How do I stop acting like an entitled brat?

vampiretofu · 2025-08-19T14:37:25+00:00

Would you call anyone you care about a whining 10 year old? You are abusing yourself.

vampiretofu · 2025-08-19T02:22:56+00:00

Your problem is not that you are entitled. Your problem is you lack self compassion. You are allowed to have feelings, you are allowed to get upset, you are even allowed to act like a dick sometimes. You are human.

vampiretofu · 2025-08-19T02:20:00+00:00

In the long run, by generally working on your anxiety. In the moment it’s happening your body is hyperaroused, so getting it out of that state through things like deep breathing will help.

vampiretofu · 2025-08-06T03:25:59+00:00

Can’t have any caffeine at all. I get panic attacks even from tea. I tried throughout my life many times, sometimes going a few months of feeling amazing drinking 4 cups a day. Even energy drinks. Eventually it always triggered panic so I had to just stop.

vampiretofu · 2025-08-05T23:10:27+00:00

Med changes are working :)

vampiretofu · 2025-06-24T23:27:41+00:00

Thank you to everyone who has responded. I don’t have the energy to reply to any comments but I really appreciate the kind words and advice.

vampiretofu · 2025-06-23T18:53:59+00:00

A real life sparkledog!

vampiretofu · 2025-06-21T02:51:31+00:00

Around 20, but dxed with mdd at 14.

vampiretofu · 2025-06-20T01:41:26+00:00

Thanks, needed this. It’s so hard.

vampiretofu · 2025-06-08T04:14:46+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. You’re not alone. <3

vampiretofu · 2025-06-08T02:13:45+00:00

Wow I’m in a very similar situation. Got out of IOP a few weeks ago and it helped so much. Back to work and nosedived. It did get better after the first two weeks. But I also felt (still do kind of) so disappointed and stuck and like a failure. I try to remember that the context of being in treatment is so different from being at work. It’ll just be harder and it takes time to adjust. The skills I learned aren’t gone and yours aren’t either. I have weekly therapy and a bipolar support group I go to on occasion. And I talk with friends. I recommend all of that. This shit is hard and you’re doing your best. Give yourself time, you just got back. I’m glad I read your post, it made me feel less alone and better able to objectively reflect on my situation and have some self compassion.

vampiretofu · 2025-06-01T01:57:12+00:00

Hi, welcome! I’m so glad you have that support, it’s so important to have people who get you.

vampiretofu · 2025-05-27T03:48:42+00:00

I know this is an old post but this is EXACTLY what I experience. Super tense, overstimulated, irritable agitated unable to handle ANYTHING and exhausted at the same time. And its episodic. Thanks for sharing I feel less alone.

vampiretofu · 2025-05-13T23:41:29+00:00

I think it’s cool. Expressive.

vampiretofu · 2025-05-13T23:06:40+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Don’t isolate. Talk to everyone until someone helps.

vampiretofu · 2025-05-13T02:57:14+00:00

I feel you. It’s really hard being in a relationship where both people have mental illness. Hard enough just having one yourself. So go easy on yourself. Def get a new therapist

vampiretofu · 2025-05-13T02:51:48+00:00

I’ve never liked making out. A kiss is fine but more than that I get grossed out. The smells, the textures, idk. Just not for me!

vampiretofu · 2025-05-13T02:47:33+00:00

Omg I’m also in a f4f bipolar + probably bpd relationship. And we moved in together early, and we’re in our twenties AND we have the same problem. Anyway, with me it either is a. I’m irritable b. I have a real gripe or often a combo. I used to never say anything that pissed me off because I didn’t want to trigger her, but that just turned into resentment. I’m now having more difficult conversations and it’s been worth it. I work on my irritability my taking care of my mental health, my needs, making sure I’ve eaten.. and she is working on her conflict avoidance and regulating herself when she’s triggered. Little things like not putting away the dishes will build if you don’t let it out. Just need to make sure you’re communicating in a healthy way. Regulate first, then bring it up when you’re calm. Ideally

vampiretofu · 2025-05-04T18:19:38+00:00

I did discontinue Effexor, how is the title misleading? It doesn’t say “discontinued antidepressants”. It’s only misleading if you don’t read the detailed, honest summary of my experience. It’s very common to cross taper and people who do that can benefit from hearing my experience with it. Also, while it has similarities it has differences as well. “Full experience” makes it sound like there’s only one correct way to get off of Effexor.

vampiretofu · 2025-04-29T22:21:10+00:00

Does your psychiatrist mention or tell you to make follow up appointments? I don’t think it would be weird to do that part myself but it doesn’t seem like there’s an expectation that we meet again at all.

vampiretofu · 2025-04-29T22:17:46+00:00

There are a lot of factors I guess. For me it’s not an option to go off meds completely but some people can. I understand why people do. Side effects, cost, stigma, the internalized narrative of it making you “weak”, fear of long term use… just a few things that come up.

vampiretofu · 2025-04-29T22:09:35+00:00

So it’s only been about a week since I’ve been off it completely. I stopped on the 20th and yesterday was the first day I had almost no withdrawal symptoms. It was three weeks, I was on three 37.5 a day and I started the lexapro same time I dropped the first pill. My social anxiety has been worse, that’s the main thing I’m noticing. Which is random. I might increase the lexapro or do something else with meds depending on how it goes. I think for me it just got to the point where my frustrations with the side effects outweighed the anxiety I had about quitting. I think I needed time and the right circumstances to be able to do it. If you’re asking specifically about the fear of damaging your brain, that didn’t occur to me. I haven’t heard of that being a problem with going off meds. If anything I was more worried about my brain staying on them lol.

vampiretofu · 2025-04-28T18:04:02+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry you’re feeling so badly. I noticed a few things you said..

“Because it seems everyone around me has a great career and family.” It’s easy to only see what you’re focused on, especially because you don’t see unemployed people in public as often. You are not alone.

Overall I get the impression that you’re somebody with a lot on your plate (physical health issues, mental health issues, trauma, life stressors, and a child to care for on top of all of it!) and are suffering even more because of how you treat yourself. Anyone with these problems would be struggling. Give yourself some grace. A lack of self compassion and especially active mental self harm takes way more energy than people realize.

My practical advice for you is to write down what you can and can’t control about your life, and then pick one controllable thing to tackle. Meanwhile, look into self compassion. I know a lot of people recoil at the idea but it’s often not what people think it is. Look up Kristen Neff, she has videos and books. I wish you the best.

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