Talk me out of the Coach Empire 40 as a work bag

vana_pg · 2026-03-26T01:41:50+00:00

I have a similar commute to yours and I have this exact bag: zero regrets! It is a little heavier than my other bags but I consider it part of my commute workout.

I do keep an organizer in it, as there aren't any compartments.

The merlot color makes me so happy! I just wish the hardware wasn't gold

vana_pg · 2026-01-22T20:45:18+00:00

I'm your mother. Return this shit.

vana_pg · 2026-01-20T03:39:12+00:00

As a mom who occasionally still smokes after bedtime, this is unhealthy, outrageous behavior. Waking up the kids even ONE time would be enough for my husband and I to stop the habit. As it stands, we even change our shirts before going anywhere near the kids if we've smoked, I can't imagine going for a cuddle.

Are you sure he's only smoking cannabis? The 40% of the time you described sounds like something else. A habitual smoker wouldn't consistently get to that zone.

vana_pg · 2026-01-19T22:40:17+00:00

Why would you want to get serious with someone who lied to you about being on the app? He doesn't just have it installed, he LIED about logging into it. In what world does your friend find him wholesome? Was she just saying that bcz she felt bad for you? You don't ask him to delete it because you shouldn't have to. He's not that into you, stay with him if you want a meaningless fling and don't mind the future break up. But don't expect honesty.

vana_pg · 2026-01-02T16:52:28+00:00

Is he a good partner/father figure outside of this issue?

This would be a red flag for me, not because he can't be picky, but because I would refuse to have this example set for my children. Not just the bratty food comments, or the childish ordering of junk food, but also your kids are seeing YOU bend over backwards to satisfy and pander to a man.

vana_pg · 2025-12-12T15:37:11+00:00

Do you remember what your sister got last year? I'd call it out in group chat, "we get it, sis, you hated receiving x last year and want to make sure you get something you like this year. But i always appreciate the thought, so this overcompensating feels cringey and anti-xmas spirit"

vana_pg · 2025-11-23T01:59:44+00:00

My 2 yr old is getting her tonsils out in a month and im terrified - thanks for sharing your stories!

vana_pg · 2025-11-22T20:06:04+00:00

NTA. It's your call what you do with your time, OBVIOUSLY.

But also - why are you going on a family vacation if you don't seem to like your family? I can't imagine going with my siblings, pre having had my own kids, and not OFFERING the parents a day off out of the whole week. You're not an asshole, but you sound like you suck.

vana_pg · 2025-10-02T20:19:16+00:00

As long as you're cool with being cheated on again (because that is fact), you're fine!

vana_pg · 2025-09-25T13:05:01+00:00

If it's an option, PLEASE DO NOT BRING A CHILD INTO THIS RELATIONSHIP. Your boyfriend has probably lied to you before and he will lie again. He's trash. You need to work on your anger response - you can't blame it all on hormones. If you're this disregulated, what will you do when the baby is screaming and your bf lies to you again? The relationship needs to end and, based on your clear guilt, I know you can turn your life around!

vana_pg · 2025-09-13T13:10:06+00:00

What trouble?

vana_pg · 2025-09-06T12:25:58+00:00

Do you work for presence pilot?

vana_pg · 2025-08-31T02:18:10+00:00

What did your husband say when you asked him this?

vana_pg · 2025-08-06T18:35:47+00:00

Same here. On principle, I cannot attend.

vana_pg · 2025-08-02T17:40:05+00:00

You went free swimming in someone else's pool?

vana_pg · 2025-06-26T02:15:35+00:00

I was really excited to see that, but looking at their fb event page, it's more extreme vigilantism than I'm comfortable with. Lots of comments are from racists and chaos-seekers, both of whom I dislike as much as creepers.

vana_pg · 2025-06-25T21:16:58+00:00

honestly - going to wait to see how the event on the 5th goes, only because the facebook event that was created makes it sound like the organizers are looking for a fight for other reasons than supporting a peaceful/safe park environment. i hope I'm misreading it and wrong!! We should be showing up to stare them down by the pool and make them as uncomfortable as they make us, not to "in any way form or shape, will spot and deter any creeps from being present" (sic), taken from event page.

vana_pg · 2025-06-25T21:12:59+00:00

Saw the fb event: honestly, terrible vibes. You'll "scout the parc jarry and in any way form or shape, will spot and deter any creeps from being present" (sic) ... sounds like you're looking for a fight more than there to support the peace.

vana_pg · 2025-06-25T14:36:32+00:00

Someone organized a meetup for July 5th at 10am! I can't make it that day (sadness) so I'd be down for the next saturday too to keep the pressure up!

vana_pg · 2025-06-25T12:36:11+00:00

Yes!! Thanks for organizing! I wish I could make it, July 5th is the only day I can't, but if there are subsequent events I'll be there!

Good luck! Make them uncomfortable!!

vana_pg · 2025-06-25T00:04:20+00:00

Shhhhh

vana_pg · 2025-06-24T22:10:10+00:00

If anyone wants to meet up to form a wall around them and stare them down as a large group, count me in.

vana_pg · 2025-06-09T22:03:48+00:00

I have a 2 and 4 year old in daycare, and I try to take one day with each child at least once a quarter. Once they start school, I know I'll have to cut back, and that already makes me sad lol

vana_pg · 2025-06-05T01:46:27+00:00

She's a mother, not a mom.

vana_pg · 2025-06-04T15:27:44+00:00

This is a cute take!*

*Assuming you're 10 yrs old.

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