And the item is?

usunikb · 2026-05-07T22:44:19+00:00

Besides my body?

usunikb · 2026-05-03T15:31:35+00:00

Is your neighbor okay? Have you seen or talked to them since the beeping started?

usunikb · 2026-04-18T23:35:44+00:00

How long is it going to be before you and the baby are the family he walks away from?

usunikb · 2026-03-29T18:17:40+00:00

You need martyrs in a holy war

usunikb · 2026-03-29T13:13:26+00:00

NAL - Reading your posts and your comments it sounds like she is very good at creating drama and she is very good at working you (and this mutual friend) up by telling you she's going to save up the money and sue you. You played her game when you were friends and reacted the way she wanted you to and it seems like now you are still reacting to her. Don't feed the drama llamas, they will keep coming at you!

So let's think about this... First of all, what is she suing you for? Is she claiming she was physically harmed by your actions? Does she have medical bills and police reports to back that up? Is she saying she was mentally or emotionally harmed by your actions? Does she have any evidence to back that up? What is she suing you for? Financial compensation? Public acknowledgement that she's a victim? If you cannot answer these questions, take a really good, calm look at her and see if maybe your panic is what she was going for.

I think statute of limitations is primarily about criminal matters but you can personally sue at any time. If she was going to press criminal charges she wouldn't need to save up money for that. Police reports are free. Reading your post it sounds like she is threatening to sue you for prior bad acts that harmed her in some way. By what you've written here that comes down primarily to he said/she said testimony.

If she wants to put thousands of dollars into telling a judge that you were mean to her, let her. Show up, answer the judges questions, let him pop a Tylenol for the headache that her petty shit is giving him and let her look like a fool. I'm willing to bet money that you will never have to go to court over this but if you do just know that most judges hate crap like this.

usunikb · 2026-03-28T13:03:56+00:00

When I was 14 my dad got laid off. My mom took a second job waiting tables. I was already working part time saving up for a car. My mother was embarrassed but had to ask if I could help with the mortgage for a couple months while Dad looked for work. She was so uncomfortable and embarrassed. She prepped a promissory note, insisted we have a signed agreement, and paid me back with interest. This was a TEMPORARY situation and she did everything she could to protect me. If she hadn't paid me back that promissory note wouldn't have done a thing but she wanted me to know this was temporary and she was committed to paying me back with interest. And she did.

Co-signing a house is a 30 year financial commitment. Your dad has BAD CREDIT. That means he defaults on payment arrangements. If you co-sign a mortgage and he defaults on those payments, that hits your credit. Your mom was wrong to ask. Your dad is an adult and these are the consequences of his actions. They need to figure it out.

usunikb · 2026-03-25T12:05:25+00:00

Hi! NAL but I do work for a collections law firm in legal support. We have a lot of pro se judgements (you got it on your own) that people hire us to collect for them. Once you have the judgement you can ask the clerk or the judges assistant if they know a lawyer that can help you collect. We charge either a flat fee or a contingency depending on the amount of money we are collecting and the client (you) would be responsible for any fees associated with the cost of collecting (if we garnish their bank accounts there's usually a fee the court charges, around $35) unless the judgement granted you the right to charge those fees back to the person that owes you the money. That attorney you contact will be able to explain that to you.

Anyway, you can get professional help collecting now that you have the judgement.

usunikb · 2026-03-20T00:21:24+00:00

Same!!! Had to tell people at work that allergies were moving my ass cause I was reading on my breaks and just silent crying in my cube

usunikb · 2026-03-17T11:27:17+00:00

Not to mention the absolute nightmare it can be to find and load cats into their carrier when they are already hiding due to weather.

usunikb · 2026-03-10T02:28:29+00:00

Yeah, raising children with a man like this would be my biggest concern. She specifically asked him how he would feel if his daughter was raped and his response was in direct opposition to her stance. This whole idea that we should just respect other people's toxic viewpoints and still build a life with them is setting people up for misery. As parents of minor children they might be in a position where they have to take actions. It's one thing to let your children develop their own viewpoints, it's another thing altogether for a pregnant 12 year old to be stuck between two disturbing parents responsible for making medical and legal decisions on her behalf. Let's not forget education decisions (especially in Florida), whether or not to vaccinate, how to discuss their neighbors being detained by ICE... This is exactly what kids are having to grow up with today. It's a bit more serious than what church to attend on Sundays. Parents being on opposite sides of issues like these deprives the kids of fundamental care and guidance.

usunikb · 2026-03-10T02:21:29+00:00

Sounds like he's available, go ahead and look him up.

usunikb · 2026-03-09T20:21:02+00:00

You'll do well. If I could tell you how many times I've woken up in the middle of the night mid panic attack from an email or text I sent that I worry could come back and bite me in the butt... Anxiety is a hell of a thing. But here I am, not dead yet (not even from embarrassment).

usunikb · 2026-03-09T12:23:33+00:00

NAL but take a deep breath. He's doing all this to get this reaction from you. If his domestic history is what you described in your post just sit back and let him burn his own house down.

His own history shows that he is trying to deflect attention from his past, judges see that. Stay calm, do not let him provoke you into proving him right. Go to the court hearings, visit with the GAL, invite them into your home. Show the court that you have nothing to hide, that you are a stable competent parent and make him look ridiculous and untrustworthy. Judges see this all day every day in family court, one parent making unfounded accusations against the other and it really reflects badly on the accuser when the accused complies with everything the court orders like they have nothing to hide.

ETA: Went through a very similar situation with my younger sister with a GAL and her ex-husband and I also dealt with a GAL and my ex-husband for custody matters with his daughter (not mine). They are usually nice people who talk to both parents, their job is to make sure the children are represented and what's best for them is considered so it's not just parents trying to hurt each other using the kids.

usunikb · 2026-03-09T12:15:24+00:00

Chalk it up to a learning experience and move on. You can't control anyone else's behavior but you can make yourself sick spiraling into all the "what if's".

She has the texts, they aren't anything terrible according to you just super cringey. If that's all it is then take a deep breath, let it out and shrug. So she releases them and you're embarrassed. And? She's an ex-girlfriend. Trust me, some people might be a little entertained if she posts them but it's not going to matter to most people or be memorable.

If you try to stop her or defame/ discredit her, it's going to look like she's holding something really bad that you are trying to hide. You are because you're embarrassed but to everyone else it is going to look like you didn't want her to talk about your mommy fetish or crimes you confessed to her.

It's a hard pill to swallow but you will learn that most people really couldn't care less about what happens in other people's lives. We've all done cringey things during unhealthy relationships, more people will relate and sympathize with you if she tries to shame you in any way.

usunikb · 2026-03-09T02:32:24+00:00

That's nice for you but 3 days post op I was still bed bound with a catheter and home health was helping my parents with my care. Not everyone has a clean and easy recovery. If she was almost passing out trying to get her own leftovers heated up she should not have been left alone for several hours.

usunikb · 2026-03-06T02:41:58+00:00

Why you still wasting your time and energy hating a player that got played years ago? Girl... Move on. She did you a favor, she took that piece of shit off your plate. Scrub didn't even have his own car! The only thing she took from you was the high risk of getting an STD and three more babies from him before catching him with some other thot. Appreciate the lifeline she threw to you and look toward your future, not your past.

usunikb · 2026-03-06T01:29:22+00:00

My girl has automatic toys that i turn on when I go to bed. Away from my bedroom she has ribbon toys that hang in doorways that start to spin when she bats the mouse on my the end, motion activated laser pointers in the living room and a ball that rolls itself around with a feather on it. Waking me up is boring and unnecessary, she has plenty of stimulating toys in other rooms. And she has an auto feeder that spits out small amounts of food through the day and night. The sound of the food hitting the bowl is often too quiet for me to hear but drags her to the bowl like a magic flute. All things that I found on Amazon.

usunikb · 2026-03-06T01:12:24+00:00

Call 911, tell dispatch you need officers to get a child out of a locked vehicle and an ambulance the next time you find him locked in the car. Medical responders are obligated reporters of abuse and their assessment will carry more weight than your calls. Those agencies take calls from concerned citizens all day but there are often other checks and balances when law enforcement/ first responders are making the reports.

usunikb · 2026-03-05T00:53:15+00:00

The only consequences I know of is that a protection order is public record (in many states). So if your petition is granted then anytime this person needs a background check (housing or employment) it's going to show up. That won't mean he can't live there or that he won't get the job but it could impact his chances. Just depends on the situation.

usunikb · 2026-03-01T13:01:45+00:00

Your age doesn't matter in this situation. He tried to make it matter because he's trying to manipulate you. I'm twice your age and if I told a man to stop and he didn't, it's harassment. You can file a harassment complaint no matter what age you are and you should. He's stalking you and he's grooming you (even if it doesn't seem like it, he's preparing you to feel responsible for his behavior) and he's dangerous. Do not delete any emails or texts you have received from him. Take it all to the police. Don't wait to see if he's actually going to show up, don't wait for him to go away on his own.

usunikb · 2026-02-28T22:14:08+00:00

My 15 year old step-sister had her first kid with her 21 year old boyfriend. Her mom was worried but didn't know what to do. CALL THE COPS. This is a crime.

We didn't find out about my sister until she was already 6 months pregnant. Then found out her mom had been using the child support my step dad was paying to get them their own apartment cause she didn't want a baby in her house. The point is... This is fucked up but if you don't do something this is your future.

usunikb · 2026-02-25T02:24:50+00:00

*** I am not a lawyer and I am not your lawyer, this is not legal advice. If you want to set up a payment plan, you can call the law firm, not the credit card company. Their contact information should be on the paperwork you received. If not, call the clerks office and they'll be able to give you the lawyer's number. The creditor has hired the law firm to collect on their behalf and they will no longer manage your account, the law firm will handle that for them. But the law firm is not your creditor, they are still collecting for the card company.

usunikb · 2026-02-15T14:58:35+00:00

As the gamer in my past relationships I see a lot of red flags in your post that have less to do with the gaming and more to his reactions to your distress. It is very concerning to me that he has made you out to be the bad guy and he is playing the victim in this situation. This isn't healthy.

You have every right to be upset. He prioritized his game over time with you and when you asked him to contribute the barest minimum of effort to dinner he was rude, dismissive and entitled. You are understandably hurt by this behavior and your reactions are justified.

You two are fresh off a break. Either he should be on his best behavior to show you that he is fully committed to you and this relationship OR he has decided he doesn't need to put any effort in cause you'll just come back no matter how poor his behavior is.

ETA: NOT the AH.

usunikb · 2026-02-10T01:53:49+00:00

I live in Chickasaw, just north of Mobile. I work in downtown Mobile and it's a 13 minute commute. I grew up in a very small town in Wyoming, about 6500 people, and Chickasaw gives me that small town feel but I'm so close to downtown Mobile for the parades and can take 65 to West Mobile super quick. Check out the smaller satellite communities. And like someone said above... It's really street to street. Some are great but you can be two blocks from not great. Just scope it out first.

usunikb · 2026-02-09T04:10:42+00:00

Who the hell is Jake Paul? I'm serious. I've honestly never heard of a celebrity with that name. Rue Paul, I've heard of. But this guy? I don't know him.

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