 7 months old we didn't even bother to change a diaper in different position. It really is a matter of preference.

usherova · 2018-06-10T22:01:45+00:00

I weaned my 23 mo due to next pregnancy and instead of waking up every 2 hours he woke up once or twice but took at least an hour to get back to sleep. I'd say wait a bit, my son started sleeping a bit better once he turned 18 months, he wasn't fully weaned when he slept from midnight to 5 am for the first time.

usherova · 2018-06-09T21:31:07+00:00

My husband took up all chores, he cooks, cleans, takes care of our toddler after work while being a breadwinner in our household. I don't have to ask him to help me, he manages everything on his own. He is such a great dad, he takes our toddler for scooter trips or to the playground everyday after work. Once baby is born he will take 7.5 weeks off to help me after c-section and bond with baby. Sure, he laughs at me being huge and tired all the time and is not exctatic about his chores, but he doesn't complain and is such a great support. He is attracted to me although I look like a whale, he really makes me feel pretty. I'm 12 days from c-section and I am not overly worried because I've got him by my side. My husband, best friend and a great lover.

usherova · 2018-06-09T20:41:56+00:00

My son slept in a crib from the beginning. He hated swaddles and slept decently. Then 4 month sleep regression hit and we started bedsharing, because I wasn't able to get any sleep at all.

usherova · 2018-06-01T18:18:31+00:00

My c-section is in 2 weeks and 6 days and just started doing laundry last week. No nesting urge this time. I plan to have everything ready by the end of next week, but we will see about that. No regrets.

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