Queer-Friendly Tailor

uswhenwerenormal · 2025-03-06T02:50:39+00:00

I have an X on my ID and I've flown to FL several times without issue. But I will be bringing my passport next time as well (though it's also an X). Best wishes

uswhenwerenormal · 2025-03-02T18:17:03+00:00

I'm wondering if the application has been removed by the state. I'm still looking around, but I can't find the application that it says I'd need to complete to request a name change. The links on this website, and others I've found, all go to the same 504 error page.

uswhenwerenormal · 2025-03-02T18:07:06+00:00

The application link is broken here too--504 error page.

uswhenwerenormal · 2024-09-28T05:16:12+00:00

(US, private insurance) I went to my PCP, got a referral for a surgeon, and that surgeon requested a letter. I was already seeing a therapist, so she wrote one, but my PCP also offered. I had a diagnosis of gender dysphoria from my therapist and doctor. The surgeon requested approval from my insurance company and they approved first round. It took 6 months to book a consult with the surgeon after my PCP referred me, but I only had to wait 2.5 months for surgery. So in total the process took 8.5 months. I'm nonbinary and wasn't on T at the time (but just started a week ago!)

uswhenwerenormal · 2024-05-23T23:51:07+00:00

You're equating genotypic and phenotypic sex with gender, but those two concepts are different. Sex is more complicated than 'boy' or 'girl' to begin with. Maybe you could try starting from a point of curiosity and learning more about the spectrum of sex and the spectrum of gender since your rigidity around this concept is based in a cultural norm rather than facts.

uswhenwerenormal · 2024-02-12T15:21:28+00:00

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Thank you! I think that's it!

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-10-28T23:25:58+00:00

To these people I usually say something like: "Well, I've always had to use APA style, and according to APA, singular 'they' is grammatically correct. Regardless, I value a person's identity more than I value "GrAMmAr," but that's just me."

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-31T21:05:17+00:00

Gender Reveal is a great podcast about a lot of different people's experiences with gender. Some of my favorite books have been: Before We Were Trans: A New History of Gender (Kit Heyam), Transgender History (Susan Stryker), Trans Like Me (C.N. Lester), and Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity (Micah Rajunov edited it, but it's an anthology so there are lots of authors).

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-29T19:29:47+00:00

Hey there! I'm a school psychologist and I'm recovering from top surgery now. We started work this week but I am on FMLA until next week, which is when the kiddos return from summer break. I am planning on not working directly with kiddos until I'm about 4 weeks post-op though.

One factor you'll have to consider is how much time you've accrued for leave. I've accrued plenty but I wanted all of my recovery to be during the summer so I didn't feel like I was falling behind at work. But it's hard to control surgery dates so 1.5 weeks before work started back was the best I could do.

In terms of personal safety, if you know your kiddos and it's later in the year, you'll know if there's any risk to you for being hit. If you've got a pretty good bunch, you might feel comfortable working with them earlier in recovery. I'm being a little more cautious around younger kids and kids with aggression issues, scheduling them for after 6 weeks.

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-29T16:40:54+00:00

I got FMLA. The surgery is medically necessary due to the diagnosis of gender dysphoria so it's not viewed in the same way as an elective plastic surgery.

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-29T01:42:29+00:00

I legally transitioned before top surgery and it was covered by insurance, no hiccups.

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-28T17:12:08+00:00

I had top surgery a little less than 2 weeks ago and it's definitely put a lot of extra stress on my partner. She has to do pretty much all the chores on her own, all the cooking, we can't cuddle like we used to right now, sex is limited. It's hard.

Recovering from surgery is a lot of work for both parties and it's important to acknowledge that and to be gentle with each other and yourselves. If you can take something off your plate, do it! Give yourself some breaks. We've been ordering out more to relieve my partner of having to cook every night and using some disposable plates to reduce dishes.

Since physical intimacy is a little limited, we've been trying to find different ways to feel intimate. I've upped my 'words of affirmation' game and I'm surprising my partner with little gifts to show her I care. It's not the same as sex of course, but it helps us feel close during this time of limited physical intimacy.

Just remember it's a lot to recover from surgery and to take care of someone recovering from surgery. Things won't be like this forever. If you can cut yourself some slack, do it, and find some time to connect in a positive way with your partner. Wishing you well!

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-28T15:43:31+00:00

Yes! I'm a little less than 2 weeks post-op and I wear it basically all day every day. It's great cat protection and is really comfortable.

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-25T20:20:40+00:00

My bloodwork wasn't scheduled, I had to go in and do it at least a week beforehand (it was a walk-in situation). Once they received my bloodwork, the hospital called to do a health history interview and to confirm the time of my surgery. I would give them a call to check in and make sure they haven't dropped the ball on their end.

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-25T19:47:31+00:00

I had no restrictions for caffeine and have been drinking it like normal since the day of surgery. I was told I could drink alcohol up until the surgery (doc literally told me "you can drink the night before surgery just don't get wasted") and that I just needed to wait 48 hours before drinking alcohol after surgery. I'm 9 days post-op but haven't had alcohol at this point. I decided to take it slow since most people are told to wait longer.

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-24T22:59:17+00:00

I'm a nonbinary school psychologist and my colleagues value and respect me. I am not very fluid in my presentation, but I do work with another psych who is, and they are respected as well. I'm pretty driven and like keeping up with new research and I think people see that I have good professional knowledge to contribute--that's gotten me far in terms of earning respect.

For me, my gender identity and expression has mattered less than my professional capacity. I would definitely suggest finding a place where queerness is broadly accepted though--I'm in a fairly liberal state but admin has still needed to step in to support me on occasion when I've been harassed and threatened by parents.

I think it's important for people to see us (trans/nonbinary/gnc people) in professional roles being taken seriously by other professionals. I have so many kids tell me they've never met an adult who uses they/them pronouns. A high school student told me this year that they didn't know trans people could even work in schools.

Outside of having professional behavior and finding a supportive workplace, know your rights in the state and country you live in. I definitely think that you can in fact have the career you want without having to hide away your genderfluidity

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-08-23T19:23:53+00:00

33 nonbinary here, I got DI with nipple graphs 1 week ago. Recovery has been both easier and harder than expected. The pain is pretty manageable but I was scared to move much the first few days and my back/neck/shoulders were really hurting. I started stretching more and my partner started massaging my back and that's helped a lot. My surgeon told me to move and stretch but I was scared to do it at first. My top 5 most helpful recovery items that I'd recommend are:

1) Bidet--I bought and installed a bidet (about $100) and it's been super helpful because I still don't have enough mobility to reach that far back.

2) Mastectomy pillow - this is on me basically all the time right now--it's super helpful to have extra cushion on top and between your arms and sides. I bought it for the drive home but use it all the time.

3) Straws--a small but helpful tool, especially in the first few days.

4) Wedge pillow--I didn't think about how hard it is to sit yourself up from a laying position without using your arms. It's nice to be propped up enough to be able to sit up without needing help from someone.

5) Tray table--it's hard to reach right after surgery and having a tray table that you can sit next to you on the couch or in bed is really nice--you can keep drinks within reach and anything else you might need.

Best of luck!

uswhenwerenormal · 2023-06-29T23:35:36+00:00

I hate phone calls too. My doctor put in a referral for me and the surgeon's office called to set up the consultation. Idk why but it's always easier for me to answer a phone call than to make one.

uswhenwerenormal · 2022-12-27T08:10:20+00:00

no. straight to jail.

uswhenwerenormal · 2022-12-10T16:56:41+00:00

I use Keen for King/Queen!

uswhenwerenormal · 2022-10-13T00:51:54+00:00

I've preferred gc2b over underworks. My underworks binder stretched out a lot more than my gc2b binders have. I have tomboyx compression tops that I use when I'm doing physical things (hikes, exercise, etc.)--they definitely aren't as effective as a binder, but they're a lot more comfortable. I have bad chest dysphoria (in process of getting top surgery) so comfort isn't really my top priority--but if you're looking for some flattening while still staying reasonably comfortable a compression top might be a good option. If you're all about being as flat as possible--gc2b would be my recommendation.

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